RE: guys being that dumb: yes, yes we are.
6 months ago, a friend of mine came to my birthday, very obviously flirted with me, and has hung out with me almost every week since, usually more then once a week. These days, just about everything I do is either "sweet" or "cute." We've both admitted to being attracted to each other, while keeping such feelings carefully in the past tense. We're both planning on going into ministry and two nights ago she told me I should read a book about 2 ministers who are married and how that relationship effects their ministry. And there's still this voice in my head that says "well, she probably doesn't really like me that much." This voice, stupid though it may be, gets louder and more insistent as my physical proximity to said woman increases.