Topic: Please, Just Let Me Die Already (Read 275669 times)

Reed · « **Reply #1150 on:** 09 Jun 2009, 16:48 »

Hells yeah I am. I'm sneaky like that.

Dimmukane · « **Reply #1151 on:** 09 Jun 2009, 20:27 »

Update: so she did want to marry him but not hurt me somehow, but he decided to unpropose because of her and I and I don't think they're friends anymore. I am not sure what's going on because this has all happened in the last few hours. I don't know if he's angry at me, but she's hurt and is going to take a while to get over it. We will still be hanging out as friends in the meantime, and hopefully we can continue where we left off some weeks ago in the next few months.

Masterbainter · « **Reply #1152 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 01:17 »

I would of believed it better if you guys smoked crack with a monkey in the ending.

öde · « **Reply #1153 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 03:45 »

Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 08 Jun 2009, 23:11

How can I find places to go to meet--oh hell what's the point.

Wherever you live there will be groups dedicated to hobbies and causes that you can join in with. Volunteer for stuff! Do some education! Get a job!

The first step is the hardest because you can't see any ground there - but there is and you're not going to go anywhere without taking it. You might even end up back at point A again in which case, tough! keep trying.

Dimmukane · « **Reply #1154 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 06:09 »

Quote from: Masterbainter on 10 Jun 2009, 01:17

I would of believed it better if you guys smoked crack with a monkey in the ending.

I'm not making any of this up. I don't really need any help anymore, right now I need to rebuild my friendships with the two of them, if I can.

Jimor · « **Reply #1155 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 06:23 »

Seconding öde's advice. If you're really nervous about trying, I'd even suggest going to whatever for the first 2 or 3 times without the intention of meeting people. Just have fun with whatever the thing is. This way any interactions come naturally with the activity, and you're not worried about whether anything "happens" as you talk with somebody. Then as you get more comfortable with the overall situation over time, who knows?

On my own front...

When I went into the access station to help crew for their own music program, I found out that the singer I talked about earlier here was scheduled as a late addition. (They keep accidentally poaching my acts, lol, but that's all good, it's not a competition, and these artists deserve more exposure.)

What was cool was that she was pleasantly surprised to see me there, and since she already knew me, I was able to act as her anchor during the rather hectic process of setting up for the shoot, answering her questions, etc. All went well, she performed fabulously, and all the staff was massively impressed by her.

After we helped carry her equipment to her van, I stayed outside with her and we chatted standing there for a good 20 minutes. One of those nice "well, even though I do need to go soon... I'm still standing here" chats.

(she had a show to get to, I had to get back in for the 2nd taping of another act)

At one point she blurts out the question: "Are you married? Have any kids?" (no and no, not attached at all) She apologized for being so nosy, but I certainly didn't mind! Then it really was time we needed to go.

So the slow dance continues, but the situation is a bit clearer and the working part of the relationship will be out of the way fairly soon. In the meantime, some more opportunities to see what's what.

Barmymoo · « **Reply #1156 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 12:28 »

Guys, OKCupid is kind of cool but I'm feeling a bit weird about having joined it because I don't think I want to meet anyone off the internet (excepting you guys because I already know you). It feels like there's something odd about joining a site that is basically speed dating for the web.

tania · « **Reply #1157 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 13:17 »

Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 08 Jun 2009, 23:11

How can I find places to go to meet--oh hell what's the point.

i know i'm maybe the 500th person responding to this and that you're probably sick of advice that feels impossible from your standpoint by now, but if it helps at all just try to keep in mind when you feel frustrated with trying to meet people that statistically, successful people - in any area - always have far, far more failures than unsuccessful people, because it's all got to do not with the amount of times you fail at something but how you respond to it and learn from it. i am pretty introverted myself and i sometimes have a hard time meeting people because i'm neurotic and weird but man, sometimes you just have to push through the bad experiences to find the good ones. ask most people how they came to have their current awesome circle of friends or their current awesome significant other and i guarantee they'll have plenty of horror stories about friends or significant others that ended in heartbreak or cheating or massive differences between them and basically just did not work out in the slightest, and yet here they are today with people they are happy with.

Masterbainter · « **Reply #1158 on:** 10 Jun 2009, 23:57 »

Quote from: Barmymoo on 10 Jun 2009, 12:28

Guys, OKCupid is kind of cool but I'm feeling a bit weird about having joined it because I don't think I want to meet anyone off the internet (excepting you guys because I already know you). It feels like there's something odd about joining a site that is basically speed dating for the web.

I really hate to say this, But my current girlfriend of the past 6 months I met on facebook speeddate. But found out later we had quite a few mutual friends.

Lunchbox · « **Reply #1159 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 01:34 »

I have met quite a few very nice boys off OKcupid, one of them is my best friend now. One of them was also Gilead. So you win and you lose, I guess, but it's fun to play the game anyway.

Jimmy the Squid · « **Reply #1160 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 05:50 »

My girlfriend added me on MSN after seeing me in a members list of a forum that I joined three years previously, never made a post on and subsequently forgot I was a member of. I still don't post there but we're moving in together on Saturday so I guess it worked out ok! The internet is awesome.

allison · « **Reply #1161 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 05:54 »

I met a boy on Lavalife, which is an online dating site. Maybe it's only in Canada though? Anyway we dated for 6 months, he was my first love and he is still one of my best friends. The internet is a great place.

Eris · « **Reply #1162 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 06:03 »

I met my boyfriend through this forum!

the internet is tops.

pen · « **Reply #1163 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 08:47 »

Met my boyfriend on this forum, too! The internet can be amazing!

Also, I tried LavaLife before and only met really creepy people, so not ALL of the internet is wonderful, I guess.

J-cob9000 · « **Reply #1164 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 22:17 »

I enjoy being young and innocent. I get to experience things like handholding during movies and first kisses for the first time! It's all so exciting.
Not much else.

Ozymandias · « **Reply #1165 on:** 11 Jun 2009, 22:46 »

I met my BFF OMG through the internet.

But my gf through friends.

So both ways are good options!

Sox · « **Reply #1166 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 06:30 »

Through this forum, I have met...
...uhm
Tommy.
-FML

J-cob9000 · « **Reply #1167 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 11:13 »

Quote from: Sam on 12 Jun 2009, 06:24

Quote from: Midnight Umbreon on 11 Jun 2009, 22:17
I enjoy being young and innocent. I get to experience things like handholding during movies and first kisses for the first time! It's all so exciting.
Not much else.

you will most likely get very frustrated with this very quickly

I'll endeavor to enjoy it while I can.

Bibliophile · « **Reply #1168 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 18:45 »

I met my husband on LiveJournal. No, really.

ackblom12 · « **Reply #1169 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 18:47 »

I met my wife on AIM. Webcest for all!

Liz · « **Reply #1170 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 18:48 »

I met my webcest mates on the internet?

But I guess that is kind of the point...

Drill King · « **Reply #1171 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 20:32 »

DEar meebo I am so in love with my sister's boyfriend. Honestly, me and nmy sister aere pretty alike. Whatever the things that my sister and her boyfriend fight about are things I would gladly do(sex,e tcc)

This is a problem! I know he thinks I'm hot and really nice because we met before they did and he was really attracted to me and always says I'm really pretty and makes suggestive comments to me sometimes but he and my sister are super in love and like, this just sucks because even if they break up I cant ahve him and I want them to stay together ecause they're awesome together but I am soooo into him and he's so amazing and we're perfect for each other excpet for my sister but I want them to stay together

what do i do.

Tyler · « **Reply #1172 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 20:34 »

not a damn thing.

Drill King · « **Reply #1173 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 20:37 »

but i am so saaaaaaaad and it'll torment me forever

calenlass · « **Reply #1174 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 20:40 »

Tyler, I love you. Doesn't that count for anything?

Dimmukane · « **Reply #1175 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 20:49 »

Quote from: Drill King on 12 Jun 2009, 20:32

he was really attracted to me and always says I'm really pretty and makes suggestive comments to me sometimes but he and my sister are super in love and like, this just sucks because even if they break up I cant ahve him and I want them to stay together ecause they're awesome together but I am soooo into him and he's so amazing and we're perfect for each other excpet for my sister but I want them to stay together

Do a gender reversal and replace 'sister' with 'best friend' and this is my situation. They're getting married soon (that's right, it's back on again. The unmarriage was not because of the relationship we had, rather that he couldn't afford to get her out there and she was just really anxious and misread it)...oh well.

Lines · « **Reply #1176 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 21:08 »

Andy, find another boy.

Eris · « **Reply #1177 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 21:16 »

Quote from: Linds on 12 Jun 2009, 21:08

Andy, find another boy.

Tyler · « **Reply #1178 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 21:19 »

Quote from: calenlass on 12 Jun 2009, 20:40

Tyler, I love you. Doesn't that count for anything?

There will always be a place in my heart for you, Katie

michaelicious · « **Reply #1179 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 22:52 »

Quote from: Drill King on 12 Jun 2009, 20:32

what do i do.

Whatever you do, just make it look like an accident.

KvP · « **Reply #1180 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:10 »

Quote from: Linds on 12 Jun 2009, 21:08

Andy, get a dog.

supersheep · « **Reply #1181 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:27 »

What is the best way of getting over a crush that is definitely not going to go anywhere?

LittleKey · « **Reply #1182 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:33 »

By finding someone else. Not like that's very useful help, but it's true.

BrittanyMarie · « **Reply #1183 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:36 »

I was going to say "alcohol" but really that's the worst way.

supersheep · « **Reply #1184 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:38 »

I am currently in the middle of trying that... Not so good.

Reed · « **Reply #1185 on:** 12 Jun 2009, 23:38 »

So, I have this thing for a girl in my department, who also went out with us tonight. We spent a good portion of the night looking for some giuyu on allyn street who looked like Brett michaels, but I don't actually know that she likes me. How do I tell without making things very awkwards at word?

pwhodges · « **Reply #1186 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 00:50 »

Quote from: supersheep on 12 Jun 2009, 23:27

What is the best way of getting over a crush that is definitely not going to go anywhere?

Saying or doing something highly inappropriate and then dying of embarrassment and moving to another town can work.

axerton · « **Reply #1187 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 01:58 »

or you could just realise that chances are she's no where near as perfect as you currently think she is, if you really want to get over her, concerntrate on all the little things that you don't like about her (if you're honest with yourself there are a few, and you can find more)

snalin · « **Reply #1188 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 04:19 »

Quote from: Linds on 12 Jun 2009, 21:08

Andy, find a better boy.

Then you win no matter what.

NeverQuiteGoth · « **Reply #1189 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 05:02 »

Quote from: supersheep on 12 Jun 2009, 23:27

What is the best way of getting over a crush that is definitely not going to go anywhere?

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Quote from: axerton on 13 Jun 2009, 01:58

or you could just realise that chances are she's no where near as perfect as you currently think she is, if you really want to get over her, concerntrate on all the little things that you don't like about her (if you're honest with yourself there are a few, and you can find more)

This is often good advice, but many times it doesn't work because the only flaw you can find in the other person and fault them for, even after looking specifically for flaws, is that they don't return your feelings.

In this situation, there really isn't a way to get over it. Ever. It will haunt you for the rest of your life. The best thing you can do, is run. Get away from this person, avoid any and all contact, even mentally condition yourself to be afraid of her. Take your passion for her and redirect it into determination to completely vanish from her life and awareness, and to likewise do your best to never think about her. You will fight this battle with yourself for the rest of your life and must always be mindful, for if you ever suffer a moment of weakness, you will become something you don't want to be, and all you can do is pray that you don't know where to find her if that happens.

<.<

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What?

snalin · « **Reply #1190 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 05:24 »

I know how you can meet girls. Start playing blues at night clubs. You have a knack for the melancholy.

tania · « **Reply #1191 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 06:45 »

Quote from: Drill King on 12 Jun 2009, 20:32

what do i do.

sorry dude, but unrequited love is unrequited for a reason. as fun as crushes are, and who hasn't had them on their sibling's/friend's significant others at some point, you have to do the right thing and make yourself get over this guy some way or another. phil's tip on how focusing on little things you don't like about someone will help you get over them is very helpful in this scenario. another way is to just limit the amount of time you see or hang out with him completely, or force yourself to think about something else when you start to think about him. it feels really awful but unfortunately there is a lot of truth to the phrase "out of sight, out of mind".

the thing is (will this make me seem like a bad person?), getting over people is sometimes a lot easier than you'd think if you really work at it. it might feel like it'll haunt you for the rest of your life, and once in a while it does, but honestly in all of my past experiences where i (thought i) was completely in love with boys and couldn't live without them it was just my emotions going crazy and i was always able to eventually get myself to a point where i just didn't think about them anymore, and even when i did it was kind of in a "oh now that we've been apart a little while i guess i wasn't really as in love with you as i thought i was, maybe we didn't need to be together forever after all" kind of way. even if it sometimes doesn't seem that way, there's always other potential partners.

Tyler · « **Reply #1192 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 06:54 »

Quote from: Dire bacterium on 12 Jun 2009, 23:38

So, I have this thing for a girl in my department, who also went out with us tonight. We spent a good portion of the night looking for some giuyu on allyn street who looked like Brett michaels, but I don't actually know that she likes me. How do I tell without making things very awkwards at word?

Let me do it for you!

michaelicious · « **Reply #1193 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 07:09 »

Quote from: tania on 13 Jun 2009, 06:45

Quote from: Drill King on 12 Jun 2009, 20:32
what do i do.

sorry dude, but unrequited love is unrequited for a reason. as fun as crushes are, and who hasn't had them on their sibling's/friend's significant others at some point, you have to do the right thing and make yourself get over this guy some way or another. phil's tip on how focusing on little things you don't like about someone will help you get over them is very helpful in this scenario. another way is to just limit the amount of time you see or hang out with him completely, or force yourself to think about something else when you start to think about him. it feels really awful but unfortunately there is a lot of truth to the phrase "out of sight, out of mind".

the thing is (will this make me seem like a bad person?), getting over people is sometimes a lot easier than you'd think if you really work at it. it might feel like it'll haunt you for the rest of your life, and once in a while it does, but honestly in all of my past experiences where i (thought i) was completely in love with boys and couldn't live without them it was just my emotions going crazy and i was always able to eventually get myself to a point where i just didn't think about them anymore, and even when i did it was kind of in a "oh now that we've been apart a little while i guess i wasn't really as in love with you as i thought i was, maybe we didn't need to be together forever after all" kind of way. even if it sometimes doesn't seem that way, there's always other potential partners.

I bet he has a weird dick anyway.

Reed · « **Reply #1194 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 08:37 »

Thanks Tyler, I appreciate it.

KvP · « **Reply #1195 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 11:40 »

Quote from: michaelicious on 13 Jun 2009, 07:09

Quote from: tania on 13 Jun 2009, 06:45
Quote from: Drill King on 12 Jun 2009, 20:32
what do i do.

sorry dude, but unrequited love is unrequited for a reason. as fun as crushes are, and who hasn't had them on their sibling's/friend's significant others at some point, you have to do the right thing and make yourself get over this guy some way or another. phil's tip on how focusing on little things you don't like about someone will help you get over them is very helpful in this scenario. another way is to just limit the amount of time you see or hang out with him completely, or force yourself to think about something else when you start to think about him. it feels really awful but unfortunately there is a lot of truth to the phrase "out of sight, out of mind".

the thing is (will this make me seem like a bad person?), getting over people is sometimes a lot easier than you'd think if you really work at it. it might feel like it'll haunt you for the rest of your life, and once in a while it does, but honestly in all of my past experiences where i (thought i) was completely in love with boys and couldn't live without them it was just my emotions going crazy and i was always able to eventually get myself to a point where i just didn't think about them anymore, and even when i did it was kind of in a "oh now that we've been apart a little while i guess i wasn't really as in love with you as i thought i was, maybe we didn't need to be together forever after all" kind of way. even if it sometimes doesn't seem that way, there's always other potential partners.

I bet he has a weird dick anyway.

Andy likes weird things :\ who doesn't?

Zingoleb · « **Reply #1196 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 16:15 »

The guy with the weird dick. He's sick of the snickering by now.

Lines · « **Reply #1197 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 16:19 »

I don't think a weird dick would bother Andy, guys.

Tyler · « **Reply #1198 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 17:18 »

Tyler · « **Reply #1199 on:** 13 Jun 2009, 17:19 »

Get it?

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