Topic: resomolutions for a brand new dovey (Read 14927 times)

Professor Snuggles · « **Reply #50 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 15:24 »

Look I am not saying that I am walking bleary-eyed and bushy-haired into 2011 intending to attempt to fuck that wide a variety of bitches this year, I am just saying that if the only way for me to reach my goal of overall penile saturation is to attain heretofor unheard of levels of promiscuity, then like, hopefully I don't get herpes.

squawk · « **Reply #51 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 16:51 »

i didn't post in the resolution thread last year but i think the only one i made was "grow the fuck up"

i'm not sure that worked but i can confirm "at least a little bit"

upcoming year: be awesome, basically, and not just the kind of fake awesome where everyone thinks i'm awesome when i'm actually not at all. :/
(and do more drugs and drink more and smoke less and get straight A's and write more songs)

so yeah
still trying to grow the fuck up

Spluff · « **Reply #52 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 17:18 »

Quote from: Spluff on 30 Dec 2009, 04:35

1. get out of here
2. stay the course, chief

whoopsy deferral

Rizzo · « **Reply #53 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 17:58 »

I didn't make any resolutions last year... but I think I shall make some this year!

1. Get a sweet house with Jimmy in a few weeks time
2. Find an awesome, decent paying job and not settle for second best.
3. Travel to the US and hopefully Japan again for me and Liz's rollercoaster world tour.
4. Learn to do calculus again
5. Get back in mountain biking, lost at least 10kg and do the 100pushups and 200situps programs.

Thomas Edison · « **Reply #54 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 18:09 »

Quote from: Thomas Edison on 29 Dec 2009, 09:54

I want to lose my belly this year. Just put it down somewhere and forget where I leave it.

My resolution this year is the same as my resolution last year.

But my main resolution is have more adventures.

est · « **Reply #55 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 18:48 »

Better version of my resolutions:

- Be more positive & less judgemental.
- Finish writing a story. Any story. Pick one of your ideas and start writing.
- Run regularly with a goal of running home from work & completing the Bridge Run in September (9k)

Professor Snuggles · « **Reply #56 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 19:53 »

Okay so my other resolution for this year is to Build a fucking net gun

Jimmy the Squid · « **Reply #57 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 21:12 »

I guess that will make it easier to put your dick in many women.

Professor Snuggles · « **Reply #58 on:** 01 Jan 2011, 21:21 »

Dude rape isn't funny.

The Seldom Killer · « **Reply #59 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 00:05 »

I dunno, it got a chuckle out of me in Carl Hiassen's Native Tongue. Mind you, that scenario is rare enough to be the exception that proves the rule.

Inlander · « **Reply #60 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 00:08 »

I don't think I made any actual resolutions last time around, however at the start of 2010 I did make two somewhat rash declarations on Facebook which I guess is the new New Year's Resolution? They were that 2010 would be, in turn, the year of saving (money) and the year of getting serious about writing.

Let's see how that went.

1) Year of saving money:
- current bank balance: A$385
- predicted bank balance by next Wednesday: A$15.

Hmm. In my defence, there was one big mitigating circumstance: moving fucking house and deciding to live by myself. That shit's expensive! And it was forced on me, too. Not that I'm at all unhappy about how any of it turned out.

2) Year of getting serious about my writing:
- current state of writing: one 80,000 word manuscript near completion, and awaiting feedback from a literary agent; one other project which I've had on the go for a while which is hopefully nearing completion.

Okay so I haven't had anything published but 2010 wasn't necessarily about that. The main thing I achieved this year was to actually start applying myself: I started (and put aside for now) a manuscript mid-year, and I was writing around 3000 words a day on that. The first draft of manuscript I'm currently working on was written in two months at a rate of around 2000 words a day. I started treating writing like a proper job, with daily targets (which I always met!) and weekends off. I also got my name out there and met a bunch of people in the Melbourne literary scene and did some open-mic readings. So I'm going to call Year of Getting Serious About Writing an unqualified success.

This year's plan is to get a book - my third - published. Maybe even my fourth, as well, if everything goes according to plan.

johnny5 · « **Reply #61 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 01:41 »

lofty almost seemingly unobtainable goal for 2011:
1)buy a condo/house/living space of my own. i got a good steady job, about a year away from finishing my graduate studies, i just need to save. which for me is always hard. now's the time to buy i keep hearing.

less impossible goals:
1) get a girlfriend, i feel like i'm finally over The Girl. i'm not using drugs as a means to forget anymore, i'm not using excuses to be alone, etc.
2) finish community service hours, get the fuck off probation
3) record some goddamn songs, at least an EPs worth, that wouldn't get me booed if i ever played them live
4) finish paying off my car
5) no soda except when paired with alcohol? (maybe?)
6) find a really awesome avatar to use

Johnny C · « **Reply #62 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 02:40 »

harry reminded me just now – with his posting! – that i lied, and that i'm also resolving to whip my idiot self into financial shape this year. i've got a band that's going to cost more money than it makes for a long time and i need to start behaving like it.

Johnny C · « **Reply #63 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 02:41 »

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

5) no soda except when paired with alcohol? (maybe?)

get more mileage out of this by only mixing using diet & "zero" stuff

jwhouk · « **Reply #64 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 04:28 »

I made a New Year's resolution many years ago to stop making New Year's Resolutions.

Works so far.

calenlass · « **Reply #65 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 05:26 »

Quote from: Johnny C on 02 Jan 2011, 02:41

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41
5) no soda except when paired with alcohol? (maybe?)

get more mileage out of this by only mixing using diet & "zero" stuff

eeeewwww

Nodaisho · « **Reply #66 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 05:33 »

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

5) no soda except when paired with alcohol? (maybe?)

That shot of alcohol has about as many calories as a can of coke.

edit: or more. Depends on the alcohol. US "servings" of alcohol go off of the amount of ethanol, an amount which is over 100 calories. If you pour yourself a shot of something strong enough that it is more than one serving, that's going to be more calories. Get something with sugar as well as ethanol? Even more.

jhocking · « **Reply #67 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 05:54 »

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

lofty almost seemingly unobtainable goal for 2011:
1)buy a condo/house/living space of my own. i got a good steady job, about a year away from finishing my graduate studies, i just need to save. which for me is always hard. now's the time to buy i keep hearing.

I don't know your situation but I would probably put off thinking about buying a house until well after grad school, at least a couple years. Too much flux right now, to say nothing of how all your money is going to tuition right now.

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

4) finish paying off my car

So wait, you're planning to pay for grad school and a car and a mortgage all at the same time? Seriously, wait for at least one of the first two to be taken care of before thinking about the third.

johnny5 · « **Reply #68 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 11:14 »

Quote from: Nodaisho on 02 Jan 2011, 05:33

That shot of alcohol has about as many calories as a can of coke.

edit: or more. Depends on the alcohol. US "servings" of alcohol go off of the amount of ethanol, an amount which is over 100 calories. If you pour yourself a shot of something strong enough that it is more than one serving, that's going to be more calories. Get something with sugar as well as ethanol? Even more.

true, but my line of thinking is that i don't drink as much as i would drink soda in everyday situations. i could try the diet i suppose

Quote from: jhocking on 02 Jan 2011, 05:54

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41
lofty almost seemingly unobtainable goal for 2011:
1)buy a condo/house/living space of my own. i got a good steady job, about a year away from finishing my graduate studies, i just need to save. which for me is always hard. now's the time to buy i keep hearing.

I don't know your situation but I would probably put off thinking about buying a house until well after grad school, at least a couple years. Too much flux right now, to say nothing of how all your money is going to tuition right now.

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41
4) finish paying off my car

So wait, you're planning to pay for grad school and a car and a mortgage all at the same time? Seriously, wait for at least one of the first two to be taken care of before thinking about the third.

well, i owe only a little more than 3000 on the car. but you're right in some respects, i haven't even thought about how much i would have to start paying back per month for my student loans if i decide i'm finished. the upside is that i have a job in the field i'm studying in already, and i've been there a year and all signs point to it being steady for a while.

Drill King · « **Reply #69 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 11:19 »

I don't like rape jokes.

So I've been thinking about this a lot more in my post-drunkfuckedupohmygodIloveyouguys state yesterday. And I actually want to make a more serious list.

- Work on mental health issues. I have a lot of things in my past that I haven't dealt with very well, and I'm going to try and tackle them now that I have a good support system of friends to help.

- Become even more active with student/queer/anarcho/etc activism. My city has a lot of organized and personal activism stuff going on. I've gotten a lot more involved this year but I'd like to become even more active.

- GET WORK ON REAL MAN CALENDAR. This year I was involved in organizing and getting a grant for a 12 page full colour calendar focusing on the various forms of queer masculinities, ranging from cis-gendered straight men, to transmen, to genderqueer folks, etc. I was really excited about this but between scheduling and the fact we only got confirmation a month before the new year we had no time. But I want to get this out for next year as a fundraiser for TRANSaction.

- Make zines. Namely start more work on enthusiastic consent and gender zines. Start zine on my experience with an ED. Release last years unfinished things. Seriously this one.

- Sleep with less dinks. I need sex. Like, absolutely. I have probably slept with an odd 20ish people this year. To a point where when I go too long I make bad decisions on who to sleep with. This year I want to only sleep with people who a: deserve it b: will make me feel good c: don't make me feel panicked and disoriented.

- Have orgasms. This might seem trite and usual for folks but in relation to mental health issues this is a thing I am learning to do.

- find partner to practice this with. I really need a supportive sexual partner to try to get through some things so. Also would probably solve problem of sleeping with people I don't know 100%

-lose weight in a healthy way. Don't give in to old habits. Eat healthier.

- be a good student. Don't flunk out. Work hard. Become better. Make art.

- Be a better daughter and sister. On top of my step dad's cancer my mom is going through tests for a condition she has had her whole life that could be quite serious now. With my sister on the west coast, I really want to make sure my family stays close because I love them and need to stop being a selfish jerk.

I feel really good about this year, like, really really good. I have always had tragic and/or terrible new years eves and I had a wonderful one this year because I feel like more and more I am finding a place in the world and figuring out who I am, so I feel like I can really change some major bad habits. Awful New Years Evee Curse: Broken. Now just gotta get the rest of 'em.

David_Dovey · « **Reply #70 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 11:44 »

Quote from: Drill King on 02 Jan 2011, 11:19

- Sleep with less dinks.

I'm not sure why you were sleeping with Double-Income No Kids couples that often in the first place. Like, how do you get the opportunity to do that very often?

WHAT SOCIAL EVENTS ARE YOU FREQUENTING

tania · « **Reply #71 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 11:51 »

Quote from: Drill King on 02 Jan 2011, 11:19

- Have orgasms. This might seem trite and usual for folks but in relation to mental health issues this is a thing I am learning to do.

at the risk of turning this into a TMI thread or sounding deliberately immature and obscene, i really sucked at uh... having fun with myself for a really long time and never actually started doing it on a semi regular basis until i was like, 21. i feel pretty confident this is related to a lot of the other positive changes i have made in my life in recent years as well and in hindsight, having spent so much of my teenage and young adult life being completely afraid of this act now feels really silly and pathetic cos it's dumb to feel bad about orgasms, orgasms are fun and they make you feel really good about yourself! basically i really like this resolution.

2011: year of orgasms

Tom · « **Reply #72 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:05 »

I don't mean to pry (yeah I do), but how does one come to fear orgasming?

David_Dovey · « **Reply #73 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:11 »

Hey Tania can you change the name of this thread to "resomolutions" seeing as that's how I've been reading it this whole time anyway

tania · « **Reply #74 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:19 »

Quote from: Tom on 02 Jan 2011, 12:05

I don't mean to pry (yeah I do), but how does one come to fear orgasming?

i'm not sure why exactly but i think the main causes were that i never had any sort of proper sex talk from my parents at all, in any form, when i was growing up and they were always really weird and immature and embarrassed about sex stuff, and in middle and high school i felt really painfully unattractive and awkward and unliked (like a lot of people i guess). thus for whatever reason i just... never masturbated or had any orgasms at all. the funny thing about sex stuff is that once you feel weird about something, it gets increasingly harder and harder to not feel super weird about it, i guess because it becomes a bit of a comfort zone of sorts, and subsequently it isn't until you finally push your boundaries and just do it that you realize how dumb being embarrassed about something that is really fun and feels good is. my example is a bit of an extreme one, but maybe it's similar to the hangups that other people have as well.

David_Dovey · « **Reply #75 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:21 »

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Re: resomolutions for a brand new dovey

Yesssssss

Drill King · « **Reply #76 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:34 »

Quote from: Tom on 02 Jan 2011, 12:05

I don't mean to pry (yeah I do), but how does one come to fear orgasming?

It is kind of a big emotional deal long story time that I am not prepared to type up this soon after so little sleep.

Patrick · « **Reply #77 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:36 »

Quote from: Johnny C on 02 Jan 2011, 02:40

harry reminded me just now – with his posting! – that i lied, and that i'm also resolving to whip my idiot self into financial shape this year. i've got a band that's going to cost more money than it makes for a long time and i need to start behaving like it.

It is pretty easy to do this when you negotiate your way into free drinks, I've found.

Now I spend zero money on drinks, where it used to be like $15 for three beers.

I AM SO CLEVER I AM SAVING SO MUCH

tania · « **Reply #78 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 12:41 »

me and my friend befriended and got drunk with the bartender at the university pub during the first week before classes (we bought him like, six shots) and now every time he sees us come in, he happily remembers us and give us huge discounts on our drinks. short term expense for long term savings!

JD · « **Reply #79 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 14:31 »

Quote from: Zombiedude on 29 Dec 2009, 22:28

get better at drawing

get a job

get a drivers license

Yes!
Not really!
No!

Resolutions for '11
jorb
drivers license
finish graphic novel thingy
graduate
punch a bear in the face

JD · « **Reply #80 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 14:38 »

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

6) find a really awesome avatar to use

Man I have like a bazillion of these since I get bored so easily.

Blue Kitty · « **Reply #81 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 14:41 »

Quote from: johnny5 on 02 Jan 2011, 01:41

6) find a really awesome avatar to use

I could probably hook you up with one. I have over 32 pages on my imageshack, there's bound to be an image you will find awesome and personifies you as a person.

FUCK YOU ZOMBIE, I JUST FOUND LITTLE RED AKU AND WAS ABOUT TO USE IT

Also I guess be nicer to my sister, even though she stole from me, makes poor decisions, and generally ignores her daughter.

pwhodges · « **Reply #82 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 14:46 »

But I approve of you using Wayne's cats instead

Have some more.

JD · « **Reply #83 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 16:51 »

Quote from: Blue Kitty on 02 Jan 2011, 14:41

FUCK YOU ZOMBIE, I JUST FOUND LITTLE RED AKU AND WAS ABOUT TO USE IT

haw haw haw

Graphite · « **Reply #84 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 18:25 »

Quote from: Drill King on 02 Jan 2011, 11:19

- GET WORK ON REAL MAN CALENDAR. This year I was involved in organizing and getting a grant for a 12 page full colour calendar focusing on the various forms of queer masculinities, ranging from cis-gendered straight men, to transmen, to genderqueer folks, etc. I was really excited about this but between scheduling and the fact we only got confirmation a month before the new year we had no time. But I want to get this out for next year as a fundraiser for TRANSaction.

I would so buy this. Please shamelessly advertise it when it's done.
Also, I too do not like rape jokes. I should not have looked into the horribly offensive pickup line thread.

tania · « **Reply #85 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 18:37 »

everyone's got their own preferences but if it helps to redeem some of the members of this board in your eyes, making jokes about offensive subjects doesn't necessarily make that person an advocate of those terrible things - rather it's used by a lot of people (including me, pretty much near constantly and often with mixed reactions) as a method of disarming and rendering harmless the things that often upset or scare people the most. the world is a pretty horrific place in every single conceivable way like basically all of the time but frankly, it's a lot more fun to laugh once in a while than to just be angry and miserable forever.

Inlander · « **Reply #86 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 18:59 »

But being angry and miserable makes me feel morally superior!

Blue Kitty · « **Reply #87 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 19:06 »

Quote from: Zombiedude on 02 Jan 2011, 16:51

Quote from: Blue Kitty on 02 Jan 2011, 14:41
FUCK YOU ZOMBIE, I JUST FOUND LITTLE RED AKU AND WAS ABOUT TO USE IT

haw haw haw

Oh god I heard it in his voice

Drill King · « **Reply #88 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 19:11 »

Making jokes about certain subjects doesn't disarm or render them harmless, it just trivializes and renders someone's struggle as a joke. I know on the internet that is sort of silly to say but for example as a person who has been sexually assaulted when I see people make jokes about rape, I don't laugh. I currently can hold back getting really angry about it, but a few months ago, shortly after being raped, I couldn't hold myself in, and every time someone made a joke about getting a girl drunk or 'surprise sex', I had to relive that moment.

I think about being raped, or a people I know who have recently been through sexual abuse because honestly I can't hear the word rape without thinking about it, and honestly, that is a fact of life that I have to deal with, especially given that I talk about consent and rape all the time. But when someone makes a joke about it, no they're not saying that rape is okay, but they're supporting rape culture, and potentially saying something that's really triggering for someone.

When you make a joke about rape you have no idea if a person has been through a sexual assault, who is around, whether they've come to terms with it, how by making a joke you're potentially further making them attempt to trivialize their emotions because it's easier. It can be extremely triggering to think about those sorts of topics if you've recently experienced them, but since it's a 'joke' you're not allowed to be hurt. So you swallow it. Making a joke out of rape takes away the seriousness and when we live in a society where rape is only serious if it's violent, male on female, she wasn't drunk, she wasn't wearing any 'slutty' clothing, and it was a stranger, I don't think that's okay. I don't think it's fair of anyone to attempt to disarm a topic, because it shouldn't be disarmed. It shouldn't be rendered harmless, because it's not.

It should be scary, it should be serious. It is not anyone's place to devalue the fear and pain that people go through, just for the sake of a cheap laugh. Find something else to make a joke about.

schimmy · « **Reply #89 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 19:16 »

tania · « **Reply #90 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 19:31 »

on the contrary, comedians often use black comedy and make light of serious subjects as a way of exploring those taboo subject areas and provoking serious thought and discussion in their audience, which is usually a step up from those topics not being discussed or brought up in the mainstream at all in the first place. as an example, i read in the news here a couple of weeks ago about a show here in the city being organized that would feature women who formerly worked in the sex trade performing stand-up comedy that would reflect their experiences in the industry as a way of both opening up about their (often traumatic) experiences in a friendly, lighthearted environment and also drawing attention to the more serious issues surrounding the sex trade which lie at the root of the whole thing. not everyone who tries to a sense of humour is a bad person, and you miss a lot of extremely important gray area by assuming that if you try to find humour in anything you obviously must be hurting someone else. it's a really powerful tool in a lot of ways, and like everything it just depends how you use it. personally, i know for a fact that i try to have a sense of humour about some bad things on a frequent basis mainly because i plan on working in an immensely upsetting environment in the future and having a sense of humour makes me feel more comfortable and prepared whenever i need to discuss those things in a more serious context, and in all honesty i wouldn't even waste a single minute of my time trying to defend myself to a person who tried to use my sense of humour to accuse me of not taking those things seriously because not only would they be wrong, they couldn't possibly be more wrong about anything.

2 cents

Inlander · « **Reply #91 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 19:35 »

I think there's a clear difference, though, between joking about rape in the context of a comedy show, in which ideas and themes can be played out over time, explored in depth, and developed in full, and just tossing off a one-liner with "rape!" as a shock-punchline.

Graphite · « **Reply #92 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 20:04 »

There's also a difference because within that comedy show, the performers are speaking about and working through their own experiences, and are more likely to have given at least a cursory degree of thought to the way the humour will sound to other people who've had those experiences. In contrast, a lot of the time someone will just toss off a one-liner with rape as a punchline for the sole reason that they think it makes them sound edgy.
There are ways to do these jokes well, or to find humour in dark situations - amongst friends who know each other's comfort levels, or the way Harry described, within a broader frame that makes it clear where your empathy lies, where you can be making jokes with an obnvious tone of, "Sucks that the world is like this", or when working through your own stuff (see the lyrics for Amanda Palmer's Oasis, for example, where the wryness of the humour is built on a young girl's sense of priorities and the way she chooses not to deal with what she's been through, instead focusing on youthful friendships and her excitement about a signed photo from a band she likes). It's just that that isn't usually how they're done, especially not on the internet.

Drill King, based on your writings I am guessing this is a thing you have come across before, but I'll just leave it here anyway.

McTaggart · « **Reply #93 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 20:34 »

Quote from: Drill King on 02 Jan 2011, 11:19

cis-gendered

is this a chemistry joke

Blue Kitty · « **Reply #94 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:08 »

I was wondering the exact same thing, freaking bio chem.

Graphite · « **Reply #95 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:16 »

Nah it is this. The origin has links to the chemistry concept though.

Lines · « **Reply #96 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:22 »

Well you learn something new everyday! I'm surprised I haven't heard that term before.

johnny5 · « **Reply #97 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:31 »

can someone explain it in layman terms? for some reason i'm reading the wiki over and over but not able to understand what it means exactly

Lines · « **Reply #98 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:35 »

Ok. I was born female. I am perfectly comfortable with being a female and it is my gender. I am cisgender.

Graphite · « **Reply #99 on:** 02 Jan 2011, 21:41 »

Basically ^. When your body's identified sex upon birth matches your mind's gender and there is no contradiction. The opposite of transgendered. The term was basically invented because people realised that there was no proper word to describe being non-trans, and it would be kind of shit if the opposite of trans were "normal" or something like that.

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