I read this one book about Dr. Seuss, and there was a little quote I was reminded of when discussing the half-empty/half-full debate (I can't remember the exact phrasing of the first half): "They say that you can look at a glass as half-empty or half-full, but the Grinch would say it doesn't matter, because the drink is probably poisoned."
In Marten's case, we have him seeing the glass as both, and he's almost imploding from the idea of it. But then again, it doesn't matter whether the glass is half-empty or half-full because it'll still make him mope.
(I kid; I kid. But think about it--even if he sees it as a good thing that he had sex with her, then he could totally mope because he won't be able to again after she leaves. .....
Okay, I'm in one of those silly moods today. ^.^;;; Carry on.)
In all seriousness, I get where Marten is coming from--I would probably be the same way in his situation. But honestly? If I'm concerned about something, I worry on my own time and don't bother people with it. The only times when I do otherwise are when I feel obligated to tell someone (which consist of me worrying so much that it's becoming unhealthy or that it relates to them and they have a right to know that I'm worried). I'm not saying Marten should do the same, but asking people for opinions on how to feel is getting him nowhere. He should have fun with his friends, and if he's that dadgum worried, then he can go home and think about it instead of making his friends worry about him when he's fretting over something he can't control or know anything about until the next day. And if that's too much, then he can just go see Dr. Corinne. There are options for him. Why make all of your conversations about something you have no definite information on?
Example: If I were to spend all my time talking to people about how I want to move off campus with someone in the future but don't know if I'll still want to be around that person by that point and have no idea because it totally takes money and I don't know whether I should save up for it or not and I don't know if I need to start putting in applications or not and blah
blah BLAH.
Nobody wants to hear about my uncertainties regarding it because I won't know about the situation for a given period of time, and no matter how long I consider the situation, I won't be able to know what decision I can make until closer to time because I simply don't have the information for it. When you don't have all the information regarding something, you can only talk about it to a certain extent. He needs to just get his mind off things and focus on something else until he calls her the next day. It's really simple but can be kinda hard.
You can hash out the topic all you like, but it won't change the current facts. 1. He is attracted to her. 2. They had sex. 3. She is moving away soon. That's it. Everything else regarding the two of them is questionable. Opinions and possibilities are hanging in the balance. He just has to wait it out. And I know from experience that waiting while you complain about the situation makes the waiting feel so much longer. If his friends understand, then they'll take him out to go do something fun to get his mind off it. That's all he can do right now. Unless he wants to worry out loud some more. >_>
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