how do you hang out with someone 10 years younger than you and is still in freakin' middle school without it feeling like babysitting?
Talk to them like a human being! I have no idea what middle school is but I have friends who are 10, friends who are 14, friends who are 8 even. Obviously the topics of conversation are a little different - no point talking about my dissertation to kids who don't really understand what university even is, and certainly I wouldn't discuss sex with a kid (although I did once talk about sex to the 12 year old I was taking care of, but naturally I made it age-appropriate and it was in response to her questions). Remember that kids are people too, treat them like you'd treat any adult but just avoid conversation topics you wouldn't bring up with, for instance, your grandmother or a friendly old man in the bus queue.
What I'm getting at is that siblings show up out of the friggin' woodwork, man.
True dat. So true.
I do try! But it's seriously just really awkward for both of us. And ethnocentric me forgot about non-Americans there--sorry! Middle school is typically 6th-8th grade, also known as junior high school, and consists of 11-13-year-olds...ish. What happened with the kid the other day was just mostly trying to figure out what to
do. Um, video game? How about this one now? And now this movie that isn't terribly interesting and kinda rips off the new Muppets movie but you brought it so we feel obligated to sit through it? We try talking to him, but he's not terribly bright. :/ I don't mean that he should understand college-level stuff or anything, but we try to teach him card games, and he's lost. He seems kinda...clueless. So it's hard to talk about stuff he should know without it feeling like we're talking down to him. He's also kind of a perv and makes jokes about sexual stuff I hadn't even
heard of until a couple of years ago.
I love being around kids and such and can talk to anyone of any age most of the time, now that I think about it (forgot about all the little volunteers I mentor at the library), but for some reason, hanging around this kid is just
awkward. I can entertain kids 10 and under and mentor kids 13 and up. But 11 and 12? They're always in just that weird state where I have no idea what to say. :/
how do you hang out with someone 10 years younger than you and is still in freakin' middle school without it feeling like babysitting?
Talk to them like a human being! I have no idea what middle school is but I have friends who are 10, friends who are 14, friends who are 8 even. Obviously the topics of conversation are a little different - no point talking about my dissertation to kids who don't really understand what university even is, and certainly I wouldn't discuss sex with a kid (although I did once talk about sex to the 12 year old I was taking care of, but naturally I made it age-appropriate and it was in response to her questions). Remember that kids are people too, treat them like you'd treat any adult but just avoid conversation topics you wouldn't bring up with, for instance, your grandmother or a friendly old man in the bus queue.
This reminds me that one of my better friends is my best friend's dad. He's one hell of a cool guy and we talk a lot.
I used to love to talk to people's parents and even teachers!!
I guess I got more self-conscious, because now I'm always paranoid that they're judging me. @_@