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[Cornelius]

Just noticed there wasn't a WCDT up yet, so here you go.

[Farideh]

True, I forgot about making one.

Just noticed that Clinton's shirt matches his eyes.

[Mr_Rose]

Oh, Willow.
Yup, she’s definitely one of them now…

[Farideh]

I'm kinda in Claire's camp here, but more along the lines of 'who is this weirdo and why is she talking to me?' (which is what I think will happen if I start talking to random people. I admire Willow's confidence here).

[John Allenson]

IN regards to 4756...
I like the accurate assessment bit.

I feel sorry for both the siblings that it's reached a point where one will actively avoid spaces just due to the other one being present.

[badbum61]

Dammit, Claire, now you've broken Willow...

[Gyrre]

Especially since so msny folks can't seem to differentiate between banter and flirting.

[hedgie]

One of those very subjective things that leads to unending "hilarity".  I've been seen as flirting just for having what passes for me as normal conversation, and at least one former gf has had the same problem, with all the attendant misunderstandings that can result, to both our chagrin.  I think that we settled on the term "unintentional flirting" when it happened.

[BenRG]

Innocent and oblivious to how people react to her being a pushy kind of nice. Yes, that's Willow and I think that she's going to get on with her spirit-sister Claire quite well.

[DaiJB]

Aw, Willow's just too innocent for that to occur to her...

[traroth]

Innocence destroyed. Thank you Claire...

[snubnose]

...

I dont understand.

Why its bad when people think you're hitting on them when you dont ? They sooner or later would figure out you dont - right ?

Cant just stop conversation because heavens forbid sometimes there is a miscommunication. Thats not the end of the world. Right ?

Right ?

So ... I dont understand todays comic. Sorry.

[Farideh]

Miscommunication isn't the end of the world, no. But women are still being told that they should be careful, and not lead men on, and if men get the wrong impression then it's All The Woman's Fault And She Had It Coming. Accidental flirting can lead to dangerous situations, and at the very least it can make either party feel very uncomfortable.

[traroth]

...

I dont understand.

Why its bad when people think you're hitting on them when you dont ? They sooner or later would figure out you dont - right ?

Cant just stop conversation because heavens forbid sometimes there is a miscommunication. Thats not the end of the world. Right ?

Right ?

So ... I dont understand todays comic. Sorry.

I agree. One can't just censor oneself because of possible misunderstanding. Willow was better of without that on mind.

[oddtail]

Miscommunication isn't the end of the world, no. But women are still being told that they should be careful, and not lead men on, and if men get the wrong impression then it's All The Woman's Fault And She Had It Coming. Accidental flirting can lead to dangerous situations, and at the very least it can make either party feel very uncomfortable.

To expand on the "very uncomfortable" part, hitting on someone is much more intrusive, potentially, than a random conversation. A lot of women are "flirted" with a lot, often to the point of harassment, and are not likely to exactly jump for joy when someone initiates an interaction that reads as an attempt at flirting.

Men, in my experience, seem to be oblivious to how tiresome and stressful this is to many women, even when the men in question are not themselves creeps or anything. They tend to have no idea of the sheer volume of unwanted advances women receive, and are sceptical even when told straight up it can be an issue.

EDIT: also, hitting on someone, unlike random spontaneous friendliness, tends to come with unstated goals or expectations attached. Which in itself is intimidating, because a subset of men large enough to be a problem feel entitled to, and react negatively to not getting, what they want (even if "what they want" is just something theoretically innocuous like attention).

[Wingy]

Poor Willow, now she's gonna be all needy with everyone for a while.  OTOH, if this helps straighten our Iris, maybe that's a good thing.

[Nepiophage]

I love the way Willow’s head gets bigger in the last three panels.

[Gnabberwocky]

For me, it's eye contact. Any time I make eye contact while speaking, I get the bizarre impression that I've just told the other person that what I'm really looking for is not a generic, friendly conversation about the local sports team but a long-term soul mate relationship with nineteen children and an extravagant public wedding. I have rationally explained to myself that this is of course not the case, which helps about as much as you'd expect.

[shanejayell]

Poor Willow. Heh!

[hedgie]

I agree. One can't just censor oneself because of possible misunderstanding. Willow was better of without that on mind.

Perhaps not self-censoring, but at least trying (as much as able to, I know that there are plenty of non-verbal cues that people have trouble reading) to me mindful of how others are likely to perceive something.

[Farideh]

For me, it's eye contact. Any time I make eye contact while speaking, I get the bizarre impression that I've just told the other person that what I'm really looking for is not a generic, friendly conversation about the local sports team but a long-term soul mate relationship with nineteen children and an extravagant public wedding. I have rationally explained to myself that this is of course not the case, which helps about as much as you'd expect.

Eye contact is such a weird thing. Years ago, for work, I was in a photo shoot of sorts with a colleague of mine (this was for pictures for a 'come work for us' website). One of the pictures was us standing at a whiteboard, looking at each other while making it seem like we were discussing something. Due to it being a photo shoot and things taking a while, we ended up looking into each other's eyes for several minutes. At the end I felt very uncomfortable, like I should either attack my colleague, or jump his bones (I did neither, in case anyone was wondering. I think I just went to get some coffee or something).

[_Islanio]

New comic. I foresee some awkward flashbacks of her recent past. At least in her head.

[shanejayell]

Yup. And Claire is just going 'Why didn't I just stay quiet?'

[Scarlet Manuka]

I dont understand.
Why its bad when people think you're hitting on them when you dont ? They sooner or later would figure out you dont - right ?

One factor in my daughter's severe anxiety issues, necessitating a change of schools, was that part of her friend group started accusing her of flirting with other kids when she was in fact only trying to be friendly, and subsequently started spreading rumours about her to the point that it destroyed all her friendships there. So yes, it can be harmful.

[Farideh]

True, Claire. The only reason to send a genitalia picture is when the recipient specifically asks for one.


@Scarlet Manuka: how is your daughter now? I hope she's feeling better.

[Gyrre]

...

I dont understand.

Why its bad when people think you're hitting on them when you dont ? They sooner or later would figure out you dont - right ?

Cant just stop conversation because heavens forbid sometimes there is a miscommunication. Thats not the end of the world. Right ?

Right ?

So ... I dont understand todays comic. Sorry.

Unfortunately, some people never figure it out. Some of these people also get weirdly possessive of the person they think was flirting with them (I've watched it happen to friends). And some of thrm get stalkery.

[TV4Fun]

I dont understand.
Why its bad when people think you're hitting on them when you dont ? They sooner or later would figure out you dont - right ?

One factor in my daughter's severe anxiety issues, necessitating a change of schools, was that part of her friend group started accusing her of flirting with other kids when she was in fact only trying to be friendly, and subsequently started spreading rumours about her to the point that it destroyed all her friendships there. So yes, it can be harmful.

Sounds more like her "friend" group looking for a reason to torment her.

[BenRG]

I honestly think that Willow should only be worried if any of her 'friends' are reacting as if she's ghosting them after asking them on a date. If this is happening, then she need to start drafting an apology of some kind.

[snubnose]

Miscommunication isn't the end of the world, no. But women are still being told that they should be careful, and not lead men on, and if men get the wrong impression then it's All The Woman's Fault And She Had It Coming. Accidental flirting can lead to dangerous situations, and at the very least it can make either party feel very uncomfortable.

... oh !

Well I guess as a man I never had to worry about this kind of problem.

Thanks for explaining.

[baronvonfritz]

Just my personal opinion, genital pictures should never be sent to anyone under any circumstances, even if specifically requested.  Too many stories of revenge porn, leaked icloud accounts, stolen pics, accidental posts, etc.

Just audition your parts in person, keeps up the mystique of it all.

[shanejayell]

New Comic.

Willow shrugged that off fast....

[St.Clair]

Claire's going to be: "Wait, you don't endlessly obsess about everything? ... what's that like?"

[BenRG]

Willow shrugged that off fast....

Agreed; that was too easy. There has got to be some kind of unexpected twist. Either someone who didn't realise that Willow was just over-friendly or someone she was flirting with seriously and she's now afraid never got the point because she acts that way to everyone.

[traroth]

I like Willow.

[Farideh]

I think Willow getting over it that quickly was the twist.

[DaiJB]

I do believe Jeph is introducing something utterly unprecedented for Questionable Content - a character who is actually...well-balanced!   

(Alternatively, Willow is so shallow that she has no deep or lasting emotional responses at all...  )

But seriously, I echo this sentiment:

I like Willow.

[Thrillho]

Flirting is a really interesting concept.

I kind of flirt with everyone, on some level? But I have tried to consciously dial that down since becoming more feminist a while ago. But then you can flirt in a non-threatening way, but then how can you guarantee that that's what you're doing?

I tend to be very well-liked by older women - or more specifically, mums - and some of that is definitely because I kind of gently flirt with them, but who knows.

One of my partners, on the other hand, is accused of flirting with everyone all the time, but is more accurately 'Irish.'

[oddtail]

Flirting is a really interesting concept.

I kind of flirt with everyone, on some level? But I have tried to consciously dial that down since becoming more feminist a while ago. But then you can flirt in a non-threatening way, but then how can you guarantee that that's what you're doing?

I tend to be very well-liked by older women - or more specifically, mums - and some of that is definitely because I kind of gently flirt with them, but who knows.

One of my partners, on the other hand, is accused of flirting with everyone all the time, but is more accurately 'Irish.'

I honestly don't even know what constitutes flirting. Other than anything with the subtlety of a sledgehammer.

As in, it's not just that I don't notice subtle flirting. I literally couldn't describe subtle flirting conceptually. Like, when I was writing a novel or something.

The concept is very confusing to me. As many social things, I chalk it up to being maybe autistic.

[_Islanio]

New comic. Emily would probably make things go supercritical. I mean literally, with plutonium and everything.

[DaiJB]

Dork energy   

Careful Dora, Claire's puns are rubbing off on you already.

[shanejayell]

*lol* Awww.

[de_la_Nae]

like I should either attack my colleague,

*wistfully* ah, but think of how things might have been....   

[Gyrre]

Flirting is a really interesting concept.

I kind of flirt with everyone, on some level? But I have tried to consciously dial that down since becoming more feminist a while ago. But then you can flirt in a non-threatening way, but then how can you guarantee that that's what you're doing?

I tend to be very well-liked by older women - or more specifically, mums - and some of that is definitely because I kind of gently flirt with them, but who knows.

One of my partners, on the other hand, is accused of flirting with everyone all the time, but is more accurately 'Irish.'

I honestly don't even know what constitutes flirting. Other than anything with the subtlety of a sledgehammer.

As in, it's not just that I don't notice subtle flirting. I literally couldn't describe subtle flirting conceptually. Like, when I was writing a novel or something.

The concept is very confusing to me. As many social things, I chalk it up to being maybe autistic.

Oof. Same.

[hedgie]

honestly don't even know what constitutes flirting. Other than anything with the subtlety of a sledgehammer.

Yet another reason I'm probably a Discworld troll.  I'm large, lumbering, my brain shuts down when it gets too warm, and a large rock hitting me in the head is analogous to a blown kiss.

[Farideh]

So no oogra for you then?

[_Islanio]

Kinda unrelated, but I kinda miss the good old days when they would gather up for some booze.

[hedgie]

So no oogra for you then?

Not on a first date.

[Perfectly Reasonable]

Panel 1 Dora is clearly about to say 'But...'.
Jeph expresses this so perfectly.