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Patatat:
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--- Quote from: Patatat on 27 Jun 2007, 17:34 ---Yeah, my in-ability to keep it in my pants is the problem. So explain how do I control myself.
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Suck it up and stop fucking people. I don't see where that becomes complicated. If you get drunk and fuck indiscriminately, stop drinking. If you're hanging out with sluts and can't control yourself around them, stop hanging around with them. I hope to Hell you're being completely and utterly sarcastic in this request, because I can't understand how it can be that difficult to choose choose not to be promiscuous. If you're having a legitimate problem with this and can't reign it in under your own willpower, see a therapist.
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I don't even know why you took me serious for a second.
Patatat:
Eh, getting drunk and screwing random girls (or boys) eventually loses its fun. I never considered it problem. I just read a bunch of people talking about their inability to get women, I was curious what advice would be given to a philanderer.
I mean even though I don't go a party and try to get drunk, and sleep with some girl. I still have a reputation as a drunken man whore. I guess that is the price one pays for having a lil' too much fun.
I am moving to Chicago soon, so it should be a nice new fresh start.
Patatat:
They have a roller derby league, haha thats awesome.
SeanBateman:
--- Quote from: Patatat on 29 Jun 2007, 06:54 ---Eh, getting drunk and screwing random girls (or boys) eventually loses its fun. I never considered it problem. I just read a bunch of people talking about their inability to get women, I was curious what advice would be given to a philanderer.
I mean even though I don't go a party and try to get drunk, and sleep with some girl. I still have a reputation as a drunken man whore. I guess that is the price one pays for having a lil' too much fun.
I am moving to Chicago soon, so it should be a nice new fresh start.
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I used to have pretty much the same problem, actually. Pretty much all of my friends from back then are still completely shocked when I tell them I've had a girlfriend for over a year, and a lot of the girls are still hesitant to hang out with me 1 on 1 if I ask them, since they assume something will happen. I did a lot of things during that time that I am pretty ashamed of, and yeah, the people you know will pretty much always judge you as that guy, no matter how long you stay away, or how much you change. You could come back in 4 years a bhuddist monk, and they will still assume you want to get drunk and fuck everything that moves.
So yeah. There really is no way to change it! It's a thing that's done purely inside oneself. I cut back by finding someone I cared about to the point that for the most part, pursuing other girls just wasn't worth the time. I was drunk, at a party in San Francisco about a week ago, and I was chilling in the hot tub with some friends and a couple of people I didn't know. I was bouncing back in conversation between two very pretty girls, and after everyone went up to the house to change and continue drinking where it was warm, my friend and I decided to leave. As I was going, one of the girls grabbed my hand and said "where are you going? You should totally stay, you'll have fun, I promise." And then in the elevator my friend told me that "____(the other girl) totally would have fucked you."
See the point here is that just cuz you can do something doesn't always mean you should. I dunno about you but I started finding a serious lack of enjoyment in a lot of my encounters, almost always afterwards, and sometimes even during. I'd be sitting there, doing whatever, thinking about how empty and pointless it was, how we'd exchange numbers but never call each other.
So I guess the way I cut back, or I stopped, is I started thinking of that sickening empty feeling I always got after before hand. Realizing just how little I was going to enjoy the after effects made it much easier to avoid causing them all together.
Sorry for treating your joke reply seriously patatat
Patatat:
Yeah, I am not at the point where I can resist the offer, but I don't look for it. I have walked away a few times. Just because I know that I will hurt the girl in the end, because some girls got it in their head that if they fuck a guy he will date them. Which is the exact opposite. A lot of guys won't date a girl if they get it instantly. Congratulations on finding a girl that makes you happy. I hope the same for me happens soon enough. Until then, I guess I will just enjoy the novelty of being able to finally say "Wanna come back to my place."
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