Wow, I'm not around for two days and look at how much I miss. Teach me not to use my study periods for study instead of forumming, I guess!
Jill, maybe I wasn't clear enough. The staff at my college ask us to call them by their first names. It's college policy, I think the reasoning behind it is that if they treat us like young adults, we'll act like human beings (it doesn't always work, but I think it does help).
I would never, ever call a teacher by their first name if they had not asked me to. I'm good friends with an ex-teacher, we email regularly and meet up whenever I'm in the area, and I still call her (and think of her as) Miss Roberts.
Actually, I did just think of an instance where I refused to call a teacher by their name. I had a drama teacher who insisted on calling me Mavis (that is not my name. It's not even similar to my name. It wasn't a mistake, or a cute nickname, it was deliberately irritating). I asked him several times not to, politely, and then when he carried on doing so I started calling him Derek. He got the message, and we went back to real names.
On the respect issue in general, I have mixed feelings. On one hand, I agree that everyone deserves respect until they do something to prove otherwise. At the same time, I don't think that anyone deserves more respect than anyone else purely on grounds of age, income or anything similar. I respect many people because they are particularly good at what they do, or are very nice or impressive people, or have managed to cope with difficult circumstances. I think respect is both an inherent right and also earned, and the best bet is to assume that someone does deserve a level of respect (not boot-licking, crawling respect, just common courtesy).
I've only skim-read the alcohol debate but it seems to me that opinions are differing along vaguely geographical lines. I've never been to the USA or anywhere outside of Western Europe, so I can't comment on those places, but the drinking limit in the UK doesn't seem to be overly observed. I'm an oddity amongst my friends because I don't, and never have, drink any alcohol. I've only met three or four people between the ages of about 11 and 17 who haven't drunk at some point. When I'm asked why I don't drink, "it's not legal" is never my answer because to be honest, most people don't seem to remember there's an age limit.
A friend who lives partly in Holland and partly in England says that in Holland, where the limits for most things are lower and cannabis (I think) is legal, people are more sensible with drugs and alcohol. I'm not convinced it's possible to be sensible with cannabis unless you don't touch the stuff but I have a zero-tolerance approach to drugs. I suppose it's like the prostitution argument: it's easier to regulate something if it's legalised. But there has to be a sensible threashold below which it's unacceptable to go.
And it's fairly easy to lower an age limit but very hard to raise it, as proven by the recent change in law in the UK. You now have to be 18 to buy cigarettes et al, whereas you used to need to be 16. From the people I know at school and college, no one has taken the blindest bit of notice. I've been with 16 year old friends who have bought cigarettes without any trouble. I'm not in favour of this either, I'm just citing it as an example of how it can be hard to reverse a lower limit.
Like I said, I've never drunk so I'm fairly hazy about the different types of alcohol. But when I've seen people at parties, I've noticed that the ones who end up trashed are the ones who have been drinking vodka and other similar things. The ones going slowly with a beer seem to be fine. How about doing it the way the German government do and having different age limits depending on alcohol content and the likelihood of ending up vomiting in a bush?
I hate the pressure I sometimes get from friends who find it odd that I don't drink. None of my close friends do it, but some people who don't realise how big a thing this is for me will say things like "on your birthday, we're going out and you're going to get wasted". No, no I am not. And I will not be going out with you on my birthday, now that I know I can't trust you to respect my choices. Incidentally, I'm also vegetarian and a friend once tried to force a ham sandwich into my mouth. We're not in touch any more.
I can see the point that's being made about 21 being too old. Yes, it seems odd that you can legally be a parent to a four year old (I'm not sure what the age of consent is in places with a 21 drinking age, so I'm going with the UK's 16) but not drink a beer. But then again, I know many many 18, 19, 20 year olds who I wouldn't trust sober. Adding alcohol into the mix seems like a bad idea. You can't make laws to suit a minority who will follow them, they're designed to punish the ones who don't. So they have to go with the lowest common denominator.
Also, please don't get this forum locked. It was quite interesting til you brought Hitler into it (which could also be said for my history class, but that's another subject).
And I've just thought of a big one for the OP: gardening. I've yet to meet someone my age who likes it. I've yet to meet someone my mother's age who does not. All of the latter group say they didn't when they were my age. Is it hormonal? Do I have a dormant gardening gene that's going to kick in when I'm 30? Heaven forbid.