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fatty:
On the topic of body image, I think I've always been pretty realistic about how I see myself.
I think most of us care a lot about how other people see us. However, I don't think changing this is the solution to better self image. If people esteem you but you don't, you'll never be satisfied.

I like this thread, but most people who are insecure about their body image have the opportunity to find out that lots of others are in similiar situations and have different approaches to deal with it. That's why I want to contribute to a thread like this!

To be honest, when most people say "self image" they're more preoccupied by how they are perceived by other people. If other people like them/find them attractive, this leads to them believing this. But then the moment you lose that attention, you're prone to feeling shit about yourself.
In my opinion, the only way to really have a realistic {if not fantastic} self image is to know what you look like and care about it for your own sake. To actually care about how you look when you go out. This is pretty damn hard.

I am pretty pre-occupied sometimes about how people perceive me as a person. Not just my body, but my personality/character etc. I think the way I dress is important to be give the right impressions of me and also to draw attention to the right things. I'm pretty calculated in the way I dress/act in some respects. I know I look good in certain colours and clothing types, and I stick to them. I don't dress in certain ways because I know it gives an impression I don't want.

I'm pretty okay with my body mostly because I realised that it's the only one I got. Sometimes the rest of me gets me down, but I try not to indulge in self-pity because I could never be anyone else besides me even if I tried. Don't fuss over what you can't change.

All in all, I have gathered that appearing confident, well-dressed, self-assured, or polite all help in creating a really good impression. These things really help if you know that you don't have a smoking looks.

[hurrr serious post]
[edit: this is the only forum I'd feel comfortable posting seriously because I love you people]

waterloosunset:
bless the uk and the mixing of systems. i think in cm i am about 190ish

1 inch= 2.5cm
1 foot= 30cm
1 yard= 90cm

Barmymoo:
fatty is right, you have to care more about whether you're happy with yourself than whether other people like you.

I wear weird clothes, I know that, most of them were my mother's or are far too small because I've had them for years. But I know that it's because most of the money that would go on buying me new clothes goes to paying my brother's school fees and letting me go to Germany, so I'm not bothered. Also, I'd rather get an A in my exams than look pretty. There's this girl I know, she's very pretty and spends a lot of time thinking about clothes, but she's dropped out of school and is working in a plastic factory (this was a surprise, we all thought, seriously, that she would end up working on the streets). I'd rather be me than her.

Good clothes and good hairstyles can do wonders. At my college there is a hair and beauty salon, and every single girl (they're all girls) who works/studies there always looks very well groomed. But not one of them is actually naturally beautiful, they just trick you by being smart and stylish.

Drill King:
I never understood why people thought you had to choose between looking good and intelligence.

Thaes:
I just have to say that fatty´s post is one of the best and most motivational posts I´ve seen in a long time. Your own opinion on the way you look is indeed more important than that of the others. I myself have noticed this from time to time, for instance, when wearing my black jeans and/or sunglasses. I do not know what other people might think about them, but I do know that I think I look fantastic in them, and that really puts me in a good mood.

Of course, there are cases when the opinions of the others might actually exceed that of your own. For instance, I really liked wearing this stetson I had, since it made me look good. However, those around me (not my friends, of course) seemed to think it was ridiculous, so I ceased wearing it. It´s kinda sad, really, and I wish that one day I had good enough a self image to wear it again...

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