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RedLion:
5 days? Hardly a necropost.

Rolling20s:
My self image tends to be all over the place. I'm pretty tall (6'5") and for a good while, I tipped the scales at a whopping 165lbs. I'm now around 180lbs, and generally happy with how I look, but I still hate my hair most of the time, and I have a perpetual fear (bordering on paranoid obsession) about getting a gut as I get older.

All the guys in my family are tall-ish, and all of them (my Dad through my uncles) have the guy-looking-preggers gut. My whole life, I've been told that my metabolism will only last until I'm 30. So I obsess. The problem is, I don't do enough to combat it, so as with most people and self image stuff, I'm my own worst enemy. The thing is, I've got a 32" waist, and there's no reason I should be be this worried about something I can prevent. I guess having had crappy self-esteem all through high school and most of college just made it harder. I've dealt with most of the residual crap, but I get these odd surges of near-loathing or self-pity for no reason.

Anyway, I generally like my looks and my body. They always could be better, but I try to be content because I really have no reason to not be. Plus, if things go south and I get fat and sloppy, I really only have myself to blame. I can (reasonably) control my diet and my lifestyle, so if I'm not happy with how I look, I need to do something about it. If I don't do anything about it, I must be pretty comfortable with it.

Leonidas:
My self image has been quite poor recently, and as such it's really hit my confidence.

The fact is that I know I look a perfectly normal guy. I'm not fat, I'm not skinny, I'm just me, and I probably shouldn't have such an issue with myself as I do. I simply have an daft view of myself or of what I should be.

A few years ago I was a bit of a machine. I was training hard every day for no other reason than the joy of it. if I wasn't in the gym lifting weights or boxing training I was out running 10ks in 35 minutes. As such I admit I looked good. I was lean and broad shouldered with big arms and the six pack to go. I admit that it was exceptionally vain but I loved looking the way I did. It's a bonus from working hard.

Two - three years back though, for a reason I have no idea of, I started to become lazy and let it all slip away. I don't have a bad diet (other than too much of a sweet tooth) and I don't drink a lot of alcohol but with the lack of training and too much chocolate I have lost what I once had. Now I feel I have too much weight around the middle and I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. It's a horrible feeling to not really like yourself like this.

Then there's the issue of always feeling a little akward. As a few people have said, they grew up as teeneagers feeling uncomfortable and akward in their own skin, and as a result have carried that feeling onto into later life. I'm another one in the same position. Akward as a teenager and never very sure of myself, having lost that huge confidence boost I got in my early twenties when I got into serious training I've reverted back into being quite shy and wanting to play the "grey man". I'm also another one who hates to see themselves in photographs. I know I've been told I'm a handsome guy before, but I can't see it when I see myself in pictures. I see someone who looks out of place and akward. One of the main reasons of why there have been very few pictures of me ever posted on the boards. Because I don't often let myself be photographed, and when I am I see a guy with an akward smile and bad hair. Overly critical indeed, but I would love to have that easy confidence some have in front of a camera.


The solution? Well I've just spent a fair bit of cash building a weights room in my garage to get back into weight lifting. I'm also planning on getting back into team sports by re-joining the rugby team I used to play for, once I've built up a good base layed of fitness over the summer. However, having broad shoulders and a flat stomach I admit is a bit of a false confidence. Believing that you are looking good does do a lot for your self esteem, but it doesn't change you as a person and how you really feel about yourself. Still, after having that false confidence before I'm quite keen to have it back.

pig nash:
I'm a 19 year old male.  I am 5'11 3/4" (six foot with socks on I like to say) and 180/85 pounds.  I have brown hair, though my beard grows in a bit more on the red side.  I'm pretty much the definition of average looking but I like to think I make up for it with my sense of humor and sheer perseverance.

I could stand to lose a few pounds and I probably will now that I'm running more.  I eat more though because of the running, and the not smoking.  I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love and who loves me for who I am, even how I look.  I dress fairly plainly because I don't have the kind of job where I need to dress up very often so I mostly where comfortable clothing.

As far as personality goes, I have pretty thick skin because literally everyone I grew up with is a sarcastic son of a bitch.  My parents, my parent's friends, and their kids too.  In our circle if we made fun of you it was because we liked you.  We're polite to strangers and people we don't like.  As such, I'm pretty sarcastic.  I try not to let situations ever be too serious because life is too short to be serious.  I do care about stuff but I'd rather be arguing for or against something or making fun of it then just stating that I care about it.

That's pretty much it, I don't think about this kind of thing too often.

Eli:
I totally agree with the idea presented pages back that having someone attracted to you helps greatly.
My flaws, in my opinion, are that I look like I only have half of both eyebrows because they turn blond after half, short eyelashes, and big feet for such a short girl (I'm 5'0" with size ten feet). Plus, I have stretch marks on my thighs. Those don't bother me too much for some reason. I guess because they're rarely ever pointed out anymore.
Thankfully, I've never had acne, just a pimple or two every once in awhile. I have an hourglass figure that I like and if I could succeed in making my stomach a little flatter and my bum a little smaller, I think I'd be pretty much happy with myself.  However, if I didn't have a boyfriend who loved the way I looked, I probably wouldn't feel this way. It really helps to have someone tell you you're pretty even when you first wake up or you haven't dressed up.
I'm 120 and trying to lose 5 to 10 more pounds. I look healthy and I'm fitter than I have been since I was maybe 10 because I walk and hike a lot more since I moved. I also eat healthier and since my boyfriend's family doesn't buy many snack foods, I don't snack between meals unless it's an apple or something.

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