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Body/Self Image
Scandanavian War Machine:
--- Quote from: october1983 ---The Catch-22, though, is that as a guy who does not approach girls very often, I only really get to know ones who approach me, and these tend to be, by their very nature, the louder, more intense type.
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i have the exact same problem. You are not alone!
Eris:
Oh man, I am glad people are interested in the thread; the topic has been running through my head for a while.
Talking to Ben last night made me realise some thing about my self-image. I was part of a group of bitchy girls at high school (I was never super good at choosing nice friends on the first go, I did the same thing in primary school), who would basically compliment someone so they could laugh at them once they had gone. So in my head whenever someone I don't really know will say something nice to me, my first reaction is to deny it, because then I have ruined their cunning plan and the can't go talk about how much of a gullible loser I am.
A way I avoid that situation is to try and make myself as inconspicuous as possible. I went to a friend's photography exhibition recently and wore my hair out and deliberately looked "arty" (read: like a crazy cat lady) because I have known her for a looooong time and knew she'd get a kick out of it. However, the whole time I felt so obvious with my insane amount of hair curling out all around my head that I just wanted to tie it back and look a bit more generic, then people wouldn't notice me and talk shit about me to their friends about how weird I looked.
So in other words, I complain that no on noticed me, but at the same time I try and make myself as unnoticeable as I can. so hey, my head is screwed!
october1983:
--- Quote from: tommydski on 13 May 2008, 16:34 ---
--- Quote from: Misconception on 13 May 2008, 16:09 ---I think I might have been one of those people!
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Dicky is by far the hottest UK forumite. Probably top ten overall regardless of nationality.
Lil' bastard.
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As flattered as I am, are you basing this off the one photo of me without a beard in the hair advice thread? Because while I won't deny that I am a fairly attractive fellow, that was an incredibly flattering photo of me.
Elizzybeth:
I see myself in so many of these posts, it's scary.
I was the awkward, friendless kid in middle school, with straight A-plusses and music geekery serious enough to ostracize me even from the band geeks. I hung out on the periphery of a couple of social groups, and managed to be the object of a couple of crushes, which kept my sunny eleven-year-old mind from diving into the pit of self-loathing. Was being as happy with myself as I was despite my shyness and sometime-loneliness a sign of being well-adjusted? I'd like to think so, but maybe I was just delusional and a little bit egotistical.
At the end of middle school, I entered university early through a program populated by 150 teenagers at least as geeky as I was. Suddenly, social functions revolved around Monty Python and D&D, and getting As in classes was expected rather than derided. That year, I was the least physically attractive I've ever been (I had glasses and braces and I didn't know how to deal with my hair or my skin), but I suddenly had a bigger group of friends than ever, and a jam-packed social life kept me from dwelling too seriously on my physical failings.
Now, I've come to terms with my body (which has picked up some of the slack, thankfully), and I think I've come into my own socially, as well. My social awkwardness is limited to times in which I'm talking to my boss--I'll be damned if I can have one conversation with her that doesn't end with me trailing off into ums and ers, but around most people I'm friendly and outgoing. Physically, as at least a few people have mentioned, a significant other who thinks you're hot shit can do wonders for your self-image. I happened to be standing with him the other day in front of a mirror with my shirt off, and I found myself going through my mental I-hate-my-body routine. I turned away from the mirror to try to quiet my negative self-talk, but my boy grabbed me and said, apropos of nothing (can he read my mind? I'm starting to wonder), "You're the cutest thing ever," and made me turn back to the mirror (after a kiss). "Look at that!" How can I argue with someone whose opinion I respect so deeply?
Liz:
--- Quote from: october1983 on 13 May 2008, 16:43 ---As flattered as I am, are you basing this off the one photo of me without a beard in the hair advice thread? Because while I won't deny that I am a fairly attractive fellow, that was an incredibly flattering photo of me.
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That and the one of you with a beard. If you're that good looking in two pictures you can't be very bad looking.
Also this calls for more pictures. Go.
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