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Jimmy the Squid:
There is no such thing as "the one" as has been mentioned before. There are how many billion people on this planet? Roughly six the last time somebody quoted statistics at me. Assuming that that is true then you have a very very small chance of ever meeting the one person who is right for you. There are probably a great many people who are 1) "right" for you and 2) willing to spend their days with you. Thinking there is only one person out there is ridiculous because there is almost no way you would ever find them.
I'm all for commitment. I don't care about marriage because it is really only a piece of paper that says you love someone (fuck you I'm saying it). Commitment is only important because it makes people more likely to look after your offspring than someone elses which is what it's all about really. If you don't care about commitment that is cool too but I probably wouldn't want to be going out with someone who would prefer an open relationship because, even though I don't want kids, I would prefer a monogamous relationship. I don't think changing your mind or backing out of something is wrong, in fact it is totally the right thing to do if you don't feel that situation x is the one you want to be in.
You want to know if you're with the best possible person for you? Tough, you can't possibly know that because you'll never be able to do the appropriate research. If you find someone that you like hanging out with, enjoy having sex with and are prepared to sacrifice your own comfort to ensure theirs then you probably love them. If you think you can continue to do this until one or more of you is dead then great. If not, maybe don't make silly vows that you can't keep.
David_Dovey:
--- Quote ---There are how many billion people on this planet? Roughly six the last time somebody quoted statistics at me. Assuming that that is true then you have a very very small chance of ever meeting the one person who is right for you.
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Man, and that's if "The One" has the good fortune of being born around the same period of history as you.
I've felt that incredibly intense, overwhelming romantic love that people tend to talk about in hushed and reverent tones. It was the first time I was in love. That kind of feeling led me to stay in a relationship that was mutually destructive for both parties almost a year longer than I should've.
I never felt that feeling again. I haven't had that with the person I'm with currently at all. I don't care. Because I've also never felt genuinely afraid for my life with her either. Fuck the choirs of angels and undying infatuation. I'll "settle" for simple shared interests, mutual physical attraction and intellectual engagement cheers.
pi:
--- Quote from: Aminal on 26 May 2008, 19:13 ---
Yeah, but the person you're with now is apparently able to tolerate your milquetoast, wishy-washy-Romeo ambivalence. You should tell s/him that there's someone better out there for s/him.
SACK UP, HO'.
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I guess I should have made this more clear, but this was a hypothetical question. I was merely wondering if people had any insight on the topic of commitment/marriage, or, preferably, personal attacks. I am actually single. Har, Har, I wonder why.
--- Quote ---the one
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again, to make clear, I don't really believe in the idea of soul mates, but am rather agnostic about the matter. I was saying that its hypothetically possible, however improbable, to find your perfect mate; I am not looking for him/her. I would consider it probable to find a person marginally better than the one you're with, given that you will continue to meet new people. It would also appear more than just possible to find a person who is much better than the one you're with, making you wish you were with that person.
Given that you really would be much happier with that new person (which is possible), and the fact that you've already considered the possibility of this happening, promising to be with a person forever seems difficult.
--- Quote ---get a blog
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Since this is not autobiographical, but rather I wanted others' input to a query, a forum seems more appropriate.
öde:
--- Quote --- it's just a guy asking a "hypothetical question" so he can state his opinion without really listening to what anyone else says, even if they agree with him
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Inlander:
You see, this is why we can't have nice things. Sure, it's all very well and good everyone going "Don't do list threads, don't do list threads" all the time, but then the minute somebody starts a thread that actually requires some thoughtful discussion, half the replies are people mocking the O.P., or insulting the O.P., or just generally behaving obnoxiously in an effort to sabotage the thread without adding anything whatsoever to the discussion. Other than a slightly verbose opening post, I can't see anything that pi has done to warrant such unpleasant behaviour. So, guys, the decision is yours, here and now: do you want an interesting, thoughtful, friendly forum where people can feel free to invite others to discuss things that interest them, or do you want a forum that comprises an endless stream of "look at this funny video" threads? Well?
In summary: don't be arseholes.
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