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Aminal:
--- Quote from: pi on 26 May 2008, 17:46 ---There is no way you can sample everyone in the world, and there are loads of people that can outdo your other in any category.
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Yeah, but the person you're with now is apparently able to tolerate your milquetoast, wishy-washy-Romeo ambivalence. You should tell s/him that there's someone better out there for s/him.
SACK UP, HO'.
StMonkey:
Honestly though, so what if you find "the one" after you get married. If you're getting married, you obviously get along really well with this person, and he/she makes you happy, content, and jut makes you feel great in general. If you're getting married to someone who doesn't make you all this then you are merely settling and, really, sealing yourself in. Arranged marraiges aside, no one is forcing marraige upon you, you do it out of your free will because you really really want to. If someone is going to make you feel that good and maybe even give you that unmenionable fuzzy feeling, then whats it to ya if you find that someone who is who you're with now and also likes that little quirck of yours.
tl;dr: Marriage is not a high school relationship to be easly dumped, you've put a lot of time and commitment in. An extra one percent is not gonna blow you outta the water.
Darkbluerabbit:
There is no such thing as "the one." If you're with someone and have been in a relationship for a long time, and you meet someone else who SEEMS more perfect, it's probably just because you don't know them as well. I'm sure there are exceptions, but generally, if you're in a good relationship and otherwise happy, and you develop a crush on someone else, it's because they are new and exciting. If you were to start dating them, eventually you'd get back to that same old point where you're happy, but the sparks are gone.
There are several High Fidelity quotes that apply perfectly. Like when Rob says "Do I just keep jumping from rock to rock every time I get that feeling in my gut? Because lately I've been thinking that my guts have shit for brains."
Some people just aren't suited for monogamy, but if you don't like monogamy because you're on some neverending quest for "the one," then you're probably going to wind up disappointed.
tania:
i find it interesting how ability to commit is so often used as a means of measuring whether someone is a "good" person or not. there is absolutely nothing wrong with backing out or changing your mind if you don't feel comfortable in a given situation. people really value idiotic stubbornness for some reason.
after a series of epiphanies a couple of years ago i now find the concept of marriage absolutely fucking ridiculous and only do open relationships. my relationships have been fucking fantastic since then. best decision i ever made. to me, i've accepted there is no one person and that's just super. there's your answer.
ViolentDove:
--- Quote from: Aminal on 26 May 2008, 19:13 ---Yeah, but the person you're with now is apparently able to tolerate your milquetoast, wishy-washy-Romeo ambivalence. You should tell s/him that there's someone better out there for s/him.
SACK UP, HO'.
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Milquetoast is my new favourite word. Thanks Aminal!
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