Huuuurrrgh.
Guys. For the last few months, I've just been having fun: flirting, going on non-steady dates with a number of girls, fooling around a bit. Lately, it has become more serious with one them. She's a very kind girl--sweet, funny, open, non-pretentious and very cute. We've gone on repeated dates and had great times, and I've spent the night at her place the last few days. Last night she said she wants to date "seriously," in a steady way; that was fine with me.
However, as we started talking a bit more deeply, I learned something about her past that sets me ill at ease. When she was 17, she dated a guy who was 30. For over a year. I really try not to judge what a person has done in their past, but that really weirds me out. Furthermore, the guy had kids. He was a divorcee. When she turned 18, he wanted to get married but she said no (at least she was smart there.) Anyway, then she dated someone her age for a few years before breaking up awhile ago. She said she'd "just about given up on relationships" before I came along.
(Now, that last sentence just seems really over-dramatic to me. However, if she's being sincere, then I'm flattered.)
The whole way-older-man thing was about 3 years ago for her (She's 21, I'm 19). But I'm really conflicted on this. I really do have quite a lot of affection for the girl; I thoroughly enjoy being around her. I also know that age becomes less of a factor as one grows older, but at the time, she was still a minor! It's just, well, a bit creepy. And, having been with her, thinking of her being with a weird "old" guy..I don't know. It makes me feel uncomfortable.
I don't want to tell her "sorry, it won't work" just because of this, because she really is a wonderful, beautiful girl and it shouldn't reflect on her present character, but it's become a pretty big hangup for me. Maybe I'm just not being mature about the situation, though.
Thoughts?