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[Alex C]

That is one crazy story. I mean, I've seen an old lady go right over the curb by the senior center before and I also know a guy who got drunk and hit the gas pedal instead of the brakes while parking and ended up hitting the gas station, but even in that situation he only went a few feet. It was more of a public shaming than anything else. But two buildlings in one day? Really? That's twice as many buildings as my buddy with the DUI and even the batty old lady figured things out before completely ruining bingo night.

[Liz]

You are being tested. Stand firm! Do not back down! In the end you will be handsomely rewarded.

[Liz]

The Girl? Oh ho ho, Jens, what is this? Please elaborate!

[Liz]

No, I was not! I missed it! Hop on Skype for a bit and we can use the chat function.

[Barmymoo]

Jens, it will just get confusing if you also have a The Girl. You must call your The Girl "The Other Girl" or alternatively "My Norwegian Girl" (to distinguish her from Liz who is clearly your real girl).

Today I did not have college! So I went to the big town about an hour away with three of my best friends and we shopped and I found a lovely lovely expensive dress and we watched High School Musical 3 and laughed at an old man who parked ON A ROUNDABOUT to get out of his car to ask everyone "Do you know where Willow Street is?". Nobody knew where Willow Street was.

It was a very excellent day, only mildly clouded by the worry that another friend may have attempted to kill herself again. It will be much more clouded if it turns out that she has; but my suspicion is based mostly on paranoia since we have seen her twice in the last month. I'm going to her house on Monday if she doesn't show for college.

Tomorrow is more college. Boo. Except that I actually really like college at the moment and I have a lot to do! I need to be all kinds of busy so that I don't get blue and unmotivated and fall behind with work. My sociology teacher, who is also a turbocharged organiser, pounced on me yesterday and managed to persuade me to be Editor of the student newspaper, to go with my film project (had my first film lesson yesterday!) and the student union (the meeting was cancelled yesterday; I found out when I went to it and no one was there) and work and all other stuffs.

[Liz]

Oh May aren't you just precious.

[Barmymoo]

I am taking that as a compliment.

[Liz]

Perhaps it was...

o.O

[Jace]

Jens, you now need to make them pay for what they have done. I don't know how to accomplish this in Norway, but you need to make them pay. I will help you 100% to do this because I hate girls who do that. I've had it happen to me more than once.

One actually led me on for 4 months.

[est]

You should punch them all in the tits

[Metope]

Ugh, guys you need to know this about girls:
THEY ARE STUPID AND MEAN.

(When I hear about girls doing stuff like that I get kind of embarrassed to be a member of the female population. This is so childish and stupid I can't even find the right words to describe it.)

[Caleb]

Okay so I just found out the girl was just fucking with me, along with two of her friends who is also in my class.

Wow.  That stinks.

I suppose I should be grateful that I am large scary man who most females are frightened of.  I never had to deal with crap like that.

In any case don't let it get you down at all.  Jerks who do stuff like that aren't worth it.

*edit*

I suppose I should be grateful that I am large scary man of whom most people of either sex are equally frightened of.  I never had to deal with crap like that.

In any case don't let it get you down at all.  Jerks (male and females) who do stuff like that aren't worth it.

[Jace]

The type of stuff we're seeing Jens is girls taking guys for granted. They know they can fuck with a guy's emotions, so they do. Now, on the flip side, women don't do this. Its just some stupid girl bullshit that they think is so funny because they're just waiting for some rich guy who will treat them like shit to come pick them up.

I used to be a nice guy until I figured out how girls work. Now I'm only nice to a few girls, to the rest of them, I am a dick, and they love me.

[Metope]

To clarify, I'm not actually ashamed of my gender, I guess it's more of the "protective sis" in me that gets mad and overreacts to this stuff. Those girls are cruel, and they're taking it out on my brother.

(And yes, of course I know guys can be bastards too.  But in this particular case it was the girls being mean to a guy who clearly didn't deserve it.)

[Skibas_clavicle]

So apparently, the silly electro group my friends and I made up while really drunk outside of a nightclub at 3 am may actually be playing a show in January. This is weird because I wasn't entirely certain that we even existed.

[Jace]

Hmm, I should probably elaborate so I don't come off as such a douche, because honestly, I'm not.

There was a point that I stopped caring about being a nice guy and just decided to be a dick. It was at this time that I had more girls talking to me than I could imagine. Of course, many of these girls couldn't manage to know the difference between "your" and "you're." Suffice to say, it was a fun time to be with them, but it wasn't fun to talk to them. I quickly found that these same girls were the ones that would just mess with your head. Except I messed with theirs too, so it was all good. Now I've gotten to the point that I'd like to have someone I could hold a conversation with for more than 3 minutes without them spouting off something stupid. Of course, girls who are smart, generally don't like to play head games with guys because they understand how stupid that shit is. Then again, I've been wrong before.

In the long run, while I was a dick for probably 2 years or so. I realized that that attitude won't get me anywhere quick when it comes to making a lasting relationship/friendship and I've quickly and thoroughly absolved myself of that behavior. We (you and I Jens) are fairly smart and creative individuals and eventually we will both find people who aren't absolute bitches.


Also, as far as my life is going: Pretty good, going to be going to class today and fighting with some weapons. FUN.

[pwhodges]

People - just so.  It was curious seeing a conversation developing about the male and female stereotypes, when the inappropriateness of this is being covered in the Discuss forum.

Jens - get a night's sleep - it won't be as big a deal in the morning.

And did anyone think the last sentence of the report Tommy linked was as chilling as I did?

[Metope]

Good idea Tommy, and as you wish Jens.


Dear blog thread,

I cut my bangs today out of boredom. I really shouldn't have, because now I look ridiculous. Pics tomorrow so you can laugh your asses off of my stupidity.

Yours sincerely,
Kris

[jhocking]

I go to the chiropractor for my jaw

Really? I wonder if I should go to a chiropractor. My jaw is all kinds of fucked up.

[nobo]

why is it that every guy thinks that they're a nice guy? and that when they don't have success with girls that its because they're a nice guy and girls like guys that treat them like shit? this sounds incredibly self absorbed.

I read an article about why girls don't go for the self proclaimed nice guys because those guys tend to think that girls owe them something (like attention or affection) for being nice. Let me see if i can find it.

edit
http://www.sosuave.com/niceguys/page3.htm

[Dazed]

Personally, I think I'm a nice guy because it happens to be true. That's what they tell me, anyway.

[jhocking]

I don't know if you were just kidding around or what, but that right there is actually one of the big explanations for the mystery nobo pointed out. Guys who aren't successful with girls think they are nice guys because that's what girls tell them to soften the blow when rejecting them.

[David_Dovey]

why is it that every guy thinks that they're a nice guy? and that when they don't have success with girls that its because they're a nice guy and girls like guys that treat them like shit? this sounds incredibly self absorbed.

Protip: A lot of guys who think they are "nice guys" are confusing niceness with spinelessness.

It is possible to be nice, to be respectful, to be enlightened gender-wise without being subservient or clingy.

Re: The report tommy posted chills me the most because I think about how unbelievably, awfully common this kind of behaviour is in certain parts of the world.

[Dimmukane]

I only go half-dick.  I've got nothing to show for it.

[nobo]

No, i wasn't joking. I just don't like the misplaces resentment guys have towards girls when they get rejected. the "i'm a nice guy" thing is such a weak thing to fall back on. there is one constant between all your rejections and failed relationships, and that is you.

Dave, i agree with your pro-tip

[Spluff]

The first two things in that article you linked to are pretty much right, if the second one is going a little overboard is some cases.

[est]

Yeah, we've talked about the nice guy myth before.  "Nice guys" who act like a good friend to a girl then get the shits when they make a move and are rebuffed are either intentionally or unintentionally miscommunicating their intentions to the girl in question.  It is not so much that "girls like assholes", it's more that people in general like people who will shoot straight with them and it just so happens that assholes tend to shoot straight (for the vagina) and be up-front about what they want. That isn't the case in Jens' situation though, the girl(s) in question were just jerks.

Also Pants please be aware that you sound like you have a very low or stereotyped regard of women and you just keep digging a bigger hole every time you post.

[nobo]

boy, it sure is hard to start a topic here that hasn't been talked about already.

So... what would you guys do if zombies attacked?

[Social Bacon]

I'd be a nice guy to the zombies and then bitch about how it's the zombies fault that I got bitten.

[Spluff]

Funnily enough, we've had a zombie topic before.

It was probably the best thread.

[Dazed]

I'd try to have a nice conversation with the zombies, then walk away when I realize they only want me for my body.

[David_Dovey]

Funnily enough, we've had a zombie topic before.

It was probably the best thread.

[CarrionMan]

It's lucky men don't double post.


I've always thought that knees tend to be in the jurisdiction of orthopaedics.

[tania]

was going to say something but then remembered there were already two something positive strips that did it perfectly, so here -

[Alex C]

I just kinda figured that the people who self-identify as "nice guys" usually aren't just throwing themselves out there as often as "assholes." If there's one thing I've noticed about the self-identifying Nice Guys out there and their hilarious yet deplorable internet manifestos, it's that they base their "nice guy" status on the idea that they care about the girl more than those "other assholes" would. Which leads me to a single conclusion: they're only putting themselves out there when they already think the relationship could be Serious Business. What kind of guy do you think gets into more relationships and meets more cute ladies? Bachelor A, who thinks flirting is fun and is open to the idea of going out with a woman he doesn't know terribly well yet or Bachelor B, the guy that will only ask a woman out once they've established a friendship and feels like this could all really go somewhere?

I can say from personal experience that back in senior year when I was less busy and more insecure than I am today, I used to flirt more and get more attention from ladies. The insecure bit sounds a bit counterintuitive on the face of it, but I had transferred to a new school, was reeling from the end of my first real relationship and the extra attention massaged my ego, so I sought it out, even if I had no real intentions with the girl in question. The fact that I was being kind of an asshole though worked against me; girls would bail when they realized how flakey I was being, and for good reason. Today, I really only put myself out there if I'm genuinely interested, so of course, I end up with less attention because I'm giving less attention. Male or female, most people don't waste time on someone who doesn't seem to reciprocate.

[Social Bacon]

I self identify as a nice guy. But I'd hardly consider my nice guy-ness to be that stereotyped by this thread. I just try to be nice to people and adopt a "it doesn't really matter" philosophy (I think it was actually discussed earlier in blag thread when we were bitching about working in retail). However, I can make no comments on how this affects my success with women simply because I haven't really met anyone I've been interested in recently, sure I've had fleeting interests but I find after I start to get to know someone (like after a conversation or two) I lose interest. This probably has something to do with my conceitedness embodied by my refusal to date anyone that I consider to be intellectually "inferior" (ie I'm seeking someone who can carry on an intelligent conversation about something that interests me). I do seem to attract a reasonable number of ladies though, but they all seem to be slightly on the crazy side.

My point is simply that not all guys who self identify as "nice guys" are as moronic as this thread indicates. My reply probably didn't need to be as long as it is, but the blug thread is all about showing are insecurities, right?

[CarrionMan]

I've been called nice…

I'm not nice.

[Lunchbox]

Hey guys!
My cat had fleas even though I'd given her flea-killing-stuff and so we put her outside and now it is I don't know, a week later? and I checked and she does not have fleas so I gave her a bath so she could come back inside!
Wet cat!

[ampersandwitch]

Today is my birthday.  And I just know those motherfuckers are going to stiff me on gifts.
Woo party time.

 

[BrittanyMarie]

Here is a picture of a cover of a book for your birthday.

[ampersandwitch]

Thank you for your well wishes on this most auspicious day.

[Dazed]

Happy Birfday. ¿Cuantos años tienes?

[Caleb]

Happy Birthday ampersandwitch.


Lunchbox.  It's amazing how skinny some fluffy cats are once they get drenched.

[benji]

Dear Blog Thread,

This week has gone by really fast. I can't believe it's Friday. It's been the normal work and church stuff that dominates my life, so it's probably not all that interesting 2nd hand, but first hand it's been fun. I've come to realize recently how much fun I'm having being me. We (collectively) spend a lot of time on hope and nostalgia, but I wonder how many of us really take the time to look around and realize how much fun we're having right now. I've got an interesting enough job, my roommates are a pretty great bunch of my fellow nerds and geeks, I'm developing a strong group of friends who I don't live with, and I'm contributing to the world in good ways. This is fun.

I think the "Nice Guy" discussion is an interesting one. I don't think the problem is men being nice, the problem is when we walk around with this image of ourselves as the poor, put-upon, "Nice Guy." It involves an odd combination of self-deprecation and arrogance; "if she could just see how nice I am, she would fall for me instantly, but I'm just too socially inept for her to notice, so she's always with the jerks." There's a certain apocalyptic narrative to it as well: eventually all wrongs will be righted and the meek will inherit the girls. I think I have a tendency towards that kind of thinking, but I try to guard against it. I can be confident without being a jerk. I manage to pull it off very well in business and in non-romantic social gatherings. But romance brings out my inborn shyness.

This has been on my mind a bit recently because the one thing missing in my life at the moment is romance. I would certainly like a girl (or maybe a boy) to spend some time with but I also genuinely feel like I don't have time to pursue someone. But that's also a cheep excuse for cowardice. The truth is, as a shy dude, I prefer being the pursued to being the pursuer, and since I usually do prefer women, the cultural cards are stacked against me.

[Jace]

I can be confident without being a jerk.

This, I think this is the most important thing. It took me 4 years to break out of my shyness shell, but when I did, I wasn't confident without acting like a jerk. It took me a year to fix that, and I'm still working on it a bit.

And I know it seems like I have a terrible low opinion of women, but I think that's just because I can't seem to make my points clear. I'm gonna anecdote all up in this real quick and see if it helps.

One of my coworkers (my old manager actually) read the book The Game, he thought it was a great way to pick up women. But when it didn't work for him, he didn't realize it was because he can be a genuinely nice guy, who is pretty cool, but also sort of nerdy (that is how I would define both he and I). And I've found that a lot of girls don't understand the full breadth of nerdiness that comes with the territory of someone like him. He is a movie, comic book, and roleplaying game nerd. He doesn't fit the stereotype of a 400lb dude who wears his +4 magical shirt of DMing. But he's pretty nerdy. The point is, he needed to look at a different spectrum of girls to find one that he could actually spend time with. That was his problem (that still is his problem).

That, I believe is the problem for a lot of the Nice Guys. They aren't looking for the right girl to use their Nice Guy powers on. There are girls out there who think that the roleplaying and the miniatures games and all that make you weird. Well, its been hanging out with those friends that has gotten me 2 different jobs, and a place to live. So I scoff at girls who don't want me to hang out with those friends. I believe there is also a set of girls who will use a Nice Guy as an emotional punching bag, because a lot of guys will try to sit and listen to a girls problems if they think it'll help them have a relationship (because communication is key, you see). But then in the long run, it doesn't help at all.

I think I can sum this up with: tl;dr girls in high school made me a bit cynical, I'm trying to realize that there are actually very nice girls out there, I just have to look.

[KvP]

I feel like I dodged a bullet yesterday.

[0bsessions]

Broken condom?

[benji]

Job at shooting range turn out to be a mistake?

[Caleb]

You felt a swish of wind past your cheek and heard a high pitched whine ending with a *ping*?

[KvP]

I drove down a road for about 30 seconds before I realized it was a one-way. In the other direction.

Good thing nobody was around.