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est:
--- Quote from: jhocking on 19 Aug 2008, 18:00 ---pedometer
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haw haw.
Part of me wants to admonish some of the regulars for being asses to the OP but I dunno, I really don't want to encourage more threads like this. On the one hand the OP is pretty young and doesn't know any better, but on the other
omg
this type of shit
is like,
really annoying?
So yeah: Dilemma!
Four pages in and I am almost certain that the OP doesn't care any more, but to answer your original question you should try as much as possible to behave toward her much as you usually would. You two don't have to start snoggin' and such until you're comfortable with it, just talk to her and spend time with her and get comfortable with her. She probably ignored you because she's in the same boat as you right now - she doesn't know what the hell is going on or what to do either. Just be cool and hang out with her and act normal as possible and show her that you guys are still friends.
Also, the relatively new people who are jumping on bandwagons and/or getting all huffy and/or trying to be funny and just generally being dumbcunts in this thread should probably steer clear of the next one of these. Usually when these kinds of threads happen popping your head up to add some form of a "haha, yeah man" post serves no purpose other than to aggravate the locals, and joining in any kind of fracas will generally get you added to a watch-list (ie: mine) for abusive/aggressive posting, so on the whole it's not really a good idea.
IronOxide:
--- Quote from: negative creep on 19 Aug 2008, 17:26 ---
--- Quote from: jhocking on 19 Aug 2008, 16:46 ---
Or maybe it can be like a learner's permit for driving. At 16 you can have sex with 18 year olds but not other 16 year olds (ie. learners.)
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I think in Germany it is that if you are under 16 you can only have sex with people under 21.
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I don't know about other states, but that's pretty much how it happens in New York
--- Quote from: Wikipedia --- * Sex with a person under 17 is a misdemeanor if the perpetrator is at least 16 (see infra). (“Sexual misconduct,” NY Penal Law § 130.20.)
* Sex with a person under 17 is a Class “E” felony if the perpetrator is at least 21. (“Rape in the third degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.25; “Criminal sexual act in the third degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.40.)
* Sex with a person under 15 is a Class “D” felony if the perpetrator is at least 18. However, it is a defense to this charge if an 18 year-old perpetrator proves by a preponderance that he or she was less than four years older than the victim. This is not a defense to any other charge that might apply, i.e., Sexual misconduct, supra. (“Rape in the second degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.30; “Criminal sexual act in the second degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.45.)
* Sex with a person under 13 is a Class “B” violent felony if the perpetrator is at least 18. (“Rape in the first degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.35[4]; “Criminal sexual act in the first degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.50[4].)
* Sex with a person under 11 is a Class “B” violent felony if the perpetrator is at least 16. (“Rape in the first degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.35[3]; “Criminal sexual act in the first degree,” NY Penal Law § 130.50[3].)
"Sex," as used above, refers to the four conspicuous types of sexual acts, including "sexual intercourse", and the three forms of acts known as "deviant sexual intercourse" under the former (pre-2003) law, now called "oral sexual conduct" (both types), and "anal sexual conduct."
Non-intercourse sexual activity is also regulated based on age. Non-intercourse sexual activity, called "sexual contact" is defined as "any touching of the sexual or other intimate parts of a person not married to the actor for the purpose of gratifying sexual desire of either party. It includes the touching of the actor by the victim, as well as the touching of the victim by the actor, whether directly or through clothing." (NY Penal Law § 130.00[3].) If the person is underage such "sexual contact" can constitute the crime of "sexual abuse."
* "Sexual contact" with a person less than 17 but at least 14, by a perpetrator who is at least five years older than the victim is "Sexual abuse in the third degree," a class B misdemeanor. (NY Penal Law § 130.55.)
* "Sexual contact" with a person less than 14 is "Sexual abuse in the second degree," a Class A misdemeanor, if the perpetrator is at least 16. (NY Penal Law § 130.60[2].)
* "Sexual contact" with a person less than 11 is "Sexual abuse in the first degree," a class "D" violent felony, if the perpetrator is at least 16. (NY Penal Law § 130.65[3].)
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It's a graduated scale based upon the age of the person committing the act, and I feel that the system is more or less fair and enforced in an appropriate manner. I mean, the first law is hardly ever enforced, but the other ones are pretty strict, and I'm okay with that.
Reading the rest of the article, it is a bit more vast than the other states, but it is a sliding scale that I am comfortable with.
RallyMonkey:
When it comes to dating in middle school/high school, I'd say the most important thing is to forget about the title. Dating is exactly that, going on dates. Asking someone to be your girlfriend is not the route to take. Ask her out, take her to dinner (Movies are a bad idea for a first date, you sit in the dark for 2 hours, not talking to eachother.) Then hang out with her in a more formal situation. Just get to know the girl. Then, when you get more comfortable with eachother, things will advance. Eventually, you will work your way into the title of boyfriend and girlfriend, but that's not what's important. What's important is the relationship.
As soon as you want a significant other for the emotional benefits of having someone that close, that's when you should get one. Not when you just want to be able to say you have a girlfriend.
J-cob9000:
--- Quote from: est on 19 Aug 2008, 18:37 ---
--- Quote from: jhocking on 19 Aug 2008, 18:00 ---pedometer
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haw haw.
Part of me wants to admonish some of the regulars for being asses to the OP
Ch'yeah, report'em to the police for pedophilia. Seriously. Just take some of their posts be like, "hey, look." xD
j/k
mostly.
but I dunno, I really don't want to encourage more threads like this. On the one hand the OP is pretty young and doesn't know any better, but on the other
Actually, i'm pretty net savvy and figured this kind of shit would happen on somewhere like 4chan. But i was like, hey these people are older, they're 'mature'. Guess I was wrong.
omg
this type of shit
is like,
really annoying?
So yeah: Dilemma!
Four pages in and I am almost certain that the OP doesn't care any more,
You think?
but to answer your original question you should try as much as possible to behave toward her much as you usually would. You two don't have to start snoggin' and such until you're comfortable with it, just talk to her and spend time with her and get comfortable with her. She probably ignored you because she's in the same boat as you right now - she doesn't know what the hell is going on or what to do either. Just be cool and hang out with her and act normal as possible and show her that you guys are still friends.
Pretty much what I'm doing. Just being myself mostly. I complimented her twice today. <3. Sorry, corny there.
Also, the relatively new people who are jumping on bandwagons and/or getting all huffy and/or trying to be funny and just generally being dumbcunts in this thread should probably steer clear of the next one of these. Usually when these kinds of threads happen popping your head up to add some form of a "haha, yeah man" post serves no purpose other than to aggravate the locals, and joining in any kind of fracas will generally get you added to a watch-list (ie: mine) for abusive/aggressive posting, so on the whole it's not really a good idea.
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answers in bold.
and rallymonkey, we don't call ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend or do we say that we are 'dating', we're just close friends that, as the middle/high school term goes, 'like' each other.
so yeah.
jhocking:
--- Quote from: Midnight Umbreon on 19 Aug 2008, 19:04 ---Four pages in and I am almost certain that the OP doesn't care any more,
You think?
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I've seen this over and over in many contexts, but it's always the same. If you really don't care, then why are you still arguing?
The best is when someone posts "this is my last post" half a dozen times in one thread.
ADDITION: oh wait I didn't even notice
--- Quote from: Midnight Umbreon on 19 Aug 2008, 13:54 ---i'm going to leave now
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sweet
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