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[negative creep]

thirded.

[KvP]

conclusion - Spluff is a massive slut.

[Inlander]

Driver! Return ticket to Floozietown, please.

[october1983]

Return ticket?

[Inlander]

Christ, you wouldn't want to live there!

[MrBlu]

Ever notice it's always a guy with a truck?

And it's true; Girls hate being caught. As if they have some divine right to do whatever the @#$% they want.

And they say that men are dogs.

Dude see we are the same age so I normally wouldn't judge your posts based on that but honestly, you are 16 years old. How many girls have cheated on you ever and how many of the guys they've cheated with have even had drivers' licenses, let alone trucks?

It looks a little ridiculous when someone tries to act older than they are. Don't be that person.

1) How many? Too many.
2) I didn't say me. I'm talking about stories I've heard.

EDIT::

Holy crap Spluff, where do you live, and how far is it from Jamaica?

[Ballard]

I've definitely hooked up with more than ten people but as for serious (or even partial) relationships, 10 is quite a lot for this age.

[SirJuggles]

Hm. While reading this thread I received a text from a female friend who's still in high school. Apparently her boyfriend had a seizure this morning, and woke up without any memory of who he is or who his girlfriend is. I would call epic con, but he's had a history of seizures and the like, so I'm fairly certain it's legitimate. And so that's the end of THAT relationship.

[onewheelwizzard]

That's some crazy shit.

Anyway, plenty of people never even hit the 10-relationship mark.  Some people have one or two or three relationships in high school tops (usually because they actually last for a while) and many slow down even farther in college.

Also, as someone who only went through 2 or 3 relationships before I got to one that got serious and stuck for a while, if a 16-year-old girl has had 10 relationships, she'll probably look back in 5 or 6 years and think only one or two (or possibly none) of them really counted.

[Spluff]

Yes, obviously if you are going to have long relationships, you will not fit as many in - you do only have so many years under your belt. But the very nature of teenagers means that their relationships are often short.

Going from the anecdotal evidence in this thread, I suppose five relationships would be a better average, then?

[Fenriswolf]

Hm. While reading this thread I received a text from a female friend who's still in high school. Apparently her boyfriend had a seizure this morning, and woke up without any memory of who he is or who his girlfriend is. I would call epic con, but he's had a history of seizures and the like, so I'm fairly certain it's legitimate. And so that's the end of THAT relationship.

What? Holy crap.

[Bayley]

Serious. Isn't that one of the stock plot-lines used in daytime soaps?

[Masterbainter]

Yes, obviously if you are going to have long relationships, you will not fit as many in - you do only have so many years under your belt. But the very nature of teenagers means that their relationships are often short.

Going from the anecdotal evidence in this thread, I suppose five relationships would be a better average, then?

i think it's all depending on what you count as a "relationship"..  You mean, flirty with a boy and no one else during that time.. you mean kissed the boy and no one else during that time.. you mean official lets be bf/gf and with no one else during that time?... or maybe just people you sleep with count?  I'm 24 and I've only had 2 serious relationships, many short tiny pass time relationships and hoping to be started on my 3rd serious as of yesterday .   YAY.. maybe we'll get to here how it ends in a half a year.. or not.  We'll see.

EDIT: My definition of serious relationship - someone that I can see a future with and am hoping is a person that I can come to love and fall in love with that shares the same sort of feelings back(or at least shows or tells the same thing back to me)... I dunno what's yours?

[Masterbainter]

Hm. While reading this thread I received a text from a female friend who's still in high school. Apparently her boyfriend had a seizure this morning, and woke up without any memory of who he is or who his girlfriend is. I would call epic con, but he's had a history of seizures and the like, so I'm fairly certain it's legitimate. And so that's the end of THAT relationship.

That's really crazy.. and really sad.  I hope everything works out.

[jhocking]

And so that's the end of THAT relationship.

Breaking up with someone because they got amnesia certainly sounds like a dick move to me. I mean, I'm just saying.

[Inlander]

Ooh, I haven't heard all those stories! Tell us the stories, Uncle Joe!! Pleeeeaaaaase.

[tania]

wait, was it the girl who broke up with him? i just assumed the opposite. if i got amnesia i probably wouldn't stay in a relationsbip with someone who was now a total stranger... and you're not even really staying in the relationship, you're starting it all over again from scratch, with someone who's claiming to have been your partner. that is tough stuff.

[benji]

wait, was it the girl who broke up with him? i just assumed the opposite. if i got amnesia i probably wouldn't stay in a relationsbip with someone who was now a total stranger... and you're not even really staying in the relationship, you're starting it all over again from scratch, with someone who's claiming to have been your partner. that is tough stuff.

I think it would be hard from both sides. Caring for someone who doesn't remember you would be pretty stressful, and a lot of people might think it was easier to just leave. On the other hand, if I had amnesia and someone was claiming to be my lover, girlfriend, wife, or whatever, I would probably want to keep them around in the hopes that having someone around who should be that familiar to me would help me remember things.

[0bsessions]

Yes, obviously if you are going to have long relationships, you will not fit as many in - you do only have so many years under your belt. But the very nature of teenagers means that their relationships are often short.

Going from the anecdotal evidence in this thread, I suppose five relationships would be a better average, then?

Man, not even outside of maybe Saved By the Bell. Teenagers, more often than not, are naive. I hate to generalize, but teenagers typically have longer non-serious relationships than adults. It gets into the "we'll be together forever and ever and ever" thing with most teenagers who actually even get into relationships in High School. I had one real relationship in High School (I dated two other girls, but only one relationship) and even that wasn't until I was seventeen, and I was actually one of the more 'experienced' kids in my class by graduation.

Nine times out of ten, if a dude says he's been with five girls by the time he's sixteen, he's full of shit and trying to impress his idiot friends who think that's a legitimate qualifier as to how cool he is. Most people who've actually been with that many people at that age don't actually talk about it. The average sixteen year old has been in MAYBE one or two relationships. Five dates, maybe, but only a relationship or two.

This is going to sound terribly bad, but guys simply don't generally get into relationships at that age, it's mostly girls in early High School.
The only big relationships I remember from my class before I turned sixteen were Freshman girls dating Seniors, and those relationships tended to last through to Junior or Senior year. The only guys I remember actually in relationships  before sixteen were guys who were out of the closet by seventeen (All of whom have since admitted their prior "relationships" were mainly just caused by insecurity about being out).

Hell, I'm twenty-four and I've only been in six legitimate instances that I would call a "relationship" and I tend to have short relationships (Outside of Rachel and my first girlfriend, three months is my longest relationship).

[benji]

On the other hand, a 16 year old is much more likely to count 2 dates and making out in the hallway as a "relationship."

[Josefbugman]

I have had one relationship, and loved one person, both different people and I am 19. I am really really slow at all this "relationship" thing.

But then again, most people I know from my home town (its more an enlarged village than anything else) have only had one relationship tops so I suppose its not too weird.

[mishy]

after 9 pages i am beginning to think i'm too old to post on this thread, but fuckit.

a) re: 20-something guys dating high school girls: when i was 17 and some dude was 27 i almost ended up in a fuct up situation like the one previously mentioned. i was *so* naive and sheltered that i got weirded out the first time i hung out at his place and he and his buddy tried to get me to drink alcohol, which i'd never done and had no interest in at the time... i stopped talking to him. i think i avoided a bad call. i'll bet he thought the booze would actually win me over.

b) re: weirdest breakup: we were roommates, renting rooms in a house. he was a geek, i was a geek, us dating was expected by our roommates. he was an asshole and insulted everything i did and thought he was the best at everything he did. he came from some extremist religious family, but he ended up aetheist. still, he was a bit sheltered even at 22 and had hung on needlessly to some religion-based values (his opinion!) like no sex before marriage... which by the time i met him was just "no sex unless you intend to marry her." well, he emotionally abused me by telling me all the things wrong with everything i did so eventually i dumped him. but we were still roommates. and he was still horny and i still wanted attention so i fuct him. and i knew by doing so i would help him overcome that value instilled by his parents... i know it was manipulative, but i felt like i was doing it for his own good.
(i've come a long way since then.)

c) re: the age thing: has always been interesting to me. i dated a guy 9 years older, and stayed friends with him after, and he always asked me for life advice. there was a time when i was trying so hard, and so frustrated by the lack of mature guys that i, too, changed my preferred age range on lavalife to something above my own. but *now* i am dating a guy 7 years younger (had to be convinced before i would even give him a chance, that's how much the age thing mattered to me) and it's been my longest and most successful and happy relationship, and i realize that he's mature for his age, and i'm more like immature... maybe even for *his* age... which is why i'm posting on here anyway...
certainly age is important when one of you is in high school and the other not, or when the gap is many "grades" within school... now i'm dealing with the flip side. young guys generally don't want to think about marriage or kids (young but still older than 9, that is. that was such a cute story, btw.) so here i am, thinking about getting my shit together in the last few years at which bearing children is not yet a health risk, and worrying about how much time i have left, and guys don't have that problem, guys can make babies into their 80s or later, thanks to various drugs advertised in my spam folder. PLUS he's 7 years younger, he's ages away from wanting to think about that next step in life... and i feel like i'm running out of time. well, anyway, i still have *some* time left, i'm not too worried about it today, but there are times.

so ya.. just wanted to throw my 2 cents in there. watch me kill this thread, too, somehow...

[Alex C]

Actually, they've been finding that birth defects are more prevalent with sperm from older guys. Like it or not, we break down as we age. That's life.

[SirJuggles]

Uh, to clarify I believe it's the guy who is instigating the breakup.  I know from experience that the particular female in question can be a bit... clingy. Which is largely the reason I avoid talking to her nowadays. But for the sake of a possibly insane story I'll try to find more details.

[Barmymoo]

I have always wanted an extremely large truck. Perhaps I am dating the wrong guys. (I am dating no guys at all.)

Anyway. I don't know anyone my age who has dated 10 people. I haven't kissed ten people, and obviously as the shameless hussy that I am I have a potential make-out pool that is twice as large as the average person's. Perhaps where you live there is not much else to do?

[Persona]

The weirdest end to a relationship I've bared witness to was my friend Wayne and this chick Aubrey after about 2 months of dating. The weird part was that they never officially ended, but just kind of stopped talking over a summer. Every so often, Wayne'll bring it up and say something along the lines of "I wonder how my girlfriend is doing...", and we'll giggle about it some.  Wayne says if he finds out Aubrey doesn't have a boyfriend in a year or so, he's going to randomly ask her to marry him, citing their 10 year long "relationship".

[Orbert]

Tommy, I've been following this strange and entertaining thread for the whole run, and no, no one had yet reposted that story.  It's a good one, but I didn't repost it either because it wasn't about me, it was my sister.

I'm glad you liked it, though.  It's 100% true, although I did wordsmith it for maximum effect.

[Katherine]

I have been largely ignoring this thread but am I right in thinking that nobody has yet posted Orbert's incredible story about a chap who dumped his sister?

I read that at first as a story about a dude who dumped his own sister.  I guess that would be a weird end of a relationship.  I'm glad it was not that story.

[tania]

i told that story to a friend of mine and he pointed out that liking monster trucks really is one of those interests that just divides people. i mean, if he told me he really liked jazz and i didn't listen to a lot of jazz i'd probably just shrug and accept our differences, whereas if he told me he was really into monster trucks i'd probably react by thinking he was a ridiculous person and i'd totally misjudged him by thinking he might be cool. so we mulled on that a bit and concluded we were kind of close-minded and as soon as the opportunity presented itself we would go to a monster truck event, just to see what it was like and whether one or both of us would end up actually really liking it. unfortunately it hasn't happened yet but it's still on the to-do list last time i checked.

i have also only been in two serious relationships but they were both very long-term ones. however, i also get bored of people quickly and tend to function much better on my own so i don't really bother to take it past the sex. i used to get weirded out (and still do, sometimes) by people complaining about wanting a boyfriend because i need so much alone time to be happy that usually what i want is the opposite, for boys to leave me alone and understand that i'm not interested and can't give them the attention they need. obviously i understand everyone's personality is different and some people are more extroverted than others, but relationships are something i have never really cared much about and i keep forgetting not everyone is like me. i am 21.

edit for clarity - that last bit totally wasn't actually what i wanted to say at all. i should really get into the habit of proofreading my posts. i do care about relationships and the people i start them with. what i meant was that it's the number of relationships i've been in that i don't care about.

[Scandanavian War Machine]

I read that at first as a story about a dude who dumped his own sister.

that's what i thought at first too. honestly, i'm a little disappointed.

[Persona]

Not as disappointed as the made-up sister. 

[jmrz]

Yeah, 10 relationships at 16 is a bit steep. I've had... three serious ones, two non-serious ones and I'm 19 now. First relationship started just before my 16th birthday and lasted nearly two years. Second serious one started a month after my 18th birthday and lasted about eight or nine months. Third serious one is the one I'm currently in and it's the one where the most "serious" stuff has happened - i.e. we practically live together now and it's been something like nine months.

The other two were like, 2/3 months and I don't really class them as serious. I have only ever kissed six guys - the above relationships + one other.

But then, I know people the complete opposite to me - in that they've never had a boyfriend, have made out with lots of guys and never once kissed any of those guys sober. So you know, it can go both ways.

[jhocking]

Search "back in college" and "jhocking" as the username.

Two pages of results.

man, fuck you, I wasn't going to tell this story, but now I am just to spite you.

wait, was it the girl who broke up with him? i just assumed the opposite. if i got amnesia i probably wouldn't stay in a relationsbip with someone who was now a total stranger... and you're not even really staying in the relationship, you're starting it all over again from scratch, with someone who's claiming to have been your partner. that is tough stuff.

Back in college, I had a friend who got amnesia. She spent a couple months figuring out who all her friends were and how they were connected. Even though she couldn't remember them at all, her previous relationships were all important to her because they were the main way she had to reconnect with who she was.

[tania]

yeah, since he said they were in high school i made the (possibly incorrect) assumption it couldn't have been that serious a relationship anyway and it only makes sense that it would end if you had to go through the effort of getting to know them and starting it all over again. in the case of close friends or a long-term partner, i could see how it would be a totally different situation.

[jhocking]

fuct

hee hee

i told that story to a friend of mine and he pointed out that liking monster trucks really is one of those interests that just divides people. i mean, if he told me he really liked jazz and i didn't listen to a lot of jazz i'd probably just shrug and accept our differences, whereas if he told me he was really into monster trucks i'd probably react by thinking he was a ridiculous person and i'd totally misjudged him by thinking he might be cool. so we mulled on that a bit and concluded we were kind of close-minded and as soon as the opportunity presented itself we would go to a monster truck event, just to see what it was like and whether one or both of us would end up actually really liking it. unfortunately it hasn't happened yet but it's still on the to-do list last time i checked.

Definitely go to a monster truck rally sooner rather than later; it is best as a spur of the moment kind of thing, so the longer you wait the less likely it is you will actually go. I am not into monster trucks, but I had fun at the monster truck rally I went to. I think the key is to drink a bunch before you go and then just kinda flow with the sheer absurdity of the entire evening.

[mooface]

i can't help but imagine that must mean sex involving lots of duct tape, and it's kind of a painful thing to think of!

[jhocking]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duct_tape#Etymology

[Runa]

I will be 20 on the 26th this month. I'm currently in my only real serious relationship. I've been seeing him for 6 months, officially dating for 3, at the end of this month I am moving two states away from home to be with him. Before him I was on and off for 4 years with a guy I met at the beginning of high school, during our off time I would try to date other people. He wouldn't say we were serious, I did. Those were a terrible long 4 years.

I'm the opposite of most of the females on here I suppose. When I was a teen I kissed freely and not really flung myself about but now that I look at it and talk to my best friend, I'm not in the double digits but I have more than I really should a female my age. But we all make poor choices in the past, I made more than one.

[tania]

'should' and 'shouldn't' are words that get used far too often when discussing sexual stuff. if you're being safe and considerate, and it's fun, who cares?

[tania]

i get a bit bummed out when people feel guilty about things they should be enjoying and not feeling guilty about, is all

[Runa]

I don't really feel guilty. Some of those times I was like "Ok.. this sucked." but that was more performance than guilt. Haha.

[MrBlu]

Probably your parents.

Yeah, but we're talking about teenagers here.

[Scandanavian War Machine]

teenagers?! where?! They're not on my lawn again, are they?!

[Slick]

i get a bit bummed out when people feel guilty about things they should be enjoying and not feeling guilty about, is all

Man I have this problem constantly. I am working on shaking it, I think I am getting somewhere with that.

[tania]

yeah i didn't really mean to lecture, i realized i don't know your situation at all. everyone here already knows i am kind of slutty, and sometimes whenever other friends of mine are they then feel really guilty and embarrassed about it, and i don't know why cos they had lots of fun and got laid and what isn't great about that? but i am not going to tell you what to do with your life. also, what the hell i need to stop posting in all the sex threads cos i think i am starting to come off as really predictable and sex obsessed.

[tania]

i guess living alone in scotland is okay too.

[michaelicious]

I went to a monster truck thing when I was a little kid and I was so scared that I cried the whole time.

[Slick]

I went to a monster truck thing when I was a little kid and I was so scared that I cried the whole time.

I really am not sure what you were going for with this post but it has made me laugh aloud in a way a fine sharp cheese makes me smile a quaint little crooked smile in delight.

[michaelicious]

I guess I probably should have quoted something from the conversation about monster trucks higher up on the page.

[Slick]

Man I hadn't looked higher up on the page because I was really hoping that that was your response to Tania's divergence.