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Anyone in a similar position to Martin?
Shawn:
Most of my friends are also female because, like norcekri and King_of_Somewhere mentioned, most other guys (especially in the 15-30 age-range) are immature, over competitive, and incapable of any real emotional or intellectual depth.
Women are more fun for me. I enjoy being around them because, contrary to popular belief, they don't have all insecurities and hang-ups that men do. Men are always worried about seeming gay, or seeming weak, so they're always in a constant mode of overcompensation. I can't stand that kind of anxiety from other people - I have more than enough anxiety all on my own.
Women just do what they do. They feel safe to enjoy something artistic, or to have an intelligent conversation, or to express emotion. It's funny, because other men of similar age seem to suspect I'm gay because I hang out with women. I've never understood that. If anything, I'm more straight than most other guys because my attraction to women extends beyond just sex. But hanging out with women breaks one of the 'male rules,' thus making me 'unmanly' to them, and therefore unliked. "They" (said while aware that I am a straight male in the 15-30 age-range) seem to take the attitude that if they can't fuck it, eat it, or throw it, they aren't interested in it. When ever my female friends are having guy-problems I always joke that "I am a man, and yet still cannot understand them."
I actually enjoy the complexity of women. Subtext to conversations, emotions, intelligent and friendly debates, and the ability to have disagreements but still be close friends. Granted, dating is actually harder, since there is always the fear of loosing a good friend should she and I ever break up. That said, the women I want to be friends with and the women I want to date are generally not the same women. I'm not sure why, because I have friends who are prettier than my exes, but it would actually seem strange to date them. It's just a different type of chemistry I guess.
Masterbainter:
I don't buy any of the BS about being friends with girls because guys are too competitive... Seriously if that is the case then tell me you have never wanted to jump on any of your friends that are girls.
There are a few reasons males are friends with females and none of them involve looking for friendship on a deeper level than what other males can provide... unless that individual is struggling with their sexuality.
(all these examples are straight guys being friends with girls):
you either wanted the chick got stuck in the friend zone and are too pussy to admit it; wanted to get with a girls friend or possibly hoping by hanging out with her you get more chances at women; were forced to befriends with girls because of enviroment and/or your current girlfriend/wife that you can't stand up too; and last but not least you feel you can not dominate in your own gender so you use the alternative is a possibility in doing so.
If it was truly an emotional level thingy that other "guys" can't provide then how is it possible that there is multiple guys stating that fact...
I'm sure everyone is different and I don't know anything about any of you. I have my opinions and view others through a series of point of views and look for the flaws. guys are not friends with girls unless there is an alterior motive!
except me ladies.. i'm especially here for you if your mean boyfriend/husband isn't treatin ya right ;)
Shawn:
--- Quote from: Masterbainter on 24 Dec 2008, 01:24 ---I don't buy any of the BS about being friends with girls because guys are too competitive... Seriously if that is the case then tell me you have never wanted to jump on any of your friends that are girls.
There are a few reasons males are friends with females and none of them involve looking for friendship on a deeper level than what other males can provide... unless that individual is struggling with their sexuality.
(all these examples are straight guys being friends with girls):
you either wanted the chick got stuck in the friend zone and are too pussy to admit it; wanted to get with a girls friend or possibly hoping by hanging out with her you get more chances at women; were forced to befriends with girls because of enviroment and/or your current girlfriend/wife that you can't stand up too; and last but not least you feel you can not dominate in your own gender so you use the alternative is a possibility in doing so.
If it was truly an emotional level thingy that other "guys" can't provide then how is it possible that there is multiple guys stating that fact...
I'm sure everyone is different and I don't know anything about any of you. I have my opinions and view others through a series of point of views and look for the flaws. guys are not friends with girls unless there is an alterior motive!
except me ladies.. i'm especially here for you if your mean boyfriend/husband isn't treatin ya right ;)
--- End quote ---
WOW. I couldn't have asked for a better example of why I don't get along with other men.
Thank you for proving everything I said. That really made my day, lmao.
Masterbainter:
water seeks it's own depth. :lol:
edit: I wanted to add... I may be a little sexist, however how can anyone in this thread not be by what they are stating? Pretty much by telling us that you are friends with women because they have deeper level of "feelings" and are "different" than "horndog" males... you are just in fact stating your sexism. I believe people are people. If you feel you need to make "friends" with just females because you can't stand males maybe you have deeper issues to resolve. JMO
Shawn:
I can't speak for anyone else, but I'll be the first to admit that I have a negative bias toward other men, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't get along with another guy who didn't fall into the stereotype.
I do have guy friends, but only a few, and they pretty much feel the same way I do. The thing is, when I have a choice to interact with another male or interact with a female, I generally feel that the female will be the more interesting and engaging of the two because that's my preference. That said, what I find interesting and engaging is obviously different that what you find interesting and engaging. I never said that guy shouldn't act how they act, or that it's bad for them to follow the stereotype. I said that I don't enjoy the company of someone who I don't get along with, and typically I don't get along with other men (for the various reasons I listed off above).
I hang out with other men, but I usually have a far better time with women, so the male relationships tend to die out. It's not really an active choice, it's just the way things work out.
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