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tania:
yep, i went the majority of my life being told by my ultra-traditional family that if my two main life goals weren't to get married and have a billion babies (again, i have nothing against other people being pregnant, i just don't want to ever do it because it really freaks me out), i was pretty much the most horrible selfish person on earth. so mostly i do not care what anybody thinks of me anymore but also it is really nice to know other people think like me and i am not all that terrible and insane after all!
Fenriswolf:
Yay! I've been pretty lucky in mostly knowing other women who don't want kids and have a non-traditional family. But the idea it's selfish to think that kids should only be born to people who passionately want children and not just everyone with a uterus drives me into a homicidal rage. Well, not quite. :laugh:
I've got the slightest amount of patronising "you'll change your mind when you're older" from my partner's sister in law recently and I have to try really hard not to say "just because you live your life as one big sexual stereotype doesn't mean I have to, fool."
Nodaisho:
--- Quote from: tania on 10 Dec 2008, 16:45 ---"partner" makes me think we could both maybe wrestle
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Isn't that what husbands and wives do? :-D
--- Quote ---and play video games and be best friends who don't fit into stereotypical gender roles and it'll be alright
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Seriously, though, that is pretty much how I feel, and I am a male.
Fenris: It wouldn't surprise me if at a later age (hell, probably not far above the average age here), the body starts bugging you to have kids. Wouldn't change how your mind feels, of course, but it might try.
tania:
i know that they do, it's really just a very picky, personal language thing. that and there's some other stuff about marriage that i find too traditional and annoying. again, i'm not telling other people that it's bad or that they shouldn't do it, i just really do not think it is the thing for me.
Fenriswolf:
--- Quote from: Nodaisho on 10 Dec 2008, 17:03 ---Fenris: It wouldn't surprise me if at a later age (hell, probably not far above the average age here), the body starts bugging you to have kids. Wouldn't change how your mind feels, of course, but it might try.
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Oh I'm sure it will. But doesn't it strike you as incredibly rude to say that to someone? I mean if I decided to have kids later on it's my damn choice and no one ele's business. Bear in mind I feel strongly enough that if I could convince a dr to sterilise me I'd do it: and frankly I don't understand why we're so hung up on letting our hormones rule us. If I regret it it's my decision to regret and my life, good lord.
As for the marriage thing. Lots of people have marriages that are as traditional or non-traditional as any other couple. People are like that. But the historical backdrop of marriage is relevant and I think effects people more than they know. I mean it's not like heterosexual relationships don't already have a strongly socialised structure that's remarkably hard to avoid.
Every relationship I've been in someone's had to say "haha, we know who wears the pants in this relationship!" (a) No, you don't know shit about what I'm like in private. (b) Wow, relationships have to have a "dominant" partner now? Nice to know...
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