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Vendetagainst:
THIS THREAD IS GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION.
Science is serious business
ViolentDove:
Man I want to get a poster of that for the toilet door.
Fenriswolf:
--- Quote from: Nodaisho on 10 Dec 2008, 17:53 ---Oh, I guess I see what you mean. Unwritten laws, and whatnot. Know what the best part about an unwritten law is? They can't jail you for breaking it.
edit: I guess that is kind of glib, but I really tend to not care if I get people's feathers ruffled because of how I behave, so things like that seem rather straightforward to me.
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:D Glib is OK. Personally I'm happy being a big freak and actually try and avoid "fitting in", but what frustrates me is watching mainstream media and societal expectations shape people around me. I hates the mind control! :police:
--- Quote from: spoon_of_grimbo on 10 Dec 2008, 17:56 ---the whole kids thing is kinda weird... i mean, i'm 20 and single, and if the subject comes up in conversation, i'll usually just say i don't really ever wanna be a dad, but i'm not so militantly against the idea that i wouldn't consider it if i met the right girl. i mean, i'm not massively opposed to having a kid running around, i generally get on well with my younger relatives and have done since they were little, but what scares me is the ridiculous amount of influence i'd have on the kid. i mean, most of my habits, mannerisms and attitudes are a result of either picking them up off my parents, or consciously avoiding picking up other habits from my parents. the thought that EVERYTHING I DO during the kid's life up until adolesence could influence the person he/she turns out to be is a fucking scary thought.
my point is, it's something think about, but i don't think anyone could ever be totally 100% certain that they do or do not want kids - hell, probably just about every expecting mother has worries and second thoughts, and same goes for every guy on his way to get a vasectomy. what doesn't help is the people who say things like "that's what life's about, having kids, raising a family" etc.
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See I just wish more people would really think about the bolded part before having kids. I love people who love parenting. I actually really like kids, though babies disturb me and I have little tolerance for brats. I have a friend who's a single mother, she knew when she got pregnant she probably would be. She doesn't care, she loves hanging out with her kid, and hence he's really cool. She's also covered in pastel-coloured tattoos, has white and purple hair and dresses her son in lion outfits as a matter of course. Awesome. :laugh:
I agree no one can be 100% certain about not wanting kids. But I have a long list of logical reasons why I shouldn't procreate and I literally feel about having children the way I do about owning animals - if I feel I'm in a position where I can be a good parent I'd rather foster or adopt kids who need help than add yet another child to the world just because it will have my genes.
Nodaisho:
Yeah, I get what you mean about the influence you have on your kid. I might have one eventually, but I'm determined to wait a while. Three of my cousins have had kids recently, and the amount of responsibility they are dealing with scares me. Especially because they aren't exactly well-off. I'm determined to have a house, money, and some investments before I have a kid, if I ever do. I have thought a lot about genes, mine in specific, and I figured that I've gotten pretty lucky, so I wouldn't feel bad about passing them on to a child.
Fenriswolf:
:-D Yeah my genes aren't so great.
I wouldn't necessarily panic about the money to a huge degree so much as being emotionally ready and stable. Money is important but if you wait until you have "enough" money you'll be waiting forever. You never have enough money for children. lol
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