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Blog Thread II: Beyond Blogosphere.
allison:
Last night I kept getting sexually explicit text messages from a guy I work with. I told him I was uncomfortable with that and he continued to harass me. I'm pretty upset about it because he was the first of my coworkers to be nice to me when I started at this job and I'm not sure what to do.
Jimor:
Allison, it all depends on what you're comfortable with, but the law is completely on your side in this. You can tell him again, saying you'll report any further incidents to your boss, see if that works. If confronting him again isn't something you want to do, go to your boss and let them know, they can give you a rundown of options, but they HAVE to do something otherwise they're on the hook legally.
In the meantime, document, document, document. If you still have the texts, keep them and show them to somebody. If you've deleted them, reconstruct them from memory right now as best you can, plus any verbal harassment you may have experienced. If you've told any friends or shown them the texts, get them to write down what they saw. The more the better here, even if it isn't direct evidence, it counts.
There's no reason you should have to feel uncomfortable at work just because some idiot can't respect boundaries, and there should be a system in place there to make sure it doesn't stay that way. Good luck.
Edit: and yes, harassment laws do cover behavior outside of work itself.
Lunchbox:
Oh hey, Lunchy reporting in with Awesome Job Status.
Today I spent several hours researching Magic: The Gathering and the World of Warcraft trading card game, because the one our company is working on is similar. Then I did some online gambling (also for research because we make those as well) and then I sat around for a bit and ate chocolate biscuits whilst watching the artists, and had to answer such difficult questions as "Does the Dark Elf have pupils or what" and "What sort of loincloth should this ogre be wearing."
allison:
--- Quote from: Jimor on 02 Jun 2009, 03:42 ---There's no reason you should have to feel uncomfortable at work just because some idiot can't respect boundaries, and there should be a system in place there to make sure it doesn't stay that way. Good luck.
--- End quote ---
But we kind of flirt (I'm just naturally flirty and I sometimes don't realize it) and I think I led him on, so I feel really badly... I don't want anyone to get in any trouble. I also really don't want to lose this job, and I'm feeling right now like I should quit.
Lunchbox:
Don't be silly, check with management or (if you have it) HR. There will be measurements in place to stop this sort of thing.
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