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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
allison:
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--- Quote from: allison on 25 Feb 2009, 09:00 ---Why is he so clingy? Why is he rushing everything? Why do I feel like I'm slowly suffocating?
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How long have you been together? One's clinginess and rushing may be a matter of perspective. That said, in my experience, clinginess is the result of feelings of inadequacy or related issues. Have you discussed the problem with him?
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I tried but I am bad at this stuff. I don't want to hurt him.
0bsessions:
See, that's a big part of your problem right there, Allison. An individual can change, we're an adaptive breed. A person will not change, however, if they are not prompted with reason to. If being a sad sack is working for the guy, he's going to keep being a sad sack. Expecting him to change without giving a proper effort to make him do so is the truly unfair situation.
mooface:
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 25 Feb 2009, 09:14 ---If you want to make a move then you should probably make a move. In terms of what to wear, it depends upon your goals for the evening. Do you plan to do the guy? If so, low cut, not slutty and a skirt maybe. You want to potentially tease the guy a bit, but going overboard and making your intent too obvious can be a huge turnoff. I say something low cut and a skirt down past the knees. It looks relatively classy while still being slightly tempting and also dudes love skirts, for many obvious reasons.
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i mostly agree except that the low cut top / short skirt depends on which half of your body is better. if you have great legs but no boobs go for a mini and a flattering, but not revealing, top instead.
MrBlu:
Should I go for the short girl with the WOAH! body who still has feelings for my best friend, or the cool, but not a supermodel girl?
SRS.
20 jazz funk greats:
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 25 Feb 2009, 09:14 ---Breaking up with someone over insecurity is entirely fair. Roughing it out in hopes he'll improve is not fair to either of you. Guys do not grow a pair by being coddled. Tell him what you want and expect of him and if he doesn't live up to your standard, it'll be time to look elsewhere. It may not seem possible, but the only way a guy will grow a pair is by being forced to in a lot of situations. They will eventually adapt.
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i am not sure how to do this. :|
also in other relationship-but-not-really related news there is this other guy i met while taking a bit of a break from clingy boy who did not want a serious relationship and we had a brief friends with benefits thing going on and that was decent but for some reason i decided i would rather have a serious relationship and ended up going back to the boy who does want that. now, yesterday i messaged other boy on facebook asking him if he wants to hang out sometime, just because i am going to be in the city where he lives on friday and seeing him while i'm there might be nice. i didn't say anything that could be considered flirty or suggestive. i'm not trying to fuck him, seriously. however, he was all like "oh i don't think so, i don't wanna make things more complicated between you and your boyfriend". which is respectable, but not the answer i was looking for. also i don't see how hanging out as friends without benefits would ruin everything forever.
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