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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
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--- Quote from: phooey on 25 Feb 2009, 09:02 ---Oh, and I don't need any advice as I'm already too busy coming to terms with the fact that I am going to die alone to even consider a relationship.
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This is the result of either a terminal disease or full blown lack of confidence. See someone in either case.
0bsessions:
--- Quote from: valley_parade on 25 Feb 2009, 09:02 ---Why do all the girls I have things for either have boyfriends or are just not interested?
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Because you lack confidence. Seriously guys, stop developing a fucking theme for me. I am more than passingly familiar with your situations, Shane, and your biggest problems are a lack of confidence and initiative. Bluntly speaking: you wait too long. If you dig a girl, let her know. Don't wait a month and THEN let her know. If she says no, big whoop, try again with someone else.
Emaline:
Dear Dating Thread,
I recently scored a ....get-togetherish-maybe-dateish-thing with an old crush. When I ran into him recently, I super blushed at him and old feelings are totally still kinda there. Should I make a move on this "date"? What should I wear, something low cut and slutty or something nice, and fancy, or something just totally laidback, that will probably make me look like a boy? Should I wear a skirt??
Please help me, dating thread.
With love,
Emaline
20 jazz funk greats:
--- Quote from: allison on 25 Feb 2009, 09:00 ---Why is he so clingy? Why is he rushing everything? Why do I feel like I'm slowly suffocating?
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this. sort of.
except i understand why he's clingy and somewhat paranoid (low self esteem, mostly. i have been trying to do things to improve his self-esteem but i don't feel like i've accomplished much), i just don't like it at all, and find it hard to deal with and i guess my question would be "is staying with someone like that worthwhile or is it just going to drive me completely crazy in the end and make me flip the fuck out?" he is a decent guy with some issues. i don't really think breaking up with him over them would be fair and i am not expecting to find someone who is "perfectly normal" because i don't think that's realistic.
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--- Quote from: Emaline on 25 Feb 2009, 09:07 ---I recently scored a ....get-togetherish-maybe-dateish-thing with an old crush. When I ran into him recently, I super blushed at him and old feelings are totally still kinda there. Should I make a move on this "date"? What should I wear, something low cut and slutty or something nice, and fancy, or something just totally laidback, that will probably make me look like a boy? Should I wear a skirt??
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If you want to make a move then you should probably make a move. In terms of what to wear, it depends upon your goals for the evening. Do you plan to do the guy? If so, low cut, not slutty and a skirt maybe. You want to potentially tease the guy a bit, but going overboard and making your intent too obvious can be a huge turnoff. I say something low cut and a skirt down past the knees. It looks relatively classy while still being slightly tempting and also dudes love skirts, for many obvious reasons.
--- Quote from: 20 jazz funk greats on 25 Feb 2009, 09:10 ---except i understand why he's clingy and somewhat paranoid (low self esteem, mostly. i have been trying to do things to improve his self-esteem but i don't feel like i've accomplished much), i just don't like it at all, and find it hard to deal with and i guess my question would be "is staying with someone like that worthwhile or is it just going to drive me completely crazy in the end and make me flip the fuck out?" he is a decent guy with some issues. i don't really think breaking up with him over them would be fair and i am not expecting to find someone who is "perfectly normal" because i don't think that's realistic.
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Breaking up with someone over insecurity is entirely fair. Roughing it out in hopes he'll improve is not fair to either of you. Guys do not grow a pair by being coddled. Tell him what you want and expect of him and if he doesn't live up to your standard, it'll be time to look elsewhere. It may not seem possible, but the only way a guy will grow a pair is by being forced to in a lot of situations. They will eventually adapt.
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