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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
Masterbainter:
She already has made it pretty clear, from what I read.
I'm guessing alot of you guys like to sit there in the friend zone. He told her how he felt and went extreme as to getting her and "debt incurring ring". If he doesn't get the hint by now... then he's gonna sit there constantly trying to(although he isn't aware is even trying to) cause problems for her and future relationships.
I truly feel sorry for anyone who feels that they need a friend who'd be willing to bust up a relationship, because they were too pussy to pursue one when that person was available.
Girls do this shit to me all the time. They never say anything about how they like me or want to be with me when I'm single, then I start dating someone seriously and they come up to me, text me, call me professing how they feel for me. It's a bunch of bullshit. Guys do the same thing(the case at hand). Grow up. Go after people that don't have something going for them.
But w/e believe that it's okay to sit there and try to mingle where you shouldn't. Don't have respect for your "friend". Don't show others respect. It's okay, really.
Windyo:
There IS a difference between taking your chance even if the girl/guy is dating someone, taking your chance AFTER he/she starts dating someone, and continuing to take your chances repeatedly after she/he is dating someone.
What my point is, is that it's perfectly ok to chase someone who's dating someone else. But evidently of you get rejected, you have to just stop trying.
As for the "I'll take my chance now he/she is dating someone", that's just plain retarded. I once asked a girl who did that to me why she would wait all that darn time anyway and tell me AFTER it didn't make a difference; the answer was "if you reject me while in a couple, I can assume it's because of the couple and not becaues of me"... Which is also pretty retarded.
Anyway to get back on subject, in her case it's perfectly clear the guy should just calm down, but that's not extrapolatable to any given situation.
FYI Masterbrainer : Nope I don't stay i nthe friend zone, and have been in a happy couple for two years now, thank you.
EDIT @ Brainmaster : If the guy reacts, there's no problem to be had. Of course it's ennerving, it's just part of life. I for once don't try and score dated chicks, but when it happens, you just deal with it.
Masterbainter:
It's just my own personal thing, not to jump in on someone else's shit. I have my own reasons and other reason I think are legitimate to my outlook on it.
How would you feel if you were dating a girl and her guy friend was constantly trying to weasel his way in? You gonna sit back and be like, "Oh that's okay that he's totally wanting you and putting you in a awkward situation, baby!"? Trust me, you do that and your girl is gonna wonder if you even care for her and what you and her may have.
You're putting many parties here at risk of no needed drama. Relationships are already hard enough on people. Why try to be a home wrecker?
If they weren't met to be then, let them run their course, stay the good friend. When she's single, make your move. If she has real true feelings for this guy then you are making things really hard for her. Pretty much causing her to make a choice, which won't be a benefit to you and her in the future.
Sorry, this is the last I'll say about the issue, I think it's pretty clear what my opinion is. :)
elizaknowswhatshesfor:
Recently I was absolutely convinced that there was a gril after my boyfriend, they had known each other a little for a while & she'd only started being flirty when I came along. It was made worse by the fact both their bands are going on tour together.
He told me not to be silly and that he was with me, no-one else. (My paranoia stems from the fact I had a crush on him for 7 years and am still slightly in shock he's my boyfriend...)
I decided the best way to deal with it was to be super nice to her so she'd feel to guilty to try it on with him. It worked better than I could of imagined. I discovered she is awesome, I have a great new friend, also that, here's the kicker, she actually has a massive crush on someone else. Not interested in my boy at all...
The reason she was being more friendly to him was because as he had a girlfriend she felt more comfortable around him because he was taken, her friendlyness was less liekly to be misconstrued.
I write this as a counter point to say sometimes the world and the people in it are nicer than you think, peoples actions don't always come from a bad place.
(Sorry for my terrible english in this post, I've just given blood & feel a bit woozy.)
Eris:
--- Quote ---I think I'll probably make some kind of move, I am just trying to decide whether it be sitting down and telling her how I feel (again) or maybe using one of the countless opportunities she gives me to kiss her.
--- End quote ---
Sounds like not is not the only one fucking with people's heads. At least from his perspective. From what he has said it almost sounds as if she is trying to have her cake and eat it too, keeping him around but not making a commitment because she doesn't want to ruin blah blah blah.
My advice is to tell her your feelings again, and see what she chooses. If she chooses you then happy days; if she chooses her boyfriend then let it go. If she keeps acting like she is and playing with your head while having a boyfriend, call her out on it and tell her to cut it out.
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