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Lise:
Me too, Katie, I'm starting to rethink my "ideal image of a guy" because I miss snuggles as well.
Boyfriend-for-now ain't too shabby, yeah?? Webcest doesn't count!
PS: bbq, you're in a really tough situation :-(, and neither you nor your ex-girlfriend can be blamed entirely for what happened. My suggestion to you would be to hang tight, and who knows, perhaps the two of you might get back in a relationship together. Or you might enjoy being single for awhile or find another gal who's totally into you (and isn't put off by any of your female friends). Good luck with everything!
calenlass:
I was actually contemplating propositioning one of my friends and seeing if he could be trusted to stay emotionally uninvolved. But then I found out today that he is dating his codependent ex again and I decided that it was not a great idea anyway, but that at least I hadn't had to realise it the hard way. (Now I am just back to questioning his character judgment. How can he want to date that?)
bbq:
--- Quote ---PS: bbq, you're in a really tough situation :-(, and neither you nor your ex-girlfriend can be blamed entirely for what happened. My suggestion to you would be to hang tight, and who knows, perhaps the two of you might get back in a relationship together. Or you might enjoy being single for awhile or find another gal who's totally into you (and isn't put off by any of your female friends). Good luck with everything!
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Cheers. :-) I think I'm gonna work on it for a while, see what happens. Thanks for the help guys.
tania:
--- Quote from: calenlass on 28 Aug 2009, 23:32 ---(Now I am just back to questioning his character judgment. How can he want to date that?)
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probably has less to do with attraction and a lot more to do with mistaking pity and obligation for attraction, imo. i had a best friend years back who is an absolutely incredible person and was involved with a codependent girl who was kind of a train wreck for almost two years and every time i brought up the question "okay, so, uh, why are you still with her?" in response to him discussing relationship problems with me, the answer was always something along the lines of how he just felt bad for her and wanted to help her become more stable. then he finally realized that it wasn't his job to be her parent and ended it. for the duration of the relationship and a little while after i judged him pretty harshly as well cos i couldn't figure out how he could be attracted to women like that without being a complete chauvinist, except i've known him for years and he's obviously neither sexist nor a chauvinist (he was my best friend and put up with me all the time too, after all) so that accusation was pretty ridiculous. in the end it was really more a case of him trying much too hard to help, rather than hurt, someone he cared about and then having absolutely no idea where to draw the line. we still keep in touch and as far as i know he hasn't been involved with any other codependent women since then.
nobo:
--- Quote from: calenlass on 28 Aug 2009, 23:32 ---(Now I am just back to questioning his character judgment. How can he want to date that?)
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you see what you said over here:
--- Quote from: calenlass on 28 Aug 2009, 22:49 ---Sometimes I wish I was less picky about people. I miss snuggles. :(
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he could very well be in the exact same situation. not looking for miss right, just looking for miss right now. can't question a guys judgement for doing that especially if you're considering lowering your standards as well.
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