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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
tania:
--- Quote from: jmrz on 07 Sep 2009, 19:43 ---I just couldn't bring myself to tell any of them that I wasn't actually interested a whole deal because each of them are all decent guys and are quite lovely, yet I didn't want to upset them or seem like a horrible person and just took the easy way out kind of?
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you still gave them a response, though, which is a huge step up imo from the easiest way out, that of completely avoiding any kind of response altogether.
re: maiada's situation - wanting to avoid confrontation is a natural response, actually making the physical effort to avoid it at all times isn't. part of being a mature adult who has relationships with other people is knowing when to stop avoiding problems and be considerate toward others, even if it sucks and involves having to go through the effort of providing an explanation and feeling guilty and all that fun stuff. the guy probably isn't just an oblivious space case since the only time he seems to conveniently forget to respond to text messages is when they involve the subject of arranging a date to hang out. excluding instances of being busy/being oblivious/etc and counting only those where a person deliberately and repeatedly avoids confrontation when it involves the feelings of other people, i think it's a pretty self-centered dick move nearly any way you look at it.
iamiam:
guys i know i probably sound really melodramatic and sad, but it's mostly exaggeration for humorous effect (which i apparently failed at). i haven't actually been rejected. i think you have to actually ask someone out and clarify your feelings for them before that can happen?
what has happened is this: first, he casually asks me "out" for hang outs repeatedly, and is the one to suggest establishing concrete plans. i accept and agree with this idea. he then suddenly goes from initiator to totally unresponsive. (does this technically mean that he totally rejected himself?)
this is sort of weird right? let's put aside any romantic notions whatsoever. why would you seemingly really want to be friends with someone and then suddenly stop caring at all?
that was a rhetorical question, because you've all pretty much given your answers and thank you for that. reading your responses was interesting. however, i don't actually need a pep talk because even though i may insist that 'my heart is broken because the man i am totally in love doesn't love me back and that's sooo not fair', i actually don't mean it. thanks for the advice anyways.
Jaclyn:
Guys help I think I am in love with a piece of furniture.
KvP:
I'm going to assume you mean you're in love with furniture the same way Mai is in love with with shoes or I'm in love with the Roland TB-303, not that you're actually an objectum sexual.
Because that would be odd.
Reed:
John, why you gotta hate on those that are different from you?
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