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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
Lise:
Dayman... AhHHHHHhhhh, fighter of the night man.... AHhhh, champion of the sun~
I think I love you already, Brittany!
Haha, sorry for the off topic, guys. I had to go there.
KvP:
--- Quote from: Lise on 07 Mar 2009, 12:17 ---I'm not against the idea of being friends with an ex, but I don't think it's healthy/possible if you broke up on bad terms (someone please prove me wrong!). Mutual friends have told me that the guy I'm seeing took a big risk with this girl emotionally, and she quoteunquote "did him dirty." Apparently he described the breakup as having his "heart torn asunder." Coming from a guy who rarely shows vulnerability, that statement sounds like a big deal. I honestly don't think he's over her, and if he's still keeping her old texts, messages, and lying about present conversations, that only solidifies my opinion of that. (Please note I haven't been snooping, guys, he unwittingly shows me). Even if you can't forgive someone for hurting you like that, I can still see why any form of flattery from them might give you satisfaction. So as a girl who genuinely cares for him, I feel inadequate because I can't provide that... yeah, weird feeling.
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You can be friends with somebody after a bad breakup but it takes the tincture of time and only time to really heal that sort of thing (from what I've witnessed it takes a good few months at least of no contact at all before exes can be on good terms after a bad split). Being friends with exes is perfectly fine and IMO is an indicator of a person's good... lovership? If your bf/gf is not on good terms with any of their exes, it could be because they've dated only assholes, but the common denominator in all those relationships is your bf/gf. Chances are they're the problem.
But you ought to get over your ex romantically after a certain point, and given that you say the breakup was few years(!) ago and he's not above-board with this problem he has I'd say yeah, this guy is not worth it. If I were in your situation I'd tell him straight up that he was using and manipulating me (which is exactly what he's doing to you) and I would still dump his ass even if he makes grand proclamations about rehabilitating himself. You really want a relationship and he's exploiting that to get his needs met without reciprocating, and that's cruel. With any luck it'll slap some sense into him and the next girl he finds he won't jerk around.
Lunchbox:
Hey Relationship thread, Maybe you will have better advice than my sex-crazed boss!
I have been been seeing a guy for a couple of months and I really really like him but in a month he will be leaving for overseas and not returning for about 15 months. What should I do?
I am pretty bummed out but I know that this is a really awesome thing for him so I think I should just enjoy the last couple of weeks I have with him and leave it at that. This is healthier than clining to him and wheezing "I'LL WAAAIT FOR YOOOUU," right?
Spluff:
It sounds like you have already figured out what to do.
BrittanyMarie:
I guess I'd say what you are planning to do is the best.
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