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Ozymandias:
I was hoping "this" was a link.

onewheelwizzard:
When I'm asking someone out, I don't even use the words "go out" ... they carry an unnecessary connotation.  I tend to use a two-part format of expressing my attraction to the person in an abstract fashion (so that they don't think I'm specifically looking for sex or specifically trying to avoid it), and then asking if they want to share a specific activity with me that offers a context for partnership-style connection.

Examples:
(To someone I only recently met) "Hey, I really enjoyed talking to you.  Would you like to have dinner somewhere sometime next week?"
(To an established acquaintance) "You know, I think I'd really enjoy it if we hung out more often.  Want to check out [upcoming event] with me?  We can hang out and get some food beforehand."

You get the idea.  Make a statement of attraction without asking for it back, and make a request for further connection that isn't actually a request for a new definition of the relationship.  It offers them the choice to redefine the way they see you as a potential partner, without telling them that something will go wrong if they decide otherwise ... and then drops an opportunity into their lap that lets them have fun doing it if they choose to.  It's the perfect way to encourage someone to find out why you're actually a likable person (or, if they already know that, why you'd make a good partner).

negative creep:
Yeah, my use of the words "go out" was just because I wouldn't actually say something like that in english. I see how they can sound wrong in a situation like that, though.

J-cob9000:
Okay, so now it is pertaining to me. There's a rather nice girl that I would very much like to get to know better. I don't know her all that much but I am talking to her more and more and would very much like to be in some sort of relationship that is beyond friendship.
Being me and me being an epic loser, I'm not all that sure of how to ask someone out in a high school context.
Would it be more of a, "Hey, wanna be my girlfriend?"
Or a, "Hey, we should go to a movie on friday."
I know that once you're outside of high school, it's more the latter but in high school, you'd have to be kind of direct with it, right?
Excuse my ignorance.
Thanks.

tania:
i'd say the latter. take her out to a movie or something and see how she feels about spending time with just you and her. if she's into it then maybe you ask her out again. then, i dunno, after you've spent some time together and you're pretty sure she likes you as much as you like her, i guess that would be the right time to ask if she's interested in a relationship. i know high school dating tends to be pretty superficial but still, i don't think most people would jump straight into a relationship with someone they didn't really know. it's probably better to ask them out on a date or something first.

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