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Yeah, ask something more along the lines of "do you want to see a movie" and not "wanna be my gf." Then again, movies really aren't a good way to get to know someone, because you're sitting in a theater not talking for about 2 hours. Ask her if she wants to go get food sometime, go to an arcade, or hang out at the park, etc. I don't really know you or this girl, but ask her to do something you both enjoy so you can talk and get to know her.

onewheelwizzard:
I agree with the people who have been saying that you should not lead off your proposition for getting to know her better by asking her if she wants to define you as her boyfriend.  However, you should probably make it clear by the end of the first date that heading in the direction of that definition is something you're interested in doing.

Basically you want to do two things: you want to give her the chance to take as much time as she needs to make up her mind, AND you want to continue to give her new and better reasons to go ahead and enter the relationship.  A relationship that begins because one person felt like they had to enter it when they did for some reason is unlikely to succeed.

Barmymoo:
I always have a bit of a problem with this kind of thing because as well as not knowing for sure if the other person is actually interested in me, I also don't usually know if they're interested in my gender in general. The Girl From Work who I have a bit of a thing for is definitely straight so that's both questions answered at once but even so I'm having difficulty engineering situations where we see each other outside the workplace. I guess this is a crossover between relationships and friendships: I only want to be friends with her, but I want to be friends with her because I'm a little bit in love with her and just having her around makes me incredibly happy. But I don't want to say that to her because I'm worried she would freak out and never speak to me again.

Also, is it fairly normal to go through a period of being quite indiscriminately interested in sex at about fifteen and then not be at all interested at all by 18? I haven't been sexually attracted to anyone in nearly two years now and I was wondering if this is maybe a hormone rebalance thing that I'm going through? I'd quite like to enjoy sex at some point in the future, I don't want to be asexual.



Wow. I feel like I just exposed my soul to a room full of strangers. Time to get off the Internet.

KvP:
Could be any number of things. It seems like for most men sexual drive never drastically flags (outside of situations of high stress and the like) but there are tales abound of women who lose interest in sex at any age. You could have a testosterone imbalance, or you could just not really be into it right now. It's probably not anything to be seriously worried about.

pwhodges:
Probably more men than you imply go through periods of greatly reduced sexual urges; but this is quite normal, and can be dramatically reversed under suitable circumstances - as I discovered in my mid-40s.

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