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ViolentDove:
--- Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 26 Mar 2009, 20:38 ---Those aspects of my being will never change. They are fundamental and permanent facets of my nature. I don't need to "work on" eating, whatever that means. I will never drink. Ever. However, I do not have a problem with going outside. It is merely my distaste for sunlight that has grown steadily for the passed decade of my life, and that's never going to change either.
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You said you don't like going out to eat because it makes your "face puff up" which sounds like an allergic reaction. I don't know if that's the case, 'cause you didn't go into more detail. if it is the case, there're things you can do to stop this happening like taking small doses of antihistamines, or getting an allergen test to determine what you should avoid. Acne can be treated in many cases as well. As for drinking, you didn't say why you didn't like drinking, so I can't really offer any advice on that, save that I have plenty of friends who don't enjoy getting drunk, but quite enjoy a social beer/wine or two. There is a great difference between getting drunk and going out for a drink! If it's the taste of alcoholic drinks you don't like, well taste can be aquired and new drinks discovered. As for sunlight, you can wear sunglasses. Or a hat. Or a parasol. Or all of the above.
I guess I can't really understand why you'd think these things would be permanent facets of your nature, because they all seem quite mutable to me if you were so inclined. Unless there's more to it.
McTaggart:
NQG you can be like that all you want and I guess that is ok but you're going to have a bunch of trouble meeting people.
Also, even I know of restaurants in San Fransisco that I would drive an hour to go to. Hell, I spend an hour getting to uni and another one getting back every day; I wouldn't even think twice about it.
Get over your sunlight issue and find a favourite spot on that river at least.
Oh, also that place called Napa means you're right near a wine region right? Sometimes wineries have excellent restaurants right there.
Reed:
I think you'll need to give in on some of your requirements. There are a lot of great places to take a date in the Bay Area, but most of them involve eating, drinking or daylight. You don't even need to go all the way to SF for a great restaurant, Berkeley has plenty. Napa and the rest of the wine country also have some really great places to eat.
Inlander:
It's not even about the area you live in. The fact is that if you want to meet people you have to go and do things in the places where other people are. It's a purely percentages game: if you think about it, the percentage of people you meet who (A) are single, (B) match your sexual orientation, (C) don't have their eye on someone other than you, and (D) are willing to consider you as a romantic or sexual partner, must be pretty damn small. If you only meet a few people a year, there's a good chance it's going to take you decades to find someone who'll be interested in you. And in our society if you don't go out in daylight, or go to places where people are drinking, or go to places where people are eating, you're probably only going to meet a few people a year. So holding onto your principals is fine and all (if that's all it is), but strap yourself in for the long haul.
onewheelwizzard:
--- Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 26 Mar 2009, 20:38 ---I take offense at the notion that being sober and nocturnal makes me unpleasant to be around.
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Well I think might be your problem then. A lot of people are going to think this. Getting offended by it is probably where the contempt you were talking about comes from. If you feel offended when people fail to enjoy themselves around you, because of differences between your personal preferences as to how to have a good time, you're going to end up offended by most people you know. I mean, I think your aversion to sunlight means you're missing out on a lot of awesome stuff you could otherwise be doing. Are you offended by that? Or do I have to cross the line into explicitly saying you're actually a full-on wet blanket because of this (I don't believe that that's true but for all I know it might be), before you start getting upset? How OK are you with people who disagree with you, basically?
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