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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
NeverQuiteGoth:
--- Quote from: onewheelwizzard on 26 Mar 2009, 23:05 ---Well I think might be your problem then. A lot of people are going to think this. Getting offended by it is probably where the contempt you were talking about comes from. If you feel offended when people fail to enjoy themselves around you, because of differences between your personal preferences as to how to have a good time, you're going to end up offended by most people you know.
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This isn't true at all. That is not why I feel contempt for some people, and if a person finds me unpleasant to be around, that doesn't offend me at all.
--- Quote --- I mean, I think your aversion to sunlight means you're missing out on a lot of awesome stuff you could otherwise be doing.
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No question there. I agree completely. :-(
--- Quote --- Or do I have to cross the line into explicitly saying you're actually a full-on wet blanket because of this (I don't believe that that's true but for all I know it might be), before you start getting upset?
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Even that would not offend me, because "wet blanket" is a subjective term so I have no ground from which to refute its truth from your perspective.
I do my best not to be a wet blanket and if I fail in some peoples eyes there is nothing I can do about it.
--- Quote --- How OK are you with people who disagree with you, basically?
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Most people tend to disagree with me about most things, so it doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Not understanding me ticks me off more than disagreeing with me, which still isn't much.
Having major components of my person belittled as curable defects, pisses me off almost as much as being told shit I already know, though.
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 27 Mar 2009, 00:23 ---Having major components of my person belittled as curable defects, pisses me off almost as much as being told shit I already know, though.
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You asked; people answered. This is not belittling.
You are over-reacting to comments; for instance, not being fun to be with is not the same as being unpleasant to be around.
And to be talking about not changing, at your age, is silly - one day you will look back and see this was so.
Nodaisho:
NQG, have you tried sunglasses and sunscreen for when you have to be out in daylight? I don't like it either, but I deal with it. I tend to forget the sunscreen part, though. Are there any really thick forests around where you are? That could at least keep you in shadows rather than direct sunlight.
Other than that, moving away somewhere to your north when you can would be the only way I can think of to minimize the need to be out in the sun.
Jimmy the Squid:
--- Quote from: NeverQuiteGoth on 26 Mar 2009, 15:37 ---I don't like alcohol or caffeine, and eating food makes my face puff up and my acne stand out,
so,
what does that leave? Where the hell can I take a girl on a date? Especially a first date?
Second question. Why might I have a consistent track record of girls I know over the internet falling for me, but nearly every girl I meet in-person looks at me like I'm a piece of furniture? (Except for the one that I knew online FIRST, when I met her in person, she took my virginity and then some)
That "there are no girls on the internet" meme should read "there are no girls from California on the internet" lmao
Lastly, why, when I do meet a girl who doesn't look at me like I'm furniture, do I always seem to end up feeling such contempt for her that by the time she's willing to sleep with me I want nothing to do with her?
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Ok, first question.
Move on from your problem with going to the movies. It is something you can do at night and sure there may not be talking while at the actual cinema but you then get a whole lot to talk about right after. You don't need to eat or drink to do that.
Another option is a museum or art gallery. Interesting stuff to talk about, little sunlight, no need to drink or eat unless you are hungry.
Also take Violentdove's advice on finding out what you're allergic to. You can probably take care of it pretty easily by keeping an eye on what you put in your mouth. Seriously, it's not even a thing.
I do not drink alcohol or caffeine. I am reliably informed I am still ok to be with. If someone wants to go get coffee, you can get a milkshake or an iced/hot chocolate or something. Coffee shops have other drinks. If you don't drink just say so. If someone will only hang out with you if you're going to get drunk with them then they are probably not that fun to be around anyway.
Second question:
You're probably a nice person and if you're anything like me (which I kind of feel like you are) you are probably reasonably charming/witty/interesting via a text based medium as you can monitor your responses and you have time to order your thoughts. You don't have to worry about embarrassing yourself because, hey, you can always stop talking to the person. In meatlife you're probably more shy, more reserved, maybe even a little aloof and people will probably read that as standoffish and it turns out girls don't like guys who are standoffish and boring to talk to.
Last question:
See the response above? A girl who is into a guy who is standoffish and appears to be unfriendly probably has hell of issues. You may or may not be able to tell what those issues are but either way you are probably aware that this is not really the kind of girl you want to be with. Along with your aloofness is a slight arrogance that turns a general dislike into actual contempt, as you put it. I know, I do the same thing.
Now, tell me how right I was.
NeverQuiteGoth:
--- Quote from: pwhodges on 27 Mar 2009, 00:55 ---You asked; people answered. This is not belittling.
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"You just need to get over it" is belittling. But I'm not overreacting, I'm just trying to be clear is all.
--- Quote from: Nodaisho on 27 Mar 2009, 01:36 ---NQG, have you tried sunglasses and sunscreen for when you have to be out in daylight? I don't like it either, but I deal with it.
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I have a pair of (very expensive) sunglasses that I've had for five years now, that I had get a note to wear to school ever day for my junior and senior years, and am still basically chained to them if I want to leave the house during the day.
As for sunscreen, I've never had a problem with skinburns. Usually I've gotten pseudo-feverish(all the physical signs of a fever, except the actual raised temperature) and started losing motor control long before I would have to start worrying about skin burns. (but I don't want to get into that, and you don't need to know any more than that, about that. Move on.)
--- Quote ---Other than that, moving away somewhere to your north when you can would be the only way I can think of to minimize the need to be out in the sun.
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Already in the works, but another several years away at least.
--- Quote from: Jimmy the Squid on 27 Mar 2009, 01:41 ---Also take Violentdove's advice on finding out what you're allergic to. You can probably take care of it pretty easily by keeping an eye on what you put in your mouth. Seriously, it's not even a thing.
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I'm not allergic to anything in the realm of food. I never said anything about any allergies. I have no idea how people are getting that from my mention of the normal over-hydration and increased blood flow in the soft tissues after food ingestion.
--- Quote --- If you don't drink just say so. If someone will only hang out with you if you're going to get drunk with them then they are probably not that fun to be around anyway.
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Thank you. That's what I've been saying.
--- Quote ---Second question:
You're probably a nice person and if you're anything like me (which I kind of feel like you are) you are probably reasonably charming/witty/interesting via a text based medium as you can monitor your responses and you have time to order your thoughts. You don't have to worry about embarrassing yourself because, hey, you can always stop talking to the person. In meatlife you're probably more shy, more reserved, maybe even a little aloof and people will probably read that as standoffish and it turns out girls don't like guys who are standoffish and boring to talk to.
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Okay, you're probably pretty right about most of that. But I have been getting better in that area. I'm really haven't been "standoffish" since high school. It's still beyond me to start a conversation in most circumstances, but engaging in one not so much anymore. So I think you're half-right. Three years ago you would have been 100% right, though.
--- Quote ---Last question:
See the response above? A girl who is into a guy who is standoffish and appears to be unfriendly probably has hell of issues. You may or may not be able to tell what those issues are but either way you are probably aware that this is not really the kind of girl you want to be with. Along with your aloofness is a slight arrogance that turns a general dislike into actual contempt, as you put it. I know, I do the same thing.
Now, tell me how right I was.
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Yes and no.
Yes, I may simply not be initially attractive to the right kind of girls. I went out with one girl who was a Twilight freak and who thought I was Edward-esqe (*retch*), who I dumped after five dates, even though she was basically ready to jump my bones.
No, that wouldn't be the whole problem, because that shyness->standoffishness evaporates quite quickly once I know the girl is genuinely interested in me, and my true personality does surface.
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