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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
Inlander:
The big question that so far doesn't seem to have been asked or answered is: are any of your expressed habits the result of illness (for example, skin reacting badly to sunlight, an allergy to alcohol), or are they just personal preferences? Because if it's the latter and if you're only nineteen like it says you are in your profile then you're being hopelessly naive at best and dangerously fatalist at worst if you seriously think that you can't change any of these aspect of your personality. Assuming you might want to.
axerton:
At first I was going to post something very harsh in response to your question, but having had a bit of time to think about it I shall instead say:
I think you're asking the wrong question. You seem to be trying to find places to take 'normal' girls on a date. you are however clearly not a 'normal' guy - not drinking alchol or coffee is acceptable, I don't drink either of these as well, but your aversion to sunlight definatly shunts you out of 'normal' and into, for want of a better term, 'batcave dweller' territory. I think the question you should be asking is "Where can I find a 'batcave dweller' girl?" because then dates will be easy, you simply do the things that you already like to do - assuming you like to do stuff apart from stay indoors all day and make machinima - only this time you have someone with you.
my answer to the qestion I suggest you ask is - I'm not sure, but I'll have a stab in the dark at the internet. go forth, swollow your pride and join a dating site. The demographic of girls your looking for is pretty small so you need as much help as you can get.
Speaking of swallowing your pride, you're not leaving yourself many options, so just go to the damn movies - so what if it's cleche, when it gets rigth down to it, pretty much everything you could do for a first date is cleche, dating is cleche.
valley_parade:
As I've learned from my past three girlfriends, apparently I have this knack of attracting girls that fall for me REALLY hard and then get all crazy.
What's that all about?
(see also: I thought I liked girls with brown eyes, but always end up with blue-eyed girls)
0bsessions:
Disclaimer: I am going to be relatively harsh here. This is not out of hostility, per se, so much as out of how much NQG reminds me of myself as a teenager and we all know how being reminded of oneself at a point in our life we're not fond of can illicit this, so here goes.
NQG, I don't think anyone's really judging you on the not drinking, that's pretty normal. As I mentioned, I didn't drink when I was your age and I was convinced I never would.
It's the daylight thing. Not what I'd call a defect, but it is a clear and present abnormality that you will have to get over if you ever want anything even remotely resembling a normal social life. Humans are naturally diurnal and that means you are acting in an unnatural manner, and I'm not talking the idiot type of unnatural where one claims something's odd just because they don't do it, I'm saying it's unnatural because it goes against our basic biology. I've been a night person before, hated sunlight when I was around seventeen to twenty. Didn't like to go outside if I could help it (Though I at least had major allergies to trees, grass and pollen which contributed to that). Eventually I grew the fuck out of it (And got allergy shots to eliminate the other setback) and since then I've been healthier both physically and emotionally, because that is how our bodies work. Your body is supposed to be getting routine sunlight and your mental health in particular will eventually react adversely to this.
Saying you'll never change is naive at best and full on denial at worst. You are nineteen years old, man. People change and often at that. You're at an age where people change rapidly without even noticing it. The sooner you realize that you are not the same man you will be in ten years, the better off you will be. I don't know a single person my age who fits the description you've given to me because typically when you get to be 25 with a lifestyle like that, nobody will really want to hang out with you due to the severe limitations you are placing on what you are willing to do. If you want to have a social life, you need to sack the fuck up and try to learn to enjoy a few things other people like. If you are unwilling to adapt, be prepared for a lifetime of loneliness and shitty poetry, because that is what you are in for. Yeah, it's great to be a special little snowflake and all that bullshit, but you can only coast so far on that before you get to the point of alienating people as a result of being unwilling to adjust.
What you see as condescending and insulting, I see as people trying to get through your stubborn demeanor to tell you what are essentially facts of life.
BrittanyMarie:
Jon, he won't change. It sounds like a legitimate medical issue he has with sunlight. I'm guessing that based on the fact that he says he loses motor control and he had to have a note to be able to have sunglasses to school. You're acting like he just chooses or just dislikes the sun, which doesn't sound like the truth at all.
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