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Please, Just Let Me Die Already
kitschykat:
So this guy messaged me on a dating website and was all "I might be too old for you..." and I looked at his profile and thought, wow he is really awesome and we have a lot in common, but 34 is too old for 21 year old me. So I messaged him back and said that, but noted that we should chat because he seems really cool. We talked on the internets and it was very nice, and we met up at a local coffee shop (he only lives a few miles away!). When we met it turns out I find him attractive, and I could tell that for some reason in meeting him I felt a bit nervous. It went really well and we talked about 80s cartoons, recent shows we had gone to (it turned out we were at the same one a few months ago), and movies. He invited me to go thriftshopping with him on Saturday, which I might depending on if I am free. We have so much in common I'm a little afraid to post this in case he turns out to post on this forum.
I realized when I got back that I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should be like, "hey never mind on the too old for me thing" or if he's just this new awesome friend I have. What do I dooooooo relationship thread
0bsessions:
If you're attracted to the dude and you guys share a bunch of common interests and have actual things to talk about and have fun doing together, just go for it if you think it might be a good time. Cliche as the saying is, age really is just a number in most cases. I've seen much more ridiculous age differences than that. A couple people in your life might get a little up in arms about it, but it sounds to me like you guys clicked well enough that it might be worth pursuing.
Lunchbox:
34 is not so old for a 21 year old, especially if you find him attractive and you get along well and you don't get any creepy 'Dad vibes' from him. Just take it as a friendship and see what happens I guess!
-Karamazov-:
--- Quote from: Barmymoo on 30 Mar 2009, 13:42 ---I realised today that a guy who I've been getting the same bus as for two years is actually kind of cute (I'd noticed this before in an abstract way), very nice and pretty interesting. I like the idea of being in a relationship with him even though I'm not attracted to him. Is this doomed to failure? I have no idea how he feels about me, I was just wondering really.
Oh and I think I kind of asked him on a date, sort of. We were talking about Duplicity which I'm going to see with some friends and I asked him if he wanted to come too. He seemed keen! I shall decide whether or not I want it to be a date and then we shall see.
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I can't think about that movie without thinking about this picture
In all honesty though, attraction is a tremendous part of a relationship. It depends what you mean by "like the idea of being in an a relationship with him."
Josefbugman:
I am rather pleased to notice that my question has elicited such a wide range of answers, I was expecting a wider and more interesting amount of answers than I got out of real life people, and its good to see that people all want something different.
But I have to ask (and this is partially out of sheer self indulgence) does anyone plan on not having a relationship at all when they got older? Its just that I can quite easily picture myself living alone forever pretty much, and it is starting to worry other people (and myself if I am honest) that nobody else has even considered the possibility outside of there darkest nightmares.
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