But I have to ask (and this is partially out of sheer self indulgence) does anyone plan on not having a relationship at all when they got older?
I don't plan on this one way or the other. Yes, I'd probably enjoy being in a relationship with someone when things settle down and my life is not completely chaotic. Do I need a relationship to complete my life? No, not really. I am fine with being single as long as I have good friends. And good fuck buddies.
That all being said....
Would I be a terrible person if I started an extremely casual relationship with someone who I am not attracted to, nor do I ever have any plans to have any sort of serious or any more serious relationship with this person?*
They give me the attention that I want and I know I could get them to play "boyfriend/girlfriend" with me(meaning: make outs, and snuggles, and "oh my gosh we are head over heels for each other!" but not really being serious about any of it).
*the answer to this question is yes. Yes, I would be a terrible person. This person would get hurt, and it'd be my fault. People are not toys. They are living, breathing things with emotions. Tell me that I should not do this.
Also, a long long long long time ago, I used to sleep with/hang around with this one fellow. Our relationship never meant anything more than banging. Occasionally, we'd just hang out and not fuck, and this was all fine and dandy and fun, and neither of us had any complaints about that. But mostly we just slept together. We ended our relationship rather apathetically, when we both moved away. No one got hurt and occasionally we'd make rather lusty phone calls to each other, but in general we lost touch.
*Now, I am probably moving to the same neighborhood as him, and I have been really tempted to start our relationship up with him. I talked to him just the other day and he seems pretty ok with it. One of my friends is concerned that I will just end up hurt if I do start up this relationship with this guy. What are your thoughts?
*this is if I don't start up the relationship with the other fellow.