So,
I really really don't know what to do. Its like I'm going to hate myself for any of my options. I don't know what the fuck to do.
Let me try to explain.
The girl I met off OKcupid last month. We STILL haven't seen each other again, though she texts me semi-daily with a "Hi" or a "Hey" that I respond to but then get nothing more from her except sometimes another empty greeting. I can't call her because she doesn't want her parents to know about me and they're nosy. The few times she's called me have all been at times where I just happen to be away from my phone and unable to hear it ring, so the only conversations we have are over YIM, which she's almost never on.
That's just the backstory.
The problem is, two weeks ago she invited me to a movie, finally she could see me, but then, I told her I couldn't go because I had a fever, which was a gross exaggeration. I make it a point to never lie to women I'm involved with, and I still have NO FUCKING IDEA why I lied or why I didn't want to see her when I'd been waiting to see her again for weeks. I was going to confess to this the next time we talked, but we haven't talked since then! I don't think I have any real feelings for her, either, because I don't miss her. I was going to tell her that, too, but like I said, its been weeks and we haven't had even one conversation, and this is not shit that should be discussed via Txt-ing.
I want to explain myself to her, but I just haven't had a chance, and the longer this goes on the more I hate myself for possibly stringing her along, but I'd hate myself even more if I (essentially) broke up with her in a text message. And I'm not even sure I want to break up with her, but she's only 17, and I cannot justify being with her if I don't love her, and I don't love her, so I'd hate myself for that too, but then I'd also hate myself for not giving it a real chance, because she seems to really like me and I'm not absolutely certain that I wouldn't ever love her. I want to just tell her everything that's in my head and let her decide, hopefully with the end result that we part amicably and she goes of to find someone better for her... but I don't know how to get there. god how did I get myself into this situation? I don't know what to do and its really eating at me and tearing me up inside. I'll hate myself no matter what I do. I'll hate myself just as much if not more if I do nothing.