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Blog Thread III : Look Who's Blogging Now

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KvP:
That's great input Jimmy.

Jimmy the Squid:
I'm just saying that had I known maybe I would have something something I don't know man. It sucks that your cat died and it sucks that Sam's dog died and it sucks that Emaline can't take criticism well and won't fucking drop it and it sucks that I'm home on a Friday night with no sweets and nothing new to watch.

Maybe the mods should just lock this thread and we can start number IV next month. Fuck.

Ptommydski:

--- Quote from: KvP on 17 Jul 2010, 03:29 ---I'm a little frustrated now, even without all the recent drama in here. Hearing about Sam's loss brought me back a few weeks to when my cat died and there were exactly 3 people here who seemed to notice how shit I felt - BrittanyMarie, Squawk and Jeans. I don't really know two of those people, but I like all of them a lot. And I like a lot of you guys too! I think it might be petty and I'm frustrated by the way I feel now, but it hurts me a lot to see such an outpouring of support here now and there was all of three people who were there for me even a scant bit when I was suffering one of the greater losses in my life. In fact in the sum total of my meat and net life it was those three people and my therapist who had any sort of presence - nobody was calling back, nobody was reassuring me of anything. I lost my best friend of 19 of my 23 years and it was like being dropped somewhere where no one spoke my language. It's made me a good deal more cynical than I was before. I don't know, maybe I wasn't saying the right things. Maybe my cat should've been a dog. Maybe June was just not working out for anyone.

So yeah, reading the last few pages has brought all that back. It's been too long now so just in case anyone was thinking of it, it's been a month and I'd rather you not act like it happened yesterday. These things just sort of happen. Just, I don't know, try to be more considerate of each other in the future? I know a whole lot of you see this thread as a rubbish bin for mindless navel-gazing at best and an arena for sniping at one another at worst but honestly a lot of times it shouldn't even really matter what you think of one another. Some people put a lot of stock in these internet connections. It'd be nice if that was warranted more often than not.

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John, I'm sincerely sorry about your cat. This is literally the first I heard of it because frankly at the best of times I read about 20% of the forums and almost never the Blog Thread. When I do, I tend to skim read. June was incredibly hectic for me and during the three weeks I was in the US, I didn't so much as glance at the forums. Furthermore, I've also recently lost three people I was pretty close to, not to mention experiencing the horrible demise of one of my oldest and most cherished friendships. It's been a very busy, at times very hard few weeks. I usually rely on Meebo or Facebook to tell me what is happening to my international friends but I wasn't on the former and the News Wall of the latter is a lottery. Given that this is the very first I have heard of your loss, I feel like my sympathy should be taken as genuine. If I lost my cat, I'd be distraught. I am sorry.

However, at the same time it's unfair to assume that other people on the forum didn't care. I'm sure like me, they just had other things going on in their lives and regrettably didn't notice your misfortune. I also feel like your comments above were slightly disrespectful to Sam, since he has legitimately no control of these variables either. There's also the uncomfortable possibility (slim as it might be) that a certain percentage of the people who post on here either don't know or don't like you, thus didn't feel the need to extend sympathy. While I'm sure that isn't true, you have to assume on a public message board not everybody knows you as well as you might imagine. In fact I'd go as far as saying a majority of people who post here don't like me at all, so I'm not going to begrudge them not leaping into action every time I make a post. Likewise, the people here can't realistically be blamed for your situation in real life.

I am sorry about your cat though. Take care.

HiFranc:
KvP, we are here for you.

Zingoleb:

--- Quote from: Jeans on 17 Jul 2010, 01:45 --- I think you'll find that I give people the benefit of the doubt beyond even reasonable standards

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It's true! He even defended me!


Anyways - Jon. I think I've said something like this before, but I'd like to say it again. I seem to remember something about your cat dying, but I find it incredibly awkward 9 times out of ten to try and offer my condolences on these forums because half the people I talk to seem to either not know me and thus don't care, or not like me, and thus don't care, and this makes it hard! I actually don't dislike anyone on these forums, actually, even people who would love to see me gone, so I still want to offer sympathy...but feel like it would be taken wrong, so I usually just don't say anything at all.

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