Yup, another n00b.
...I like Dora. As a character. But I would not want her as an RL friend (were such a thing possible). Reason being: I would figure out pretty quickly that being Dora's "friend" would mean being snarked at for something I didn't deserve, or mocked for something I held dear, and I would purposely distance myself from her as much as possible upon figuring that out, because "friends" like that, I do not need. I would find her amusing, I would find her entertaining... I might even enjoy her company, but I would never risk trusting her with any important or vital knowledge about myself. However, I enjoy her very much as a character - and would in RL - and don't consider her to be a 'bitch', as some have said or implied; merely a strong woman, albeit with personality traits that I would not seek out or tolerate in an actual friendship.
That having been said...
My personal computer is not merely a tool I use to get online or write letters with. It is the repository of my life, my thoughts, my hopes and dreams. It holds my tax returns, my resume, the logs of online roleplay sessions both ridiculously fannish and totally perverted. It contains my goals, my fantasies (pornographic and non), my emails to relatives people don't know I have, lovers that my closest friends don't know I've had, and suicide letters I've written with no actual intent other than to vent my feelings at the time without resorting to that final option. My computer's hard drive is, in a very real sense, the inside of my soul. Or as direct an analogue as can be found.
If anyone goes on my computer at any time when I am alive, without my direct express advance permission, and looks at ANYTHING therein, no matter how innocuous... I don't care who they are: friend, lover, family member. They are GONE. Out of my life. Completely, totally, without reprieve. It is not okay, it will never be okay, and there is nothing anyone could do to make it okay no matter WHAT reason they might have had for doing it. Period.
Not that this is a boundary that everyone's going to have, or even most people. But in today's world, it's a more and more common boundary. Poking around on someone's computer is not the same thing as borrowing someone's razor, or even their vibrator; it is (or can be) a horrific violation. For someone to utterly disregard that, without any thought whatsoever, indicates that they're either technologically clueless (in which case they'd better not be messing around with anyone's computer!) or the type of person who just doesn't give a damn about any feelings that aren't theirs.
Sadly, there are a lot of the latter in the world. Yes, including people who don't think of themselves as being 'that sort of person'... but really are.
For me, my computer is my 'hot button', so to speak. But poking around in anyone else's anything without their consent - yes, even if you are their lover, even if you are their spouse, hell, even if you are their PARENT - speaks of a blithe disregard for that person's personhood. They do not have a right to privacy, because they are not considered to be a person worthy of privacy; they are less-than, an un-person.
That's not something anybody should tolerate, from anyone - fictional, or not.
-c.
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Topic: WCDT 15-19 November 2010 (1796-1800) (Read 445525 times)