I'm now banging my head against my invisible wall that i can walk through. If you get that joke, Hi, Freelance Astronauts rock dont they?
Ok in the "More than NOT DORA" thread, which i saw before i even knew of the concept of this one, i broke down Dora's defining character traits. Should i copy/paste or what really? I'll just summarize for now i guess.
She lacks self-confidence to the point where she's so desperate for something really good to happen in her life (apparently owning a successful business doesn't count) that the moment she detects something that could possibly threaten it she goes on the attack. To that end, she actively (if unconsciously) seeks out negativities so she may be able to boost herself by going "well i was right about this one." Pride is one of her major weaknesses, and she has a lot of it. This pride keeps her from being able to accept her part in negative situations, as well as causing her to get pissy with anyone who tries to require more than an apology from her, while she wants the same. She's trivialized her head problems in her own mind to the point where to her, they are nothing compared to other people's, and thus, that notion combined with her pride create a blanket of falsehood that makes her think she's got weaker problems than the others, when in reality hers are worse.
Because her problems stem from her being so desperate that she literally looks for things that can screw stuff up, "chasing shadows" if you will, and because she refuses to look at them as they truly are, she leads herself to be alone by her own choice, because she'd rather be "alone and right, than with someone and wrong."
Basically she doesnt want to understand anyone else, she believes she's superior to others inside her head (even if she doesnt act it, you can see that in her actions and mannerisms to some people), she refuses to acknowledge her own problems to the point where she's tricked herself into believing that they're somehow lesser than others' (which made them now subconscious, and hard to detect unless you spend a lot of time close with her) which made them worse, will not accept blame for anything, wants everything and isnt willing to give the same back, and wants so horribly to be correct about her life that she'll actively if subconsciously choose to doom a relationship of her own will just so she can go "well, i knew it wouldnt work. it never does. once again, they left, and i was right. they always leave."
seriously should i copy/paste my other posts? quote them or something? i mean i really went to town in the other thread. balls.
Also, i did have friends who did worse. and i kicked them out of my life after ripping them apart verbally and making sure they felt like the pieces of crap they were for doing that shit. real friends dont let their friends be complete asshats without saying something, because that just leads to more stupidity. Male or female, i made them feel like crap for thinking it was perfectly fine to fly off the handle like that with no proof, even my own girlfriend. i'd rather be called an asshole that tells the truth straight up than the guy who sits there and lets his friends be morons. And that's Dora's issue. she's doing stupid stuff inside her own head, people are aware of it, but nobody speaks up until the problem comes about. and she's the type that gets pissy when you bring up what she did wrong period. So because of that combination, she further doesnt grow or understand herself, which then causes all this to happen over and over.
like i said in the other thread, she had something good in Marten, his words: "I dont want your apologies" didnt mean "go away we're done" it meant "I dont want you to be apologizing anymore! I want you to not be in a situation where you HAVE to!"