Comic Discussion > QUESTIONABLE CONTENT
WCDT January 3-7, 2011 (1831-1835)
jwhouk:
Not every Domme has to have the heavy touch, though. I believe that the appropriate term is, "there's more than one way to skin a cat."
Rascal:
--- Quote from: jwhouk on 05 Jan 2011, 17:17 ---Not every Domme has to have the heavy touch, though. I believe that the appropriate term is, "there's more than one way to skin a cat."
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Amusingly enough, the friend who introduced me to QC some weeks ago is a lifestyler Domme. :)
But I digress: you're absolutely right, and I hope my friend will chime in here with her own thoughts. Either way, I hope Marten's mom is about to flip things around after getting the 'be nice to Dora' part out of the way. What's the saying? Something like 'sweeten with honey before the sting?'
Carl-E:
--- Quote from: GeoffTheLlama on 05 Jan 2011, 10:17 ---Am I getting the tone right?
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I dunno, it's only registering an 8 on the sarcasmometer. Better turn it up a bit.
--- Quote from: Black Sword on 05 Jan 2011, 10:46 ---<lots of stuff explaining his previous post, but there was one thing in here that cought my eye and really bothered me. And it was...
--- Quote from: Black Sword ---My ex ruined a perfectly good relationship based on similarly flimsy reasoning and insecurities, and it pissed me off just as much back then that she was reassured and coddled by our social circle while I got the boot.
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Here I explain why I feel this support is undeserved. Flimsy reasoning and insecurities do NOT make for adequate excuses. Your trollish (or fanboyish?) response to mine communicates clearly that you consider it sufficient, but do cite however many times Marten became jealous, tested his girlfriend, or otherwise reacted in an extreme manner. Marten was so loyal that he felt awful about the Hanner boob incident, even though it wasn't his fault. Dora felt insecure about Faye. Alright, fine. She felt insecure because Marten previously liked Faye. Ok, fine. ...so what? Marten did not cheat on her, did not do anything with Faye. They went out of their way to make her see nothing was happening or would happen. She let an insecurity define her. Very unhealthy, very inexcusable. If it was such a major issue she did not have the mental strength to overcome (to be honest, I don't think many of our lovable QC crew are very mentally strong, so no slap against Dora), then she should have sought some help long ago.
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Inexcusable? Inexcusable? You've read the comic, right? She'd been struggling to overcome this insecurity from the very beginning of the relationship. You're talking like it was something she could control! Yes, Marten's hurting, and apparantly so are you. But Dora's the one with the illness, and I don't think I'm going too far in characterizig it as such. Marten will recover fine, with the help of his friends (Faye, Hanners), his associates (Tai), and his Mom, who's primary purpose right now is to remind him of who he is, and that life will go on. But Dora needs more. She needs the tough love that Faye demonstrated, and the understanding from the circle of the party she's injured that she's getting from Ms. Reed to know that the world will not hate her for what she's done. In order to get healthy, she needs to know that she's not wrong, she's just not well. She's taken that first step herself, realizing (possibly with Sven's help, we never saw that conversation) why she was doing what she did, and getting out of the cycle. Now she needs to see that, rather than villanizing her, her friends (and the extended circle around her friends) will also realize what was going on.
As JWHouk points out, she's getting exactly what she needs, even if it's not what she wants, and especially if it's not comfortable for her.
--- Quote from: Rascal on 05 Jan 2011, 16:32 ---The adult response would be for him to tell her that even if she's giving up on the relationship, he is not. It would be to tell her that while she desperately needs therapy and must get it, he will be there with her by her side, so they can work through the obstacles and challenges of their relationship together. Marten folds far too easily. He may be loyal to a fault, but he gives in and quits far too easily once rejection rears its ugly head.
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That's what I was hoping would have happened as well. That's what would have happened had I been Marten.
But I'm not. And I think (after seeing how several of my relationships have gone) that it's a good thing.
Akima:
--- Quote from: Carl-E on 05 Jan 2011, 17:59 ---I dunno, it's only registering an 8 on the sarcasmometer.
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Sarcasmometer FTW! I so wish I had one of those. With a dial that reads up to eleven, of course.
Kugai:
--- Quote from: Rascal on 05 Jan 2011, 17:26 ---
--- Quote from: jwhouk on 05 Jan 2011, 17:17 ---Not every Domme has to have the heavy touch, though. I believe that the appropriate term is, "there's more than one way to skin a cat."
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Amusingly enough, the friend who introduced me to QC some weeks ago is a lifestyler Domme. :)
But I digress: you're absolutely right, and I hope my friend will chime in here with her own thoughts. Either way, I hope Marten's mom is about to flip things around after getting the 'be nice to Dora' part out of the way. What's the saying? Something like 'sweeten with honey before the sting?'
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She'll lure Dora back to her place then . . . . . . . . . . :evil:
Little fun/fantasy world/humerous Webcomic she might be interested in http://collar6.com/ :-D
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