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WCDT: 2021-2025 (26-30 Sep 2011)
TinPenguin:
--- Quote from: LoveJaneAusten on 29 Sep 2011, 16:50 ---What's the deal with every character from the Secret Bakery being astonishingly boring.
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It's not their fault. They work in a very boring place. Not everyone gets to keep a sword under the counter and have dinosaur-shaped coffee machines teleporting everywhere. The best they get is giant blender things catching fire occasionally and a bit of townie drama. Just the dull life of a city baker.
stoutfiles:
--- Quote from: Cornan on 29 Sep 2011, 12:29 ---
--- Quote from: stoutfiles on 29 Sep 2011, 05:58 ---In the real world, it is pretty obvious within the first 6 months whether you have a chance or not. ... Girls will rarely say they're not interested, they'll just do what they consider to be nice and avoid the issue. ... (big turnoff, girls like to play "the game"), all he had to do is indirectly check to see if she's interested.
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None of the women I dated in college fit your stereotype. Just thought you should maybe know that not ALL women are manipulative and like to "play the game" or are overtly obvious about their reactions to people they're interested in.
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"The game" is not manipulative, both sides willingly play it. In retrospect it's seen as silly but if my current girlfriend asked me out immediately upon meeting it would be a turnoff. It's human nature to like something more when you've earned it, rather than have it handed to you immediately.
I can shoot a hole in anyone's factual statement for the sake of argument, there aren't many truly absolute things. My example of the game and people playing it covers the overwhelmingly vast majority of people.
wrwight:
So apparently Stoutflies, I was wrong when I said before that [previous statement] was the closest I would ever get to agreeing with you. I happen to agree with you 100% on this one. There's a dance that we all have to go through, and the problem is some of us are clumsy and some of us never quite learned the steps right, but we still have to at least try if we want to get anywhere. There are of course exceptions, and people who reject that notion, but being straight forward or up front with someone is as likely to worsen the situation at least as often, probably more often than being a little bit more subtle. It's a matter of not taking people outside their comfort zones. It's the same reason you wouldn't tell someone you love them on your first date (HIMYM, anyone?), and avoid certain other topics as well. There are of course situations in which it's more socially acceptable to be more forward, but those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Kugai:
Maybe Marten will play Matchmaker here.
Hey, weirder things have happened!
Tova:
I get the feeling that everyone here has a somewhat different notion of what constitutes "playing the game." When Welu said she didn't like to play the game, I'm sure she wasn't saying that she asks someone she has just met out.
Obviously everyone approaches courtship differently. Some like to be straightforward about it, others more circumspect, and others still have fairly exact internal rules that the other party must follow in order to be considered eligible. This is simplifying things somewhat for the sake of discussion, but depending on where you sit on that line, I imagine that you consider people who are most straightforward about their feelings as being too forward, and those who are less straightforward as "playing the game."
So just be careful when trying to claim that everyone "plays the game" to make sure we are all talking about the same thing.
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