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WCDT January 9-13, 2012 (2096-2100)

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Overkillengine:
Lack of communication also causes LOT of unneeded drama. Especially when people jump to conclusions by taking the meaning of a statement out of context.

Sometimes I suspect people of damn near doing it on purpose, which probably does not help my growing misanthropy* as I age. I'd gladly put up with a less interesting life.

*In context it means I am referring to people of all genders, races, creeds, religions, disabilities, and fetishes. You can stop fondling your righteous indignation now.


--- Quote from: ilikefishfood on 13 Jan 2012, 10:48 ---
--- Quote from: Tormuse on 13 Jan 2012, 10:17 ---I have a question for people calling Marten an asshole:

Would he still be an asshole if he had been honest and told Padma, "I don't want to see you because I resent the fact that you waited until the last minute to call me?"

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I think that would have been the best thing for him to have done.  It might have pushed her to have been more honest with him about why she disappeared and then decided to leave early.  Oh well...'tis done!  Forward on~

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Yeah, being upfront and honest when done right is usually the best thing. An added benefit is you don't hand the less ethical people a reason to blame you for being upset that they mistreated you.

Yes, I have had people try that crap on me.

Is it cold in here?:
Perhaps we can make allowances, when second-guessing the characters, for the fact that they have limited relationship experience. Even expanding it to secondary characters, the only long term success I can think of is the Bianchi parents.

Looking at it from Marten's point of view, a plausible interpretation of what Padma was doing is that she was communicating "You're not worth talking to on the phone or returning messages, but I'll use you as a booty call". There's a good chance that isn't what she meant at all, but refusing to be used like that is a perfectly respectable response.

Out of curiosity, what would people have thought if Marten had left a message to Padma saying "I understand what you're telling me, and I won't call again. I enjoyed our time together, and wish you all the best."?

Kugai:
Wow!  Four pages since I last Posted - And talk about analysis.

Heh


Still, I suppose we all have our pinch points 

'Wait! What?!?  Chuckles the Wooden?  What the hell?! CHUCKLES THE WOODEN???!!!!!!  Gaaaah!!!!!'






Heh, leave it to Faye to distill it down to something so basic.

Oenone:
I'm not sure if someone's already mentioned this but:

MOVING SUCKS.

I just moved across the country (Massachusetts to Hawaii) and the last week I was in town, I broke a lot of plans, and basically only saw people if they specifically came over (generally uninvited) to help me pack. Like, I don't think Padme blew Marten off for no reason -- I think when you're trying to move your whole life on fairly short notice (in my case, my husband got restationed, and in hers her g'ma is ill) that sometimes you have to be selfish with your time.

This doesn't mean Marten's totally in the wrong -- I get that his feelings are hurt, and that when you flake there's consequences -- but I'm just really surprised at how many people in the forum are all, "oh she blew him off" when she's moving herself across the country.  

Is it cold in here?:

--- Quote from: Dr. ROFLPWN on 13 Jan 2012, 08:01 ---
That said, it is...pretty insensitive to ask "why do women [play emotional games]?" One might ask in return, "why are men such inconsiderate pricks?"


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If more than one woman does it, then "women" is an appropriate term. On the other hand, saying "women" to mean "women as a class" is a step on the road to stereotyping, because women are a pretty diverse bunch of people.

On another subject, no amount of moderation could make a good forum out of bad people. The forum works because of people who make good posts, which then attract more of the same. All moderators can do is keep toxic ingredients out of the soup.

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