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Redball:

--- Quote from: Barmymoo on 11 Oct 2012, 14:46 ---No, it's not that I want to know their name - I want to know them as a person and find out whether I can trust them with my name. It is a gut feeling thing. My name is key to who I am and I don't want to just give it out to people.

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Interesting. Although women have good reason to withhold name, phone, address, the way you put it evokes a more primitive concern, akin to people who resent having their picture taken. And these lyrics from "The Naming of Cats":

But above and beyond there's still one name left over
And that is the name that you never will guess
The name that no human research can discover
But the cat himself knows, and will never confess

Barmymoo:
Oh it's not in any way connected to anything that would mean women have more reason to conceal their name than men (I've never felt more threatened than men - probably because I know that men are more likely to be attacked by strangers than women are, and I don't feel at risk from anyone I know). It's definitely more primitive.

snalin:
it's 1:30AM, and I'm doing an assignment that's due tomorrow! At two! Yay!

The random thought is that I'm applying Bland's rule a lot, and maybe prof. Bland went to all of the raves and danced with his shirt off, his name is still Bland, so everybody that he introduces himself to must expect him to be boring.

Papersatan:
May, that makes sense to me.  I always thought that name tags were not just a convenience for customers, but a power symbol.  Knowing my name means you have power over me and can force me to engage in a situation on a personal level.  A simple ma'am or 'you there' or 'hey' can't do that.  It is especially apparent when it is one way, but even in situations when both parties wear name tags it increases the power difference.  For instance in a retail situation, even when your store manager wears a name tag, when he calls you by name, even though you know he has no idea who you are, but is just reading your tag, there is something about that the reaffirms your position int he power structure.  It does not work in the reverse, because he knows you know who he is. 

Redball:
I googled on name tags and pecking order and dominance and found observations. I suspect there's research about it as well, but I didn't find it.

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