In general, I'm not really a fan of hairy men aesthetically but I like my boyfriend's body hair just because it's my boyfriend. The first time I saw him shirtless my internal reaction was just, "Oh. Okay." but it didn't lessen my attraction of him at all.
I shave my pits semi-regularly because I don't like the feel of the hair when it gets past a certain length but I'll go out in sleeveless shirts with longer than stubble with little self-conciousness. I get more concious about the smell than the look.
I very rarely shave my legs and I've never shaved past the knee. The only time I'll wear skirts or dresses is formal functions or in summer when I'm lounging at home. Even for formal functions, I'll only wear a skirt/dress if I'm persuaded and usually wear thick tights. Although sometimes I get an urge to have smooth legs because I admit they feel nice.
Social pressures never bugged me, I'm just lazy. Even at about fourteen, my friends were horrified I didn't shave my legs or armpits regularly and I just said, "But I don't care enough to do it every other week."
The only hair that bugs me is under my chin I get thick-ish fluff. I used to bleach it or Nair it but it irritated the skin like hell. Now I tweeze the longest/darkest ones and use nail scissors to trim the rest down. There's one hair in particular right on the edge of my chin that grows thicker than my head hair and it bugs the hell out of me.