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There oughta be a law!
Lines:
I didn't feel excluded, the people I talked to were very nice and welcoming. (click to show/hide)
However, I feel like I straight up shouldn't be doing this project the way my teachers are having us do it. I mentioned I was having a friend take me to these things and my professors made some comment about how I shouldn't need a friend to invite me in. Without her, I feel like I am basically acting like some douche who basically goes to places uninvited so I can do a project. I feel like I'm walking into somebody's house just because their front door was unlocked. This project is telling me I should go where I please when I feel the opposite.
Being in places where I feel like I don't belong or fit in makes me anxious. I guess this is a form of social anxiety and I've been dealing with it for pretty much my entire life. So not only do I have to go out of my comfort zone in terms of dealing with anxiety, I have to do it in a way that I feel conflicted about.
Also, this is a class about diversity. If this could have been about past experiences, I would have done it about when I did drag. I learned SO much about the GLBTQ community and it changed my perspective on a lot of things. But it was an experience I did on my own terms, not because I was forced to for some project.
Carl-E:
There's a song called Christmas in the Trenches which I've linked in the past, about the Christmas truce in 1914. The two opposing sides put down their guns, came out and played soccer, sang carols, shared a few drinks, and then... went back to fighting.
The last line is "...and on each end of the rifle, we're the same". The point of exercises like that is exactly what both linds and method experienced, that the people in these groups are just people, like anyone else - something the cultural divisions you "violated" would normally not let you observe.
I don't have a problem with colleges teaching "life lessons" like this, but I think it can go terribly wrong, and some people may not learn the intended lesson no matter where they go! Pushing boundaries is fine, until they start pushing back.
Jace:
--- Quote from: Linds on 13 Nov 2012, 20:58 ---Being in places where I feel like I don't belong or fit in makes me anxious.
--- End quote ---
Wait, do people actually not have this sort of anxiety? Because I know that when I go to a place where I feel that I don't fit in (most recently it was going to the bar down the street, it just didn't feel right to be in a bar having a shot) I just feel weird and want to leave and go back to my room where everything is familiar.
idontunderstand:
I don't really get anxious, I'm a bit too familiar with the feeling of not fitting in I guess. I just sort of accept that I'm much too different from everyone else to just fit in right away.
VonKleist:
I guess the intensity varies from person to person.
I used to get the shakes when I was feeling out of place or uncomfortable in a situation. Some kind of nervous reaction. Sometimes at university IŽd nearly spill the coffee I was holding because it was so bad.
Also this happened a lot when falling in love.
But that subsided over the years. Now I just feel the normal slightly panicky anxiety :roll:
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