On the topic of offensive terms, Cali is not okay with most people actually from California, any more than Frisco is okay for San Francisco. This may seem odd, since it's largely people from California who use it, but as I said on a different topic before, what's offensive and not offensive is very malleable and sometimes it's not worth the worry. I'm not one to care, but The More You Know.
On the topic of California, it's interesting the power some believe it has over Marten's mindset. This state is way more fractured than pop culture would have you believe. It's not the state, it's San Francisco specifically- not even Hollywood is as likely to be accepting.
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QCverse seems to be a lot more accepting than our verse, though of course that could be due to the limited perspective the characters we follow show us.
How does an Australian end up a DAR? I think they're lineage based.
And for a case of people being Not So Different, I may be a straight white male, with all the powers, privileges, and responsibilities that grants, but I greatly relate to part of your personal viewpoint. I don't mind what other people do unless it's destructive to others or themselves, and I'm okay around and accept people of very different lifestyles, but boy am I uninclined to try any of it myself, and my business is my own. It may be vanilla business, but it's mine and stay out. Whenever it rolls around, it's monogamy for me. Besides, it would be kind of stupid in a time investment sense to reject a friend just because she turns out to be a lesbian furry- then who else would I enjoy steampunk bands with?