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Akima:
--- Quote from: Barmymoo on 03 Jun 2014, 15:33 ---Also, from that article - it says that touching the customer will increase your tip. Hell no. If a waiter touched me, I would not tip anything at all. Don't put your hands on me, random stranger.
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Eeew! Yes. No touch me! I can't wait for robot waiters quite frankly. I think I'd prefer that to a jetpack. I especially don't like those waiters who insist on introducing themselves to me: "Hi, I'm <insert first name here>, and I'll be serving you tonight." Ugh! So phoney. I do not disdain them, or their service, but random waiters are not my friends. No, I don't especially like using my personal name at work either, but it is so much the custom in Australia that one cannot object without coming off as a weirdo.
Method of Madness:
Wait, why do you object to someone telling you their name? I'm pretty sure it wasn't your intention, but your post really comes off as "why is the help telling me its name?" in the worst possible way :|
And...how would you work with someone and not tell them your name?
Akima:
--- Quote from: Method of Madness on 03 Jun 2014, 19:21 ---Wait, why do you object to someone telling you their name? I'm pretty sure it wasn't your intention, but your post really comes off as "why is the help telling me its name?" in the worst possible way :|
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Yes, I suppose it does :-(. I carry reactions based on my ancestral culture, which is much more formal and hierarchical than you are probably used to. Within the family, we refer to each other by our titles, not our names. I call my father "Father" (as is common in the West too, of course, although it might be "Dad"), but he calls me "Elder Daughter". Ones personal name is for close friends, so when a random stranger in a professional setting seems to want to assume the status of a friend, it feels intrusive, fake and manipulative. It's not a "the help" status thing, I think, because it grates in the same way when superiors in the workplace insist on using my personal name, and expect me to do the same to them. The boss is not my friend either.
--- Quote ---And...how would you work with someone and not tell them your name?
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I said my personal name. That is, as opposed to my surname. What you would probably call your first name or Christian name. Yes, of course I have adopted the Western name order for public purposes, living in Australia, but it still feels wrong, and deep inside my "first name" is still my surname. Because, you know, the family is more important than the individual. ;)
Pilchard123:
--- Quote from: Barmymoo on 03 Jun 2014, 14:56 ---I had my hair cut today and didn't leave a tip. I felt a bit guilty, but the cut cost £22. I had been led to believe I would get a 30% discount by booking in advance for an appointment on a Tuesday, and didn't, so I'm choosing to see it as a 30% tip.
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You were even more generous than you were expecting to be: it actually works out as a ~43% tip.
pwhodges:
--- Quote from: Akima on 03 Jun 2014, 20:31 ---Within the family, we refer to each other by our titles, not our names. I call my father "Father" (as is common in the West too, of course, although it might be "Dad"), but he calls me "Elder Daughter".
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That's not unknown in former generations in England, too. My father was a bit like that, though not so formally. I don't recall him ever addressing me by name! This was probably actually a combination of embarrassment and fear of us children on his part. My parents' pet names for each other were "Horse" and "Mare" (I won't explain here), and these were also used by family friends - and so for most of my childhood I was called "Foal minor" (my siblings being "Foal major" and "Filly").
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