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Re: Whatever, Let's Have A Goddamn Blog Thread, But Try And Keep It Reasonable, pt B
Jace:
--- Quote from: Jeans on 10 Dec 2008, 11:11 ---No, she's saying there's no need for you to get all fired up, even if your mother does.
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This. The best way to make someone realize they are being ridiculous and stupid in an argument is to not let it escalate to the level that you are cursing and making a fuss. Take a step back and say "hey, maybe you should have gotten everything together before you sat on the computer." Don't be sarcastic, just be level headed. When she yells at you and tells you what to do, be very calm and say "Well, its my life, and while you have your opinions, that doesn't fit with who I want to be"
Or something like that. Ever since I stopped getting irrationally angry at my parents getting mad at me, we have had a lot better relationship. It's become more of a "Jace, what the hell?" and I say "I know, but listen, this is why I did this (point a, b, c)" AND THEN IT ALL WORKS OUT BECAUSE WE ALL ACT LIKE FUCKING ADULTS.
De_El:
--- Quote from: StaedlerMars on 10 Dec 2008, 10:28 ---I'm in Northampton, MA.
What do I do now?
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Buy music from Turn It Up! It is a really cool local record store there.
tania:
yeah honestly, the best way you can make someone feel ridiculous and sack up (in a good way) is by not sinking to their level. i got pretty lucky in that i have an amazing group of friends who are all really intelligent, mature, amazing people and anytime i find myself getting really angry or frustrated with them or around them they'll listen, and wait until i'm done, and then calmly respond with "hey tania, i completely understand, but you don't need to yell" or something along those lines and it is pretty much the perfect way to de-escalate the whole thing because it makes me realize how ridiculous i'm being. if they responded by thinking "what a bitch! i'm going to yell back even louder!" i doubt that would make any difference because when you get angry the whole point is that you're not thinking rationally, you're just being insane and trying to hurt the other person as much as possible.
Patrick:
--- Quote from: 0bsessions on 10 Dec 2008, 11:08 ---Next year? Haven't you only been dating her like three months?
Hey, Patrick, my personal advice to you:
(yellow light)
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You know the nice thing about plans? They can be changed. My personal advice to you: get your nose the fuck out of my relationships.
Guys, this is a blog thread. Do you know what blogs are for? They're for venting frustration where nobody really has to give a shit what's said. You get your stupidity and anger and frustration and sadness out, you maintain civility toward any of the human causes of any of the above feelings, and you get on with your life. I don't need anybody telling me how immature I'm being. I know exactly how immature I'm being. This is why people throw away their journals after a year or so, they go back and they realize "God damn I was being a (negative adjective) fuckskull that day, god, how embarrassing". They can then make a mental note to work on that undesirable personality trait.
I can work on this shit on my own time. I don't need advice. If I feel like I do, I will damned well ask for it. And yeah, I realize you're probably going to think I'm a stubborn little prick for it. I am aware of that and do not care, I never asked for advice anyway. I just wanted to get some simple fucking frustration out of my system. Making a discussion out of shitty things that have happened during my day is just going to piss me off more, it's not going to turn me to your method of doing things. My innate personality flaws are practically glowing bright red in the back of my mind, and my short temper (inherited from both of my parents) is the shiniest. I do what I can to fix this shit. In the mean time, I've got to get my frustration out somewhere, and since guitar strings get expensive if you strum them to death quickly enough, writing about it is a much better and often more effective alternative.
What none of you realize is that I've gone back and apologized to my mom for being a dickhead this morning. What none of you realize is that I have made that kind of thing a habit within the last year. I have a short temper but I also have a conscience. I believe in at very least attempting to regain not just the respect of the people I've fucked things up with, but also my own self-respect in knowing that you know what, I at least had the balls to admit I did something stupid.
Thanks for your concern, all of you, but seriously, keep the grey-in-the-beard bullshit down with me.
redglasscurls:
You're still being kinda prick-y :( I thought you were super nice when we met! I hope you are still that nice!
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