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[Cicero]

I bet the weather in Fargo sucks right now.    Let me check.   Yep.  -6.   Stay warm.   Hot cocoa and some baking maybe!?    Wow, yeah not a good day to go out to the bars.

[Liz]

I am going to make cookies and maybe go to a jazz show a few blocks from my apartment.

Sounds like a good birthday to me!

[Alex C]

I didn't drink my 21st either. Happy birthday.

[0bsessions]

Cicero, would you consider changing the avatar? It's insanely distracting and far from easy on the eyes.

[Cicero]

Cicero, would you consider changing the avatar? It's insanely distracting and far from easy on the eyes.

Would I consider changing it?   Yes.   Will I?   I have no idea.   What should I change it to mang?

[Liz]

Something that won't give unsuspecting passerby seizures.

[0bsessions]

Your choice, just...something slightly less likely to strain the eyes.

[Cicero]

Liz, are you talking about that place that has Jazz shows on Broadway?   I went there like a week before the semester ended.   It was great.   I hope you have fun.   Oh, and I'm lookin' for a new avy right now.   I always loved this one though.   White Pony reference fo sho.

[Liz]

Erm, I am talking about Teaberry. Some of my friends are doing a little jazz show there tonight.

[Cicero]

Teaberry is a cool establishment.   I like their decor.   That sounds like fun.    Hit up the VFW before you go.

[Jace]

Hey, Cicero, wanna not be a fucking prick and go ahead and change your avatar?
Edit: I'm gonna go ahead and not reply to people when I'm like this.

Blog Thread:
I have been in an increasingly foul mood since just after Christmas. Its a minor thing, floating in the back of my head constantly. I am feeling more confrontational and very blunt. But I'm sure you figured that out already

[Edith]

Taylor's is pretty painful for me, too. But I do hope Cicero finds something soon!   

[redglasscurls]

I don't think people have so much of a problem with the avatar, moreso with the general attitude of being a real dick this Chris guy likes to show.

[Cicero]

I'm actually a really nice guy.   I just sent a long PM off to Jeans about things and actually apologized for my rude behavior in some sort of Gabbly chat you guys have set up the other day.   Now, I dunno.    I don't see why we're making me the issue.   (And some people wonder why I might get defensive and fire back sometimes?)    Yeah, I'm lookin' to change my avatar -- but guys, honestly -- mountains out of a molehill.   Having issues with my posts and how I may have treated others is perfectly understandable, but getting after me for having extra spaces in my posts and havin' an animated GIF as my personal display picture is just kind of. . . well crazy.   

To appeal to the masses, and to show some QC Forums solidarity, I'll change it.   

To get back on topic for this thread, I'm makin' lunch for my grandpa right now.   He wanted hot dogs and pear slices.   What a combo.

[Emaline]

This morning I work up to my roommate calling me to open the basement door for the plumbers.

When they came inside, they brought a jackhammer with them.

I took my comforter and a pillow and made a new bed for myself on the sofa upstairs. Upon waking up, I looked out the window, at my front yard.

Not only did they tear up my basement floor with a jack hammer, but they have torn up my front yard with a big bulldozer.

And they turned off my water! I want to potty and brush my teeth!

[allison]

Oh man bloog thrud, I was so sick yesterday, and I was up all night. I couldn't even keep water down, so the Gravol I was taking was kind of useless. I finally fell asleep, but got up at 8 with the intention of going to class. I showered and got dressed and then fainted in my front hall! My stepdad found me and put me back to bed and I slept til 2pm.

I feel better now but I haven't yet left my bed.

[Christophe]

What? He was the Jonah? The PRF's own?

Now I feel horrible I didn't field a serious question in the Ask Jonah thread, but then again I could just go to the other board and do so anyway.

[Aimless]

Dear blog thread,

I have begun this semester's most important project.

Today, I tackled my room: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TylAJ4jWWDU

It feels like a good and promising start!

[0bsessions]

For the record, I don'[t think anything huge was made of the avatar. I made a slight and, what I would call, reasonable remark and Jace was a bit of a bitch. Other than that, I'd say it was pretty reasonable.

To Cicero,

I'll be honest with you, you started off pretty much as an unmitigated tit. You've got to expect this kind of treatment from some people for a while. You've shown clear and marked improvement, but your first couple dozen posts or so weren't "defensive," they were full on antagonistic and when you come into a place guns blazing like that, you're going to catch shit for a while. If it's worth it to you to stick around and continue behaving, people will mellow to you after a few weeks. I hate to make an example of someone, but midnight umbreon has admitted he started off...dubiously here but people have since mellowed to him since he took it down a few notches and gave it time.

Basically, society dictates you've got to expect people to be general dicks to you when the first day and a half of your activity somewhere is riling up the local populace. You seem to have cleaned up your act, but it's going to take more than a week of constant posting to make people forget that you started off as a monumental jerk.

[valley_parade]

Man, where've you been recently, Aimy?

[Dazed]

Hey there Blog Thread,

So I have a very good lady friend, who I have a rather serious crush on. She is aware of this, but she has a boyfriend who she's apparently very happy with. We're still good friends, and very cool with hanging out around each other. It still sucks though, I just get really depressed after I see her. I really dig her as a friend, but it's sort of painful having to deal with a perpetual sense of rejection. Blugh, I really don't think I'm explaining this well, and just sort of rambling. Anyway, I was hanging out at her place last night, and when I was about to leave I found that there was a sheet of black ice covering, quite literally, everything. So I was kind of trapped in Somerville, wound up crashing at her place, slept like shit, feel like shit now, and really just wish things were different for once.

~James

Also, oh my, I've been sigquoted. What an honor, thank you internet.

[0bsessions]

Don't start a relationship with a friend before the age you imagine yourself potentially settling down at. It may seem like a simple matter of "I adore this person as a friend, obviously it'd be a great relationship," but it is about the most volatile thing one can get involved in. That feeling of depression and slight resentment you might have (Not towards anyone in particular, just the "wish things were different" part) is only going to get worse if you ever date her and things don't work out. It's something good enough friends can get over, eventually, but it's just so very ill advised.

My honest to god advice to you is to just start dating around. It sounds shallow, but it's the best way to take your mind off of her. Mind you, don't just start fucking people, that'll make it worse (Nothing sucks worse than the feeling of utter self contempt you get thinking about someone while someone else is sleeping next to you).  If you find someone cool, you'll almost undoubtedly spend less time with your friend, but the awkwardness will also disappear.

[Emaline]

Man, Dazed, I know what you mean. I was dating two guys during the same time(by dating I mean, as casually as you could use the word. We went on dates, we hung out, we made out. They all knew about each other, and everybody was fine with it, we were all doing the same thing.), and I kind of developed feelings for both of them. I told each of them, and was rejected by both. One wasn't ready for a relationship, and the other didn't feel the same way about me. I was fine with it, I mean, given the circumstances, it was completely understandable, and I had no reason to really be upset. It was hard for awhile, but I got used to it.

One of the guys sort of faded away, and we don't talk so much anymore. The other guy  is one of my best friends. He is like a big brother to me now. He recently started dating(seriously) this lady, and I wish him the best. Seriously, dude is a cool guy.

But yeah, I will second the advice and say date around. Don't sleep around, but go out on dates with people.


Also, Blarg thread,

They turned the water back on! I peed and brushed me teeth! I feel cleaner!

[Dazed]

Done the dating around thing a little bit, I don't know why, but it just doesn't work for me. I've had relationships with friends that have worked out fine, even once they ended. The whole casual dating scene just has no attraction to me. I'm stupid that way.

[0bsessions]

The point of casual dating in this instance is to try and find something that sticks.

[benji]

I've usually dated people who were friends first, at some level, and it's worked out well for me. I've only had a few relationships but they've all been serious and mostly fairly healthy.

I will admit I'm not on great terms with one or two of the people I've dated, but that had more to do with how the relationship ended then with how it began. And some of them I am still on good terms with.

[Sixleaf]

This is my first post in the thread of blogs.  I re-discovered these forums the other day.

I have tried this "dating around" thing and I am not so much enjoying it.  It is like a job, where you have to deal with people and make a good impression and pretend like you're having a good time when you're not and that you're not having too good of a time when you are.

But it is better than the alternative of arranged marriages.  I'm not sure I'd go for the sort of person my parents would be likely to pick out.

[Dazed]

I agree with a lot of that ^

also,

The point of casual dating in this instance is to try and find something that sticks.

I know. What I'm saying is that nothing that started from casual dating has ever stuck for me.

[Caleb]

Dating- I have the unfortunate habit of getting the attention of females that are already in relationships with my friends.  I was told by a female friend once that it was because I probably act more relaxed and myself around girls who I perceived as not being on the market.  Even thought I did not pursue any of these girls (since mostly I was oblivious they were attracted to me) I suppose I did cause some breakups and resentment from some of my friends.

So yeah.  I would probably not want to waste a good friendship for a date or to get laid.  I suppose if you are really into someone who is your friend than chemistry will eventually win out, but to rush it because you "think" it might work out is a waste.


Blog-

Well work at the library has been a bit stressful as of late.  Not too bad though.

Honestly though the drunks in this area are very nice.

I was called downstairs because a man had fell down.  After I got there and asked if he was alright he told me to call the police because he was drunk.  Due to his advanced state I might have done it anyways.

So I called the police and followed him to the front door.  The policeman who showed up seemed to know the guy.

The intoxicated man said that I "was a good guy" and left with the cop.

All in all it was a very polite case of public drunkenness.

Random -

What is it with young rural white dudes acting all urban in their speech and attitude?  I am 27, I thought we peaked on this during the late 80s early 90s.  This makes little sense to me.  I could understand it when I lived in semi-urban areas.  But my current town is a glorified suburban area/college town.  I dunno.  It seemed very obvious to me when all the college kids left for winter break that many younger kids (and older "townies" nearer to my age) act like this for some reason.

[0bsessions]

I have tried this "dating around" thing and I am not so much enjoying it.  It is like a job, where you have to deal with people and make a good impression and pretend like you're having a good time when you're not and that you're not having too good of a time when you are.

I get the impression that you're doing it way wrong. Why in the hell would you pretend to enjoy yourself when you're not and pretend you're not enjoying yourself when you are? That just sounds entirely counter productive to me.

[benji]

My guess is trying not to offend anyone on the one hand, and trying not to come on too strong on the other.

[Caleb]

I don't think the "coming on too strong" thing is real.

I have seen too many people proceed to date people whom I thought were "coming on too strong" on a first encounter.

[BrittanyMarie]

It was my fourth day of work today at the bank (I'm in training) and I actually kind of enjoyed it! We did a scavenger hunt and learned some things and a couple people made really good jokes. Also I answered real live calls yesterday and it wasn't that bad at all. One nice older lady told me I was "absolutely wonderful" so I guess I at least did something right!

Also I should now be everyone's favorite North Dakotian because Liz is Minnesotan, so she already starts out ahead.

[benji]

I don't think the "coming on too strong" thing is real.

I have seen too many people proceed to date people whom I thought were "coming on too strong" on a first encounter.

There probably is a limit. Proposing marriage on the first date seems like a mistake. But yeah, point taken. I just imagine that sixleaf's reason for pretending not to have too good a time has something to do with concerns over coming on too strong.

[Liz]

So for my birthday I bought myself the most ridiculous keyboard ever for $30 at a thrift store. I am in love with it. I will soon take pictures of all the songs it has on there because some of them are real gems.

It makes me giggle.

[jhocking]

bloody hell, my chest is still sore. A little while ago I think I strained a tendon right in the middle of my chest, where my pecs attach to my ribs. For the last couple weeks, when I go swimming I have to swim backstroke the entire time, because it hurts to swim crawl.

Could be worse, you could have one of the teacher's that I once had, he didn't actually tell you what to do but he expected you to still find out and do it, it was like a stupid form of the Riddler.

It all depends on the context. There are some areas where it's irresponsible for the teacher not to tell you what to do, but there are some areas where going to the effort of figuring things out for yourself will teach you much more than simply being spoon-fed the information.

I had a prof like that once. I remember someone sitting next to me asking "am I doing this problem right?" He looked at it, said "no," and then walked away.

And that would be a fine example of when it makes for bad instruction. I still wouldn't step through exactly how to solve the problem, but I would at least point him in the right direction.

[Emaline]

RE: Casual dating & coming on too strong

It is very very possible to come on to strong. Take my last date, that I posted about here. The dude basically insisted that we go back to his house, and once there almost demanded that I drink. I've had other people tell me that I am so much cooler than their last girlfriend on our very very first date. Telling me that I am amazing and awesome every five seconds, especially if we have only been hanging out for an hour, is not complimentary. It is creepy. I don't want to hear about how I will make an awesome mother for your kids on our first fucking date. That is coming on way to strong.

[Alex C]

I'm really thankful for guys who come on way too strong, since I'm basically incapable of lavishing praise on people without feeling really awkward about it. I'm not much of a date, but there's just enough doofuses out there hurling themselves at women that my insecurities are sometimes mistaken for tactful restraint. Go me.

[Jace]

I usually tell girls how cool they are at certain intervals, usually after things come up in conversation. Like "oh, you like playing video games that aren't totally retarded? You're really cool." "Oh, you like to build lego stuff? You're super cool."

Croc Head,
I haven't been to Kung Fu or seen my roommate in like two days. I'm sort of avoiding him because I keep missing class.

[squawk]

My friend asked me, "dude, how do you know so many random people?  i was just on your facebook music page and a lot of the fans are these people from different states/countries whom i don't know?" Oh, Internet Life! You're so fun.

I have consumed maybe five bags of roasted plantains from Trader Joe's in the last four days.

[KvP]

Two things happened today.

One, I learned more about my new job. My last job was a cakewalk, but this new job is going to be actual IT work. There are three teams, each with specific duties, to choose from. There's the server team, which handles all the campus network stuff. There's the security team, which handles malicious software protection and detection as well as Windows updates for all computers. And then there's the client team, which covers all the hardware and software maintenance and installation for all the computers. Unfortunately the client team is full (it's the team I would most naturally fit into). So by next Monday I'll have to choose whether to be on security or server duties. Server is the more difficult and technical of the two but is the one that would be most useful down the road. I'm going to get in touch with some friends in the IT biz and see what they think.

Two, I had a dream last night regarding my best friend. I dreamt that I saw her, and I told her my situation of the last few weeks, and it alleviated a lot of the ache of recent times. After work training today I decided against my feelings at the time to visit my favorite coffee shop. On the way out, I ran into my best friend. As some of you may recall, I got an email from another friend telling me my best friend's citizenship was in question, and that it had scuttled their Australia trip. That email also made it clear told me that under no circumstances was I to try and contact my best friend until sometime into next month. Turns out her citizenship isn't really in much trouble at all, thankfully. However, I don't think I was supposed to be told the specifics of the situation vis a vis her citizenship status. More troubling was the fact that she had not in fact insisted on being cut off from me until next month. In fact we've made plans for this weekend.

So it looks like the friend who sent the email was actively trying to keep me separated from my best friend, and lied about the circumstances surrounding the Oz trip cancellation to that effect. Why this was the case, I have no idea. I don't know why she'd write these things when they weren't true. She knows how much I care for my best friend and the good that she does my psyche. My best friend has insisted that I not discuss this with the offending friend, and that no one is in trouble, and that I have done nothing wrong (she knows how I think, and she knows I'd probably end up agonizing over something had she not taken this precaution) She is going to handle it herself. I don't know what to think about all this. I'm just confused.

So... developments.

[Josefbugman]

Wow, your life is much more interesting than mine at the moment.

By the way, if I could make one minor suggestion, this may be paranoia talking but try and find out what is that's going on. There may be more to this than simply two friends falling out over specifics of a deportation agreement.

[Ladybug]

Fuck, I'm so tired and cold and exhausted and feverish that I can barely stay awake, but it's only 13:00, and I cannot go to sleep for another 4 or 5 hours without ruining any semblance of a normal sleep pattern. But I'm back in Trondheim and in my dorm room, which is nice and quiet, so that's good. Except now I have to actually go outside, where it's icy and wet and cold, if I want food. Food sounds overrated at the moment.

Crying babies on overnight trains suck. I like babies, I really do, but if I had a baby and had to take a train for 10 hours, I would pay extra for a sleeping compartment. Better for all the other passengers who might want to sleep at night and better for the parents, because the sleeping compartments are less noisy and more private, which I would assume was better for the baby.

[allison]

I am still sick. I have a midterm today, and I am paranoid that my professor will not accept my doctor's note excusing me from taking the test. I am so scared I am going to fail this course, now.

[mishy]

dear blog thread.

yesterday i found out that the one time (many years ago with a friend in theatre and some of the cast and crew she worked with) i was balsy enough to go skinny dipping (in a lake that didn't get deeper than 2 feet for like 200 feet from shore - bad location) that among the people who saw me naked was one of the actors from battlestar galactica. i'm not sure if i've seen him naked or if he was one of the pussies who wouldn't take it all off. but he's definitely seen me naked. although he probably doesn't remember me either.

this makes me far more interested in catching up on all the BSG that i haven't seen yet. (not that i needed another reason.)
and i'm not really sure why, but this makes me feel very special.

cheers,
-mish

[Sixleaf]

Yeah, I meant I don't want to offend someone (particularly if they are buying me food and/or entertainment) or come on too strong.

I'm seeing my ex tonight and every time we are together it takes a lot of strength for me to not suggest discussing getting back together.  I had very good reasons for ending the relationship.  I just miss the good parts.

[jhocking]

I just realized I can't find either my passport or social security card fuuuuuuuuck

[J.Hocking]

Who are you again?

[jhocking]

holy shit while looking through old documents I realized just how abruptly I changed during highschool:

me at 15


me at 19


I mean damn, I've posted both pictures on the forum before but I never quite thought about the suddenness of the change. Those pictures don't even look like the same person.

Who are you again?

fuuuuuck

[BlahBlah]

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Joe,