To be serious for a moment...
I don't, think anyone has suggested "praising Marten to the skies" because he happens to be 'in love with a trans woman'.
But, does that mean he should perhaps be at least lauded for doing so?
In a perfect world.. of course not...
But here... on this planet? Well... socially... internally... and in one's own mind... yes.
NOT because trans people are anything other than people, but because if not for people like Marten, then trans folk would still be sidelined and viewed as "other" by the VAST majority of the populace. This is not a belittlement of trans-folk, it most certainly is not trans-phobia, it is a simple reflection of the FACT that at this point in time trans-folk are still viewed as ... 'unusual'... by those whom society at the moment deems as 'normal'.
And the sad fact is, that such behaviour at this point in our evolution can certainly be viewed as *brave*.
NOT because he is dating someone who was born with the wrong genitalia for themselves, but purely because of the number of outspoken bigoted cretins out there, who would take GREAT delight in trying to tear apart Marten's "manhood" or questioning his sexual identity, or even physically assault him because of it.
IS that brave? Actually, yeah... it is in my book.
All of which can, sadly, lead to the end of said relationships - either because "Marten" can't take the constant bullying about it... or "Claire" can't stand to see them being hurt 'because of me!'
I gotta say, I get a bit WTF when these sort of debates arise. The worse one I think was the whole safety pin fiasco when people were actively attacking people with the pin on show on social media as *not doing enough*... failing to notice (or even concede) that doing SOMETHING is better than doing nothing, that a show of support lets the people affected know they are NOT as isolated as they may think.
Slightly related to this... I just get miffed at the militancy of certain sections who attack all and sundry if they do not walk the same path as those same militants...
Use that same debate for religion and I think we all know where that leads.
In essence... if someone is supporting your cause, don't be a dick and rat on them for not supporting your cause *enough*, because all that will do is turn them away from you. Maybe better aim your anger at those who are actively, openly and joyfully attacking you?
...just a thought.