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WCDT strips 4381-4385 (Oct 26th to Oct 30th 2020)
Farideh:
--- Quote from: BlueFatima on 01 Nov 2020, 19:09 ---Hohoooo.... Minor relationship squabbles. Oh no. If you all believe that is all that happens when you settle down you have been blessed or lack experience.
Even good relationships have fireworks—unless the two people getting together are magically perfectly well adjusted and mature from well-adjusted mature parents, siblings. Oh nooo. Most people are fabulous messes—and crazy childhoods/family dynamics can make dating look like a walk in the park compared to cohabitating or marrying.
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Both, in my case. I've only had one relationship in my life, and it's still on-going. In a year's time I will have been involved with my husband for half my life. So yes, in many ways I am inexperienced.
Tova:
--- Quote from: N.N. Marf on 01 Nov 2020, 19:20 ---Perhaps we have different conceptions of accountability, forgiveness---those mine are opposite the other: self-forgiveness, as I understand it, is the giving-up, the refusal to do better---but neither case is necessarily from considering oneself bad: one might simply acknowledge a challenge as too difficult, or with better possibilities available---for such cases, I defer judgement 'til judgement day: for now---in whatever `now' they be---they're simply on account, awaiting when correction may more effective be.
And I'm not sure how self-love enters it---self-understanding, sure, and acceptance: what I am, how I am,, all my behaviours---but I not need love myself to know I can, how, to do better. I need only examine, adjust myself, behaviour, to better.
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Yes, we clearly do have different conceptions of forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of, as IICIH puts it, the hope for a better past - it's not giving up hope for a better future.
Doing the work to become a better person is self-love. Literally, that is what it is. Nothing more, nothing less.
BlueFatima:
--- Quote from: Farideh on 01 Nov 2020, 19:28 ---
--- Quote from: BlueFatima on 01 Nov 2020, 19:09 ---Hohoooo.... Minor relationship squabbles. Oh no. If you all believe that is all that happens when you settle down you have been blessed or lack experience.
Even good relationships have fireworks—unless the two people getting together are magically perfectly well adjusted and mature from well-adjusted mature parents, siblings. Oh nooo. Most people are fabulous messes—and crazy childhoods/family dynamics can make dating look like a walk in the park compared to cohabitating or marrying.
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Both, in my case. I've only had one relationship in my life, and it's still on-going. In a year's time I will have been involved with my husband for half my life. So yes, in many ways I am inexperienced.
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It sounds like lucky, too—if things have been so chill. I have known too many who did not have things end that way—even in the good relationships.
Farideh:
Chill? Not always. We have had many ups and downs, and fortunately have managed to come out the other end together.
N.N. Marf:
--- Quote from: Tova on 01 Nov 2020, 19:28 ---Doing the work to become a better person is self-love.
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Of all the meanings of---and overused it is, the word---``love,'' an endeavour as dry error correction, scarcely would, if ever, come to mind.
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